Hi. I'm new here and I really need support.

Hi! I am not completely new but I keep to myself and decided today, maybe if I reach out and connect more I can have more support and motivation to stay on track. So...good luck to you!

Welcome Amy! I would be happy to help you with your goal to lose weight! If you don't mind sharing, what's your current weight, height and activity level (how many times do you work out/week?). I can provide you with free help if you ever need it. Good luck and feel free to message me for assistance!

What's your height currently? I can help you further with your diet/exercise with that info.

For me I lose off my chest, around my collar bones, neck, cheeks, belly then last of all thighs!! Don't worry it will come!!

Hi, I will send you a FR (friend request)...happy to give you some support. :flowerforyou:

here is an awesome link to read....
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1175494-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants?hl=path+to+your+sexy+pants

(edited to add link to path to sexypants)

I sent you a friend request.

One thing I want to say, and I think it was already said but needs to be repeated, is this. Do this for you. If you are doing this for someone else, it won't work. I know because I did that before.

Many years ago, the guy I was dating at the time looked at me while we were heading to Minnesota for work and told me, "I would marry you if you lost the weight." Back then I wasn't as heavy as I am now, but I was so in love with this guy that when he said that, I took it as my only chance at gaining his full love. So when we arrived in Minnesota, I asked his aunt (we were staying there at the time) to help me with that. She did, and I began to lose the weight. Unfortunately, he cheated on me and moved his 'girlfriend' up there while I was still there. Needless to say, I lost motivation and stopped my weight loss plans.

It was a hard lesson for me to learn, but it has been one that has stuck with me for a very long time. I'm doing this weight loss journey for me. The time is right, and I know that with support and MFP I can do it.

So, don't worry about your husband. Take the journey for yourself. Think about how good you'll feel, how sexy you feel and look.

*hugs* We can do it! :flowerforyou:

I'm sorry you have to go through all of that, and for the fact that he isn't being very supportive about it. Maybe there is a reason why he is not being supportive of your desire to lose weight and get yourself in better shape. He sounds very insecure, and with him being very thin, that is what I'm banking on. He needs to understand that your condition is dangerous. He needs to understand that there are risks involved, and I'm talking about health risks. Heart diseases, hypertension, diabetes, even cancer. He needs to understand that, and support your decision to get healthier. I'm glad that you are making this choice for yourself. You do not need his approval. It's your body, and only YOU can take care of it. As far as the number of calories go, the thing you really need to focus on, more than stressing over the calories, is just to have a set meal plan involving vitamins and supplements, lean meats, good carbs (sweet potatoes and brown rice, for example), fruits and vegetables, and lots of water. You're doing a good job of avoiding simple sugars. You need 5 meals a day, and that's three regular meals (or 2 meal replacement shakes and 1 big dinner), and two protein snacks. I can't stress the protein enough. It is important to get the protein in your system because you need to boost metabolism. Protein will help (not entirely do it for you). Protein will really aid in weight loss. More protein, and less carbs is really the way to go. Don't deprive yourself of good nutrition by "watching your calories." All you need is good nutrition. And then the exercise. It's important to exercise 150 minutes per week. You don't need to do anything vigorous right now, but as long as you can get your blood flowing, and improve your strength, you will get healthier every time. It's all about progression. Take baby steps.

I really hope this helps, and I really hope that this will encourage you. You can do this. I know you can.

Hi, I am also new. Been tracking my food for about a week now. April 17 I went to the dr for a rash and left with the a script for Metformin for high blood sugar. I have completely changed what I eat, making better choices. No bread or soda at all. My husband and I take the dogs for a walk 2-3 times a week, usually 30 minutes. I started this week on the treadmill 15 min after breakfast and 15 min. after lunch. I am determined to come off the meds. I weigh 243 and I am 5 3. Hope to make some friends to help keep me on track during this journey of a life change.

So- I was sticking with a 1200-1400 calorie diet and eating back about half of my workout calories - and I was working out 5 times a week and sticking strict to the diet. And saw the scale move about 2lbs in about 3-4 weeks. I was getting very frustrated. And then a friend I made on here told me I was putting myself into starvation mode - moved myself up to 1900 calories a day (with a good assortment of healthy foods) two weeks ago - and have lost about 5lbs in the past two weeks. Who knew eating more would help me lose more! It's working and I plan on sticking with it.
Best of luck to you - you are more than welcome to add me as a friend - I try to get on a log everyday.

My name is Amy. I'm 39, married and have two kids. I am VERY overweight. I've never really sincerely tried to lose the weight. I'm prone to pretty severe depression and tend to be very sedentary. I decided that I'd better get my head on straight about 2 weeks ago and found MFP. I've been logging every calorie on my phone with the app. It says I'm allowed 2000 calories a day and I'll lose 2 pounds a week if I eat that. I've been VERY good so far, but some days are a real struggle. My husband is thin and has the metabolism of a hummingbird. He eats when he wants and what he wants and gains nothing. He's not the most supportive person in the world when it comes to this, and insists on desserts in the house. I can usually stay away from them, for some reason once I've baked it I don't care to eat it.

I'm questioning the 2000 calories a day though. That seems like a lot. I thought I'd have to go down to 1500 or so to lose anything. I got discouraged yesterday. I have to have lost some weight, but can't tell about the pounds because I don't own a scale. I was depending on my clothing telling me I was making progress, but nothing seems looser....except the cup size on my bra. I realized that THAT is where it's happening. LOL not complaining really but it would be nice if it came off my stomach or thighs or face. Anyway, that's my story. I look forward to getting to know some people who need help too.

Thanks!