Rejected due to weight?

I'm confused on what you've been rejected for. I've only gotten dirty looks from people while in a bathing suit or getting a second plate at my local buffet. I've never been outright rejected for anything really. But I do understand a guy not saying "yes" when I asked him out. Rejection hurts. For every 10 people who say no, at least one will say yes. Just keep being the awesome you that you are and let the other people take care of themselves.

I have been rejected due to my weight, my race, my looks, and economic status.

It's why I rarely date.

I totally understand and yes I have been rejected. It hurts to be rejected by someone you like simply because of your weight. I say just keep moving to healthy for yourself and once you lose weight the guy will realize what he passed over and regret it.

I'm sure this is very common. It's just reality.

I've never been rejected because of my weight...actually the opposite, which is weird to me because I always thought guys only liked slim & trim women. Even so they didn't see past appearance.

I've never been plain out rejected due to my weight but I've certainly been criticized or looked over for it...on both sides as you state. I've been in relationships where it became obvious I was not "thick" enough to keep the person's attention on me when other more "healthy" women walked by and I've been in relationships where taller women caught the man's eye and I've been in relationships where my weight seemed too much as compared to whoever he was looking at. It kind of depends on the taste of the person and generally speaking I think people end up less with their physical ideal and more with their overall ideal and so there will always be those tendencies.

It's a lot more respectful if the person can learn not to do it. I think it shows low self esteem, a lack of confidence, and spinelessness though to let the fact that someone is not your physical ideal be a reason to outright "reject" them. It means your personal needs of wanting that person who is not what you beleive is the physical ideal are less important than the facade you want to portray to others who are both less important than you and that person you claim to "really really like". For this reason if anyone ever claimed to be rejecting me based solely on my weight either too heavy or too thin, I would consider them a follower, spineless and not worthy of my time. You should too.

Let me put it to you this way. If you were eating the most delicious german chocolate cake in the world and you could not beleive how you'd found the perfect blend of chocolate, nuts, coconut, buttery caramel, and chocolate mousse, would you let someone come up and tell you your cake was ugly? That they had a much prettier tiny tootsie roll? No, you would scoff and say I think I know what I like. That's the kind of confidence and self assurance you want in a man that will be by your side in life.

Hell I have been rejected because I have been to fit. Some women have to be better looking then the guy they are going with. Anyway guys get rejected all the time, for just about everything. So this should be a double wake up call for you. Getting turned down is something you should get used to as it will help you find better jobs.

Height, looks, money, car - I've been rejected for a whole host of reasons!

Awwww I'm sorry that people are so rude and close-minded as to give you dirty looks! *shakes head* Thanks for your kind words. This guy actually said that he really liked me and that we had chemistry, but my weight was what held him back from making me his gf. And I can understand that. I mean, there is a level of weight at which it becomes an impediment for a guy...I mean yeah there are some guys that like obese women, but in general, it tends to be a turnoff...

How heavy are you? He says there's chemistry but he doesn't want to date you means, in my personal language,

he's a superficial jerk and deserves to be foreveralone...

or else it means there was no chemistry and he's letting you down easy.

You're young, and whatever your life is like you can turn it around. Just eat 15 or 20% below tdee and don't go near anything quick fix.

The way I am doing it, finally, after 44 years of idiocy (and at least 3 years on MFP), is to say "when I'm at goal weight I will require 1700 cals a day. So I'm going to eat 1700 cals a day now, and just go with it. This will be my new daily requirement."

1700 isn't anything like as hard and depressing as 1200. As to exercise, I just walk to and from work.

Dieting's as hard as you make it. Don't make it hard and it'll be easy.

I'm sure this is very common. It's just reality.

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