How do I respond to my husband?

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  • rachelrb85
    rachelrb85 Posts: 579 Member
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    Just say "sure honey" and do what you want anyway.

    Solid advice right there!
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
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    Nod, smile, and go about your business. No sense in worrying about something that may not even happen.
  • janeishavingtrouble
    janeishavingtrouble Posts: 10 Member
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    Better than someone that give passive aggressive insults. Embrace his love and do what you want! ;-)
  • janeishavingtrouble
    janeishavingtrouble Posts: 10 Member
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    This is how all good relationships survive. ;-)
  • rebbylicious
    rebbylicious Posts: 621 Member
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    I have an idea- don't tell him how much you weigh from now on. Just do your thing - don't open the conversation or you will have to deal with his opinion. ;)
  • MrsG31
    MrsG31 Posts: 364 Member
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    It sounds like you have already said everything you could on the subject. It he persists, or starts saying stuff like that again tell him you don't like repeating yourself and maybe he should take notes next time? (In the sweetest voice possible of course) :tongue:
  • iRun_Butterfly
    iRun_Butterfly Posts: 483 Member
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    Just say "sure honey" and do what you want anyway.

    ^This^
  • wfrazjr
    wfrazjr Posts: 43 Member
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    Congrates on the previous lose and the trimming that you have planned. I will say to reassure him that the curves that loves seeing you with will be and that you are just fine tuning as you did before. Add squats into the workout and he will LOVE you even more. Tell him that he can walk a little bit behind you and continue to admire you when you are home and dream about you when you guysare at work. :)
  • HarrisonAR
    HarrisonAR Posts: 85 Member
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    Just say "sure honey" and do what you want anyway.

    Exactly! If he is truly supportive, then he will watch this process and back you 100% he might just be unsure as to how you will look, but ultimately it is your body! Make it what you want :-)
  • MrsG31
    MrsG31 Posts: 364 Member
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    I don't think his opinion is sabotage, just his thoughts. I actually think you responded well and it should be the end of it. It's your body and you ultimately need to be happy and healthy within it.

    Yeah, this.^^..she said it better than me!
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
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    sounds like you guys are good at communicating- he's actually supportive but that doesn't mean he still doesn't have a preference.

    My bf says pretty much the same thing- but we joke about the fact he hates the sound of my voice and only tolerates it to be around my butt.

    But he realizes my goals are my goals and that's all there is to it. Said the same thing about my ink- my body my choice.
  • jennaworksout
    jennaworksout Posts: 1,739 Member
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    lose weight and do squats, you'll have a booty
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
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    I thought you reponded very well.

    My husband had a similar attitude. "don't lose your booty" 27 lbs and a lot of squats, lunges and bridges later, he had no complaints.
  • RaspberryKeytoneBoondoggle
    RaspberryKeytoneBoondoggle Posts: 1,349 Member
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    The word sabotage is overused on mfp.

    I am a grown up, independent woman. I am also a person who is easily influenced by others and loves to over-eat.

    However, if my friends and family all went out of their way to try and make me eat more calories each day than I do, or undermined my efforts, ultimately, it would still be my choice what I choose eat and how I choose to move.
  • ColeCake292012
    ColeCake292012 Posts: 247 Member
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    The guy thinks your curves are hot! At 5'3, 135 pounds before my baby, though, I'm sure you'll still have curves at 140. You won't be tiny or hungry looking! Plus, I think he'll get used to it. Its not like he'll think you're gross at a healthy weight...its not like you're aiming for some crazy low number. Its all good!
  • mcibty
    mcibty Posts: 1,252 Member
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    Last time my dad saw me he told me 'enough now, don't lose any more; and I was like, dad, I have maintained my weight for the past 6 months, I haven't been trying to lose any, but thanks. My girlfriend went through a phase of saying the same thing, but stopped complaining when I started looking better!

    Long story short, people will say that, but it's your choice. You know your body and your goals. You might be like me, I wanted to get to 135-140, but I'm actually happy where I am at 147.

    Good luck!
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
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    haha, sounds like my fiance. I told him I lost 2 inches in my breasts, and he playfully pitched a huge fit. He said he is done supporting me and that he is no longer my cheerleader. He said that if my huge butt starts losing inches, he quits lmao. We both know he's joking, but he is a little worried about losing his curvy woman. He's a really big guy, and he doesn't want a tiny little girl for a wife. I told him we'll deal with it when the time comes. I don't mind his input, I value his perceptions and opinions, but just like my latest tattoo and a piercings he hates, he always says "it's your body, and I will always love you"
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,857 Member
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    Sabotage would be if he told you to gain weight and then took you out to Wendy's for dinner. .

    We guys who love our women want them to feel good about themselves. . I think he was trying to tell you that he applauded your efforts and that you don't have to be a fitness model for him to still want you and find you sexy. .

    That being said. . just keep your eyes on YOUR goals. . Find your motivation from within and don't let anything he may say (probably by accident) derail you. . He cares, but he isn't LIVING your journey so you can't expect him to think about it with the same intensity that you do..
  • gracielynn1011
    gracielynn1011 Posts: 726 Member
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    My husband has also commented to me things like this. I told we would see, that the "goal" I picked was just based off general numbers. Sometimes you feel done before you get there, sometimes you go further. After a fee weeks, he adjusted to the change and stopped talking about how "boney" I looked and commenting on how "curvy" my hips looked. So it really comes down to him adjusting to the new you.
  • leggup
    leggup Posts: 2,942 Member
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    He'll like you best when you're happiest with your body. Some people think that if you drop X amount of weight or get down to X number, you'll magically lose every curve. So much has to do with genetics. You should show him some pictures on MyBodyGallery.com of women with your goal weight. He will see plenty of women with curves at 5'4 140 lbs.

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