How to start, really start?
Krohnie
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Any thoughts on how to start? How to not get so distracted by how long it's going to take to lose 45 lbs, and how last year it was only 35 lbs? How do I move forward and decide I'm sick of my fat pants being tight and my size 40 bra being too tight? How do I get past being the fat girl in the family and become the girl who dies something about it? How do I get past a hubby who's responses to my exercise plan are "well, you won't be able to that on these days?" When do I crash into the bottom, stand up and say I'm so sick of it and decide to make changes that last longer than a month? How do I decide to just get going, how do I decide which plan is "right". How do I give up putting faith and money into gadgets and DVDs that don't work if you don't do them. How do I get the girl in the mirror and those ugly family photos to match the image I have of myself in my head ? I'm just so overwhelmed, but doing nothing is getting more overwhelming by the minute!
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Take it one day at a time. Don't think about your long time goal, just try to focus on 1 thing this month. Something like taking a walk, or improving your breakfast. After that month, add something else.0
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http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
This is everything you need to know, starting out.
Relax and enjoy the process.
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Baby steps.
When I see people getting started, the one's who I notice who succeed at their goals are the one's who start now. They don't plan to start next week or next year, they start in the present. They are the one's who accept who they are now, but know where they want to be. Because ultimately, it all boils down to you, only you will know when to start and when you want change your life. To me it looks like you are ready to start this journey. It's all one step at a time, micro goals to big goals.
IE: Removing soda from your diet, Replacing simple carbs with complex carbs, Waking up a 20 minutes early to walk in the morning, etc.
From there eventually everything will come naturally and your micro goals will work towards larger goals.0 -
Your "journey" towards health, nutrition, and fitness is a lifetime one...it is never over...so why obsess with some arbitrary end point that doesn't exist. It is over when they put you in a box and that's it.
Guess what...when you reach that goals weight, that's when the real work starts...you haven't arrived at the end of anything...you have simply arrived at the starting point of a much longer race. So focus on your nutrition and fitness and just trying to be a little bit better today than you were yesterday and sleep well in the knowledge that you will rock it tomorrow...everything else will fall into place in its time.
Focus on the results and you will rarely see the change; focus on the change and you will always see the results.0 -
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
This is everything you need to know, starting out.
Relax and enjoy the process.
Read this thread.0 -
I say make little changes and enjoy the progress. Start drinking your water. Maybe get out for a walk or two this week. Have a cookie, not 4. This is all making choices to improve your health. Try skipping heavy sauces or dips. Little by little can end up making a huge difference!
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I set my ticker to small goals. 20 lbs (maybe 10) tostart and when I lose that. Add another 10 or 20 lbs.0
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Whoa, whoa, whoa... just take it slow. This is a life change, not a diet. This website is geared to help you keep track of what you are eating and for me, it helps me stay accountable for my decisions. Just try logging in everything you eat, good or bad, first. This will give you some idea of where you need to make some changes. I wouldn't jump right in and change everything all at once. Try keeping your calories in check first. Then, focus on fat or carbs. Once you think you have this logging in daily thing down... start walking.
Try to remember, you did not gain all this weight over night so you can't expect to lose it over night either. It's a process... but it WORKS!
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Any thoughts on how to start? How to not get so distracted by how long it's going to take to lose 45 lbs, and how last year it was only 35 lbs? How do I move forward and decide I'm sick of my fat pants being tight and my size 40 bra being too tight? How do I get past being the fat girl in the family and become the girl who dies something about it? How do I get past a hubby who's responses to my exercise plan are "well, you won't be able to that on these days?"
You have to know why you're doing it. For example, I'm here because I want to do what I can to avoid the health problems that run in my family from being overweight. For me "to lose weight" wasn't good enough. Take it one day at a time and surround yourself with people who support you and cheer you on. I'm 58 days in and I'm down 10 lbs. already with another 34 to go. I don't think about the time at all.0 -
You either want it or you don't. The only secret to success is work. How bad do you want it? I don't find this journey fun, but I want results, so I put in the work.
A few helpful resources:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1234699-logging-accurately-step-by-step-guide0 -
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
This is everything you need to know, starting out.
Relax and enjoy the process.
Start here.
Make your first goal, not to lose 45 lbs, but to log consistently for one week. You may go over your goal, you may be under, you may be spot on, but log accurately and consistently for a week. Then next week, make your goal to be at your calorie target. The next week, add a few days of exercise that you like and will continue with. The next week make your goal to keep doing all this again and again.
Don't expect to see results the first week, maybe not even the second, but do this over and over, and after about 4-6 weeks, you'll see it.
I also like the suggestion of setting your ticker to small goals. That's how I started. My first goal was to lose 10 lbs, when I got there, I went another 5 lbs, and again and again. It helps keep you motivated to see it achieved.0 -
Plan.
I eat 3 meals and 3 snacks per day.
I can tell you exactly what I'm going to eat and at what time.
I have the meals "premade" (meaning if it veggies and a grain, I cooked them ahead of time...if it is a frozen meal, it is already defrosted and ready to go, if it is an apple, the apple is out and ready to grab) and pretracked I MFP.
There are times when you're busy, we're you're not motivated, when the scale doesn't budge and you can blow a week of careful eating with one binge. If your meals are preplanned, when those moments of weakness arrive (and we all have them!), you'll your choices lain out for you.
One other thing I do: Every Saturday night DH and I have a date night and we go out to dinner. Whenever I think: I've gotta have this, I plan on having that "gotta have this" on Saturday night. Sometimes we've had pancakes for dinner at IHop or a plate of pasta..but I always have it 1) out of the house 2) one meal only with DH.0 -
I felt overwhelmed too when I got started. I decided to stick with it for just one month and then I could reevaluate. I also decided to only weigh once a week during that month. I figured I could do anything (meaning, log my food and exercise regularly) for 4 weeks. If I remember correctly I lost something like 9 pounds that first month and that was all the additional motivation I needed. Also, I didn't make any huge changes to what I was eating, just the amounts. It was all about getting an accurate log and forming that habit.0
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Your health is A journey. We are only human. We like to treat ourselves. First off stop blaming yourself and being so hard on yourself. Its not your fault that your overweight. Its our society's, and the governments. What they put in our food. All the horrible chemicals that actually messes with our mind saying we want more. We want more of that refine sugar. Its an addiction,just like any other drug. You have to take Baby steps. You have to educate yourself. Really get to know what is in our food. You have to find a program that you love! That you get excited about! You need to clean out your kitchen and fill it with only healthy stuff! You have to know what you want to be healthy for you! That your not doing it for anyone else. We see in the mirror fat. We do not see our insides that our suffering from bad choices. You only get one life make it the best. You will feel happier, you will have more energy. I PROMISE! It will overall mold your life to do things you never thought you would ever get too. I am Jessica. I have been on my fitness journey for 7 years. I coach people to help them find peace, happiness, to love themselves. I help people with eating choices, and to help them find a great program or workout routine that they love. Message me, add me. If you want my help to get you started do not be afraid to ask. Good luck to you<3 To everyone!0
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When I started, I set a goal weight used MFP to set the calorie limits based on 1 pound per week and had one rule only. Enter everything in the Diary;if you put it in your mouth record it (water too) and if you move, record it in the exercise. Then look to see where you hit your limits and goals.
I found I automatically ate less and moved more, so developing a healthier eating plan with exercise was easier. When I first started exercising, I deliberately counted it if I parked far away and had to walk an extra 2 minutes. That made me want to park at the far end of the lot. I knew I would not be perfect, but if I put it in MFP, I could see right away when I went way off.0 -
One step at a time
One day at a time
One foot in front of the other
One meal at a time
Make the goals smaller, break it down so it is not so overwhelming.
Tell yourself if you can do it just for today, every day!
Edited to add - It took me over a year to get down 46 pounds. So it won't happen quickly, but I am soooooo glad I started when I did. I am now 46 pounds lighter - THIS YEAR. :flowerforyou:0 -
Repeat that mantra every morning.
Yes, it will take some time to lose 45 pounds, but April 29, 2015 is coming whether you make a change or not.
I quietly began my time on MyFitnessPal. I didn't announce it to anyone; I didn't make a big deal of it to my husband. I didn't take before pictures. All I did was sign up, join a gym, and print the image above to tape onto my work computer.
I started. That's all there is to beginning. And then I didn't stop, even when it was hard, even when it was a struggle, even when I felt hopeless. Somehow, almost like magic, my year passed and I was 120 pounds lighter in body weight and a whole lot lighter in spirit.
PS: I'm sorry your husband is unsupportive
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Take it one day at a time. Don't think about your long time goal, just try to focus on 1 thing this month. Something like taking a walk, or improving your breakfast. After that month, add something else.
Um, seriously, I was typing this same thing when I looked down the comments and read this!, lol
I break up my weight loss in small goals. For instance, I wanted to lose 10 lbs by May 17th, I actually completed this goal ahead of schedule! yay! 2nd goal is another 5 lbs by June 30th. And so forth.... nothing crazy, very attainable so I dont burn out. If I happen to lose more, well then, great!!0 -
There's such great advice here! Just want to say thank you to those who take the time to help, and that your remarks are tremendously encouraging. OP, I hope you find what you need here.0
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Shannon's advice is spot on. In a year you'll be a year older. You can be a year older and still where you are, or you can be a year older and have accomplished something. Either way, you'll be a year older.0
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I wish I had good advise....but all I've got is...Just DO It!
I was in your shoes until just over a month ago. I wanted to change but I felt I was to far gone to do it, and I was down right lazy!!
And then one day something in me snapped, and a flame was lit. I'm not going to say that I haven't fallen down, because I have.
And each time I fall, that flame is still there waiting for me encouraging me on. I started with just altering my diet, gave my body a chance to grow accustomed to that, and then I added some cardio. Yesterday I added weight machines, and today I am taking my first steps under couch 2 k5 running program. I used to think that I wanted to lose weight for my family - ie: to make my husband proud to be married to me, to make my kids giggle w/ glee when I chase them, etc) But this time I'm being selfish - I am thinking about ME and me alone....so I can be PROUD of myself and my body, so I can GIGGLE w/ glee while playing, so I can be more
present! When you are reasy, seriously ready to make the change..you will just do it, and nothing will stop you!0 -
Take it one day at a time. Don't think about your long time goal, just try to focus on 1 thing this month. Something like taking a walk, or improving your breakfast. After that month, add something else.
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Seriously, you don't have to let weight loss take over your life. Just move more and eat responsibly. You don't have to starve or eat "diet food" or be miserable, you just have eat less. You don't have to do DVDs or go to the gym, unless you want to. Just move more. You don't have to do it every day. It's almost a guarantee that there will be high calorie days. There will be days you don't exercise. Don't see that as failure. It's life.
Just get up and move and eat sensibly. Live your life without overeating. Be patient and be happy.0 -
You might want to break down your big goal into a bunch of smaller, more manageable goals.
Instead of focusing on losing 45 pounds, try to lose the first few pounds first. Then go after a few more.
Instead of running a sub 2 hour half marathon, try walking an extra 10 minutes a day.
You may find that after a while, the cumulative benefits of your actions will add up to success.
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The first thing you need to do is understand what you need to change. To that, log your food daily, even it's a horrible million calorie day!
Get into the habit of logging everyday, every meal, every bite.
In a month, go back and look at that log, it'll tell you what you are eating and you will be able to look at those foods and pick what you can keep and what needs to be changed. Then make small, slow changes. It's a life long goal so don't rush to results.0 -
We're in the same place. I lost 20 pounds on MFP before, went back to day classes while working full time and volunteering. With the busy schedule stopped working out and ate horribly. I gained back the weight plus 20 pounds. I decided I had to stop thinking about doing it and just do it. The semester is over so it's the perfect time for me to stop making excuses, get off my butt and come up with a plan that works for me now and when I go back to school.
When I lost the weight before it helped to take it one pound at a time. When I stepped on the scale and saw the number go down, instead of thinking "___lbs to go," I would think "___less pounds to lose." I found that mentality was everything for me. If I started making excuses as to why I didn't want to work out that day, I thought "i'll do a 20 minute workout, it's only 20 minutes" and that always turned into a longer workout for me and I was always happy at the end of the day.
Feel free to add me as a friend because i'm sticking around this time and would love to have more friends who are just starting out!
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You have to crawl before you walk and walk before you run. Do not think about how do I get to the end, because let's face it, it will never end if it is done the healthy way. Knowing you need to do something is a big first "crawl" so now go to a bigger "crawl" and figure out what you are going to do this week to help you help yourself.
Set mini goals as they are more attainable and come way faster than the long term. Also, set a reward for yourself for when you reach each mini goal. Reward yourself with a mani/pedi, a new outfit, a day at the spa. Something fun and something just for you!
Commit yourself to journaling your food and your exercises. Be accountable for what you do. I have found since I log my food and I am way more cognizant of what I put into my mouth. Doing little things makes you want to see progress & to see progress (mini goals) you must do something.
I am still struggling with all of this myself. I just re-re-re-restarted recently. I have had great results since January. Add me as a friend & maybe we can encourage each other.
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Don't think so much. Just make one goal at a time. And don't "think" about it, just do it. I personally, hate exercise. I am not good at it, don't like the time spent for it, and just plain, don't want to do it. If I "think" about going, I will talk myself out of going, because of some lame excuse. So, I don't "think" about it. I just have to go. That is the way it is. No excuses.
I fail, when I do "extreme" dieting, meaning, I deny myself all kinds of food, and set up for fail. So, instead of a "diet", I am eating healthier. That is the goal. I have to eat the fruit and veggies first, then, for carbs, other "bad" foods, I have to do portion control.
Right now, I think about October, I keep that in mind. When I want to eat, I think, "October", that is my birthday, and this year, I want to be under 200 for my birthday. That is a fairly realistic goal for me. 25 pounds. I am not setting myself up for fail, by expecting to lose 50 pounds, just 5 pounds a month.0 -
Whoa, whoa, whoa... just take it slow. This is a life change, not a diet. This website is geared to help you keep track of what you are eating and for me, it helps me stay accountable for my decisions. Just try logging in everything you eat, good or bad, first. This will give you some idea of where you need to make some changes. I wouldn't jump right in and change everything all at once. Try keeping your calories in check first. Then, focus on fat or carbs. Once you think you have this logging in daily thing down... start walking.
Try to remember, you did not gain all this weight over night so you can't expect to lose it over night either. It's a process... but it WORKS!
Good luck to you!
I totally agree with this quoted statement! Take it one day at a time and remember that nothing happens over night. Set mini goals for yourself so that youa re able to work towards a larger goal. I know I started with just logging my food intake and then started working out slowly. Its been a process and i have had to pretty much teach myself how to eat again and how to do what works for me. Good luck!!! You can do it!0 -
Here are some things I started telling/asking myself when my journey first began....
"My body is under construction" - to keep me from getting frustrated at the mirror or scale....
"Trust the process" - I knew my program would work..it just seemed so slow. It seemed like my hardwork wasn't paying off. The truth is IT WILL WORK..but you have to give it time.
"Will that get me closer to where I want to be or further away?" - eating...skipping workouts
And then I found this quote from The Compound Effect:
Small, smart choices = Consistency + Time = Radical Results
That did it for me right there...that one statement changed my world!
Also...I never told my hubs about what plan or what dvd I was doing. I just DID it. I never told anyone in fact, until I reached my goal. And now I help everyone I can because I remember those days.
You can do this. I did it. You can too. You are stronger than you know my friend!!!!0
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