Workouts with S/O?

My situation is a little bit different but I'll share anyway.. I started training in February with the head of personal training at my gym (in other words, he is more of a manager, doesn't have a client schedule). Since then there has been chemistry between us and it has gone from him simply putting me through workouts to the both of us lifting together. I really enjoy it because I am learning a lot and he takes the time to correct my form, etc. even when he simultaneously working out. I think it just depends on your s/o's willingness to workout with another person (nothing personal - some people just like to work out alone). And to add - we are going on our first date tonight :happy:

Years ago when we were just starting to date, hubs tried to get me to workout with him. And by workout with him I mean he was trying to teach me his ways of working out. It lasted 2 days. He was fresh out of the Marine Corps and in WAAY better shape than I was (still is, but hey lucky me!), and while he tried to be "easy" on me, it just frustrated the crap out of me because I just couldn't keep up and he couldn't slow down. It bothered me that I was beet red, sweating like a pig, and struggling to breathe and he was able to talk normally. Honestly it turned me off of trying to get into shape for a few years.

So now, I workout alone. And it works just fine for us. I'm FINALLY getting to the point where I'll ask for his advice on certain things and *gasp* let him into the room while I workout. But I'm the kind of person who likes to start figuring things out for myself before asking for help. Hubs calls it an abundance of pride, I think it's just not wanting to look stupid.


However, we do go on walks, hikes, and even climbed a mountain together. It just depends on the kind of workout!

I often work out with the GF. I think its great for the relationship. On lower body she is the stronger one so I have to suck it up and put the ego aside. She is twenty years younger so it is great motivation.

Just work out on Your own! Otherwise how can You focus if You are busy flirting with them, etc?

Bitter?

I wouldn't call 3 minutes a workout exactly :blushing:

My situation is a little bit different but I'll share anyway.. I started training in February with the head of personal training at my gym (in other words, he is more of a manager, doesn't have a client schedule). Since then there has been chemistry between us and it has gone from him simply putting me through workouts to the both of us lifting together. I really enjoy it because I am learning a lot and he takes the time to correct my form, etc. even when he simultaneously working out. I think it just depends on your s/o's willingness to workout with another person (nothing personal - some people just like to work out alone). And to add - we are going on our first date tonight :happy:

Very unprofessional of him to sleep with clients - he is lucky You are not suing him.

No I'm not bitter - just realistic.

Erm where does it say they are sleeping together lol?

Well it's unprofessional, it's similar to a professor dating a student.

Well it's unprofessional, it's similar to a professor dating a student.

No, it's not-- at all. It's more similar to an accountant dating a client.

You know why? Because a professor has power over a student's grades, and therefore, their direction in life. Therefore, true consent can not really exist in that situation. (At least from a purely clinical, black-and-white perspective. That's why you wait until you're done with classes with a professor or instructor to date them, if there's true chemistry there.)

Also, you're cruising for the ban-hammer. I can't cheer hard enough when it happens. Shouldn't you be working out instead of spending all this time stirring up crap?

I'll avoid all that nonsense above by just answering the original question. No, I don't work out with my SO. I have never really enjoyed working out with anyone, let alone the person I already spend a lot of time with! I use my time working out and running as a way to decompress and help me calm my mind and body, so I prefer to be alone. As for the weight room issue, don't be afraid to venture in there and kick some butt, whether you're alone or with your SO.

You're not allowed to hit on Your clients at a gym. People should be able to work out without sexual comments being made or their *kitten* being grabbed by the staff.

And to the OP: seriously, work out alone - a SO will just be a distraction. My dog just lies on the couch while I work out. We exercise together when we go on walks but generally a dog will just get in the way, and your SO will also get in the way. Don't be so clingy!

You make me sad.

I workout with my boyfriend on occasion, but I'm comfortable being in the weight room by myself. Honestly, there's no need to be worried about being one of the few women in the weight room, no one is going to look at you funny. Guys are not a judgey as girls lol. I have done my partners work out a few times, but I didn't love what he does. We usually go to the gym together but I'll do my own thing and have him spot me when the sets gets heavy. We also run together at the gym on side by side treadmills which works out well because we can go at our own paces, but since he runs faster then me it's a great motivator to get me to keep increasing my speed every few days.

I like going to the gym with my SO since we are both busy people, it's just more time we can spend together while getting things done at the same time.

We never work out together. My husband is not an expert on weightlifting, and neither am I, but it bugs the hell out of me when he offers suggestions or corrects my form. Unsolicited opinions are not good when it comes to our relationship!

why must one be an expert to give advice? maybe he's just seeing something that is slightly wrong and could use some correction.

unless he's being a d!ck. that's different.

You're not allowed to hit on Your clients at a gym. People should be able to work out without sexual comments being made or their *kitten* being grabbed by the staff.

And to the OP: seriously, work out alone - a SO will just be a distraction. My dog just lies on the couch while I work out. We exercise together when we go on walks but generally a dog will just get in the way, and your SO will also get in the way. Don't be so clingy!

Don't listen to this crap. Sounds like bitterness. My husband and I go for walks and runs together frequently and the company makes exercise more pleasant. It also has brought us closer as a couple!

No. Just like my shower time is my own time (I can't believe the amount of moms who take their baby or child into the bath with them) I don't want to workout with a kid or husband. You can't pocus on yourself if you're taking care of someone else.

I met my husband at a powerlifting meet. We were both competing in it. Naturally we train together and have, over time, built a gym in our basement. 95% of the time it's good because we've now been together for years and have seen each other get better, get injured and change technique. We know each other well enough to know when to push it and when to lay off of each other. Sometimes though, I get pissy when he's calling depth on my squats and they aren't good or I'm thinking about program changes and he's picking them apart.

I know a number of couples that compete and train together and they all have different dynamics. Try it out and see if you like it. Give it time though. Our training relationship, like our marriage, was built over time and they are different things.