Stuck in a Fat Persons Body....SIck & Disgusted!!

This is most definitely a step in the right direction. I rememebr when I first started I always knew I was chubby but it wasn't until one day that I actually accepted that I was doing this to myself and how I got there and why that I was able to turn things around. It's hard and there are ups and downs. Some people lose the weight in less than a year or others will go it slow. The important thing is that you keep going, keep with it. keep trying and never give up on yourself because you are worth all the effort that it takes to get healthy. You deserve a healthier version of you and with that usually comes a happier version too.

I wish you well during your transformation!!!

I loved your post - Its everything I think and feel but can't put into words.

Im 250lbs and still think of myself as the 160lbs person - I miss that confident and athletic person

Theyre right about taking measurements - when the scale isnt changing you will notice the inches changing - which is what matters in the end anyways.

I'm so used to just munching and munching when Im bored and ending a long day with a movie and a comatose-big meal.
I;ve been trying to diet but I am having so much trouble breaking those habits - ideas?

We always fail to see how beautiful we truly are.
Look at you, you're a gorgeous woman.
Please don't feel disgusting. I know it's hard. I started my journey at 340 lbs.
But as you look through the threads here on this forum, you'll see that So many people have turned their lives around and continue to do so every day.
You can be the person you want to be. Love and accept yourself for who you are today

"Stuck in a Fat Persons Body....SIck & Disgusted!!"

This breaks my heart. I'm in maintenance (I came here to shape up a bit for competition.) but my wonderful, loving and handsome DH is still working on weight loss. I HATE the way he sees himself. I'm glad he wants to get healthier, as I love him and want him to live a long time, but this "I hate my body" thing hurts me. It's good to get healthy! It's good to eat moderate but healthy calories and get some exercise! It's NOT GOOD to hate yourself! This is why destructive fad diets are so popular. People's view of themselves are so awful what's bad health as long as you lose weight and no longer hate yourself?

Find a calorie reduction plan you can live with. REALLY live with even if it goes slow. You didn't put this weight on in one day and you don't want to hurt yourself trying to take it off in one day.

Accept you are a worthy person with a weight problem. Think about it. You've never met a person that was in good shape but you'd rather weigh a 1,000 lbs then have their crappy personality?

It's good you are here for motivation and the means to get to a healthy weight. There are many helpful people that will explain the parts that confuse you and cheer you on!

You can do this and still feel good about yourself no matter what your weight!
Good luck!

I started at 343 pounds (at 5'3"), so I KNOW how it feels to be disgusted with yourself. I was, for the longest time. But you know what? Whoever said that you have to learn to love yourself, they are SPOT ON. Once I realized that I WAS good enough, that I was worth the journey.... the weight came melting off, and melting and melting.

You ARE good enough. You ARE worth this journey. And you will make it, if you believe that you can. :flowerforyou:

Don't you feel one bit ashamed or scared. You've taken the first step, the hardest step of all - realizing that you need help. So now you can proceed to the next step, putting a plan in action. That's the fun part - you get to decide. You get to choose who and what you want to be.

You are beautiful, no matter how much of you there is. Always remember that.

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You are a beautiful woman and you can lose the weight. The most important thing is to start, just get started logging your food and doing what you can do to exercise, even just walking is a start. The more you do, the more the momentum builds, then the more you can do.

I'm feeling you. I've never posted pictures of myself on here (well, there's one on my profile but you can't see much of me in it) because of how I feel about the way I look. I've always been heavy so I really have nothing else to compare it to. It's just always been there and heaven knows, people have never hesitated to tell me all about it.

You're making progress, though! The journey of a thousand miles and all that. I can tell you from VERY recent experience that if you keep reminding yourself that you're just a fat person (had the mental battle about twelve hours ago) you'll be really likely to go back to your old patterns because you'll fell like you don't deserve anything better. Just keep reminding yourself that you are a worthwhile person and every positive step just reinforces that. Heck, if you have to, wear a crown once in a while! A nice gold medal? Whatever it takes. Every change starts between the ears so focus our attention there and you'll be getting healthy in no time!

Edited to say that I'll find some pre-MFP pics and post them on my profile soon! Also, feel free to add me! I'll be as encouraging as possible!

Just saw Your pics, You look gorgeous, Okay I understand that You could lose some weight but Your fashion and makeup is beautiful!

Just saw Your pics, You look gorgeous, Okay I understand that You could lose some weight but Your fashion and makeup is beautiful!

Totally agree for once...not to mention she's 40+ and looks 28

I've been in the same place you are right now! I felt like i was trapped in my own skin and i felt so ashamed of myself. Besides how you may be feeling at this moment, as a stranger looking in, i think you are a gorgeous woman!! I have tried everything from weight watchers to home work out videos; some worked, some didn't. I think posting those pictures was the best thing you could've done! This site and all the friends i have made since being here have helped me the most! You can do this! Look at it like it's just one day at a time, one meal at a time and one pound at a time Feel free to add me if you need any support.

Try to take a deep breath and accept that person in the mirror without judgement. That's who you are today, but not who you will be tomorrow. There is no room for guilt, terror, tears, or disgust on this journey, only acceptance, self-discovery, success, awe, pride and love.

Let me know if you would like some links to help you set up your calories/macros/etc and avoid some of the common beginner mistakes that can cause frustration early on.

That's the first big step towards doing something very positive about it. It definitely isn't easy and will take longer than you'll like or want, but you can definitely get there if you really want to and are willing to put in the time and effort. Be prepared to make a long term commitment, and you can get your life back and get out of the "fat suit" for good.

Don't let your friends, workmates, or family discourage you with their remarks. It's often better to just say you're trying to lose five or ten pounds if they ask so you don't get the negatives about how you'll never succeed in a major weight loss, etc.... It's hard for people to see you not being large, so they think they're being kind in not letting you get your hopes up or they know that they couldn't do it themselves so they project that on you. You can't ignore them, so just thank them for their words or advice and then ignore it and go your own way. After you lose 10-20 pounds, they'll start to come around, but getting to that point can get pretty brutal for some people, so be prepared for it just in case.

This community has been there and definitely knows that major weight loss works as long as you have a reasonable plan and stick with it and tweaking it as you find some things working better than others for you personally.

I have never understood why the person we see in the mirror is not the same person we see in pictures. I guess that is why I never wanted anyone to take a picture of me because I knew in my mind it wasn't the same. Though I'm only about a third to my goal, in almost three months, I've known it would take time. Over the years when I thought about "getting serious" I thought it was too overwhelming and would take too long. I wish I had realized then that had I took it serious at that time, I'd be done by now. Of course, I haven't reached goal yet either, being patient is half the battle for me.

Wow well done you I am so delighted for you and can see a big difference You are getting your waist back. I have only just got my head into gear to enable me to start. I am following a Slimming world programme.