How do I respond to my husband?

Ignore that crap and keep your eye on your goal. He's just providing you a soft place to land in case you don't meet your goal... He'll be perfectly happy if you do.

And about "losing curves", since you're a heavy lifter... Squat, Deadlift - You will have a great butt when you reach your goal. He needn't worry. :bigsmile:

QFT. Add glute bridges and hip thrusts into your routine if you haven't already. They are magical.

Let me start by saying that my husband is VERY supportive.

What do I say to him that will keep him from sabotaging my weight loss?

He cannot be VERY supportive and sabotaging all at the same time. Just by reading your post I would think he is very supportive BUT, men, especially husbands, say dumb and insensitive things. Just ask my wife or two grown up daughters or anyone who knows me. Regarding what you say to him, just be honest, tell him what your goal is and tell him how you feel about his statement. If he's as supportive as you said he is, it seems he would be willing to listen. Hope it goes well.

Give him a big fat smooch and tell him "I love you too babe!"

Exactly what did he say that made you think "sabotage?"

It sounds like to me that the man simply gave you a compliment. Let's not go over-analyzing things.

Exactly! I think it's kinda sweet when my husband pouts because my boobs are shrinking. Or when he tells me that he loves every inch of me and wouldn't care if I didn't lose any more weight. I don't read sabotage in this. I read a husband speaking his preference to his wife. No harm in that! Just stop weighing yourself and go by how you feel and fit in your clothes. Or don't tell him how much you weigh. Or just do what you want anyway. Just please don't go on an internet forum and imply that your husband is going to sabotage your weight-loss efforts. He sounds like a great husband!

Just say "sure honey" and do what you want anyway.

Solid advice right there!

Better than someone that give passive aggressive insults. Embrace his love and do what you want! ;-)

I have an idea- don't tell him how much you weigh from now on. Just do your thing - don't open the conversation or you will have to deal with his opinion.

Just say "sure honey" and do what you want anyway.

^This^

Just say "sure honey" and do what you want anyway.

Exactly! If he is truly supportive, then he will watch this process and back you 100% he might just be unsure as to how you will look, but ultimately it is your body! Make it what you want :-)

I thought you reponded very well.

My husband had a similar attitude. "don't lose your booty" 27 lbs and a lot of squats, lunges and bridges later, he had no complaints.

The guy thinks your curves are hot! At 5'3, 135 pounds before my baby, though, I'm sure you'll still have curves at 140. You won't be tiny or hungry looking! Plus, I think he'll get used to it. Its not like he'll think you're gross at a healthy weight...its not like you're aiming for some crazy low number. Its all good!

haha, sounds like my fiance. I told him I lost 2 inches in my breasts, and he playfully pitched a huge fit. He said he is done supporting me and that he is no longer my cheerleader. He said that if my huge butt starts losing inches, he quits lmao. We both know he's joking, but he is a little worried about losing his curvy woman. He's a really big guy, and he doesn't want a tiny little girl for a wife. I told him we'll deal with it when the time comes. I don't mind his input, I value his perceptions and opinions, but just like my latest tattoo and a piercings he hates, he always says "it's your body, and I will always love you"

My husband has also commented to me things like this. I told we would see, that the "goal" I picked was just based off general numbers. Sometimes you feel done before you get there, sometimes you go further. After a fee weeks, he adjusted to the change and stopped talking about how "boney" I looked and commenting on how "curvy" my hips looked. So it really comes down to him adjusting to the new you.