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prudenc3
prudenc3 Posts: 10
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My husband and father to my children keeps telling me to put on high heel shoes, boots, stockings, panties so he can take pictures of me wearing them and told me to post them on auction sites to sell to the highest bidder of soiled and worn unwashed fetish perverts?

He has asked me recently if he can record us having sex to post it online and charge people to watch?

I felt uneasy when he first told me he found a recording on his iriver of us having sex, he had left it on by mistake ,he said.

This is not the as I married all those years ago, I asked him if he has a fetish or something and he said no, but I'm feeling really creeped out. He does not want to have sex anymore much either and he used to be very jealous and protective but men have said they would 'do me' right infront of him and he has not defended me, he has just laughed or had a go at me later saying it was my fault :frown:

Is he ill?

am I just a boring prude like he said?

I am really shocked and creeped out by it and feel scared he is recording me without my permission and by his suggestions.
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  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
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    IB4L.

    But that's messed up.
  • sixout
    sixout Posts: 3,129 Member
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    Well, that was unexpected.
  • embrace_the_dark_side
    embrace_the_dark_side Posts: 236
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    An IRiver?

    That's just disrespectful.
  • embrace_the_dark_side
    embrace_the_dark_side Posts: 236
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    p.s. I also see that you've joined in the last five days... I feel like you picked the wrong place to vent about your creepy *kitten* husband
  • dejareedubose
    dejareedubose Posts: 39 Member
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    i think you should have a long talk and let him now that it makes you uncomfortable
  • Madame_Goldbricker
    Madame_Goldbricker Posts: 1,625 Member
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    Umm :noway:
  • Derp_Diggler
    Derp_Diggler Posts: 1,456 Member
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    Strong first post.
  • embrace_the_dark_side
    embrace_the_dark_side Posts: 236
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    I think it's weird, like he has no respect for me anymore and I did talk to him about it, i was crying last time and told him it was humiliating and degrading. He said he was'nt serious and was joking.

    He left it a few weeks then told me about the recording, asked me if I would make the films said it was a joke when iI went crazy at him. He left it another few weeks he wants me to do it because I would make a fortune , but I do not need the money and Its discusting, if I wanted to sell picstures or become a porn str I would have accepted the offers years ago. I don't agree with it and neither did he back then :frown:

    Hi. Just a protip on trolling - try not to be THIS over the top.
  • jacques57
    jacques57 Posts: 2,129 Member
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    trust your gut. But then again your gut told you to post this issue on the internet.....
  • tiptoethruthetulips
    tiptoethruthetulips Posts: 3,365 Member
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    Assuming this isn't a troll post (well I think it is, but on the off chance it isn't)...it is clear that your husband and children do not respect you, counselling is in order for and your husband if you want to save the marriage. All I can say is make sure there are no hidden cameras in the house.

    No you are not being a prude or boring. While there are many who happy to share everything online, including sexy pics, recordings, etc, there are many many many more who do not and nor do they wish to.

    To do be pushed, forced, guilt-tripped or embarrassed ever into doing something you are not comfortable with.
  • WisheeNY
    WisheeNY Posts: 72 Member
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    God he sounds like an *kitten*. I would say dump him but that's your husband and you obviously love him and it's not that easy. All I can say is... he should have respect for your boundaries. When he took those vows he promised to love, honor, cherish, and respect you and I don't see how trying to pressure you into doing something sexual that you don't want to do is any of those things. Once you showed that you weren't into it, he should have backed off. To put you down about it, call you a prude, and let other men disrespect you and then blame YOU for it, is all wrong. All wrong.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
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    I say do it. YOLO
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
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    But you see...... This topic is against TOS.
    So...


    I'll be over here munching my popcorn.
  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
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    Curious..... why you chose 'chit-chat, fun and games' as the place to post this. Might be reaching out for help, but it kind of sounds like you're saying your husband doesn't want to have sex with you, but also that he thinks you're so hot that he could make a lot of money putting pics and vids of you on the 'net. hm. other people talk about doing you right in front of him? That seems odd.
  • helizi
    helizi Posts: 30 Member
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    I felt uneasy when he first told me he found a recording on his iriver of us having sex, he had left it on by mistake ,he said.

    'By mistake'. Yeah, no.
    men have said they would 'do me' right infront of him and he has not defended me, he has just laughed or had a go at me later saying it was my fault :frown:

    Is he ill?

    am I just a boring prude like he said?

    No, you're not. He's the one with the problem here. He doesn't respect you at all, he treats you like an object and he blames you for things that aren't your fault. These are serious red flags. You need to talk to him and make it 100% clear that this is completely unacceptable.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
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    you need to have a serious conversation with him about this

    he most likely does have a voyager fetish & who knows what else

    make sure you really tell him your feelings about it all and set clear boundaries
  • BurntCoffee
    BurntCoffee Posts: 234 Member
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    Take it from me, RUN. That's a road that leads to nowhere fast. Promise.
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