People you are close to giving you a hard time about diet
FitnessLover001
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What do you guys do when people you are close to, such as family, make fun of what you eat? I mean, I know they are just picking on me because I do watch everything I eat, but it kinda digs into me and I get defensive about it. Because I do what I do for me, and I don't say a word, NOT ONE WORD, about what they are eating or how much they are eating. But they always make a comment such as, "She doesn't like it because of the calories." or "Such and such is in it, so you are probably not going to eat that." Or when I ask my mom to make me a 4oz hb steak even though everyone else is eating an 8oz hamburger steak, "You eat like a bird, do you actually want to put some food on your plate?" Or when people are telling me what's in a dish they made they'll say, "And I know all you're thinking about are the calories in it, but one day when you're older, you won't care as much about that"…like this is just a fad for me, instead of a lifestyle change
Like, yes, I do strategically watch what I eat, and I do run a lot of miles and go to the gym daily, but I enjoy it and love what I do. And yes I will admit, I am obsessive over my calorie intake and what I eat, but I want to be because I have goals to reach. I don't push anything that I do on anyone else, so whyyyyyy do people make comments to me?
Like, yes, I do strategically watch what I eat, and I do run a lot of miles and go to the gym daily, but I enjoy it and love what I do. And yes I will admit, I am obsessive over my calorie intake and what I eat, but I want to be because I have goals to reach. I don't push anything that I do on anyone else, so whyyyyyy do people make comments to me?
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Like, yes, I do strategically watch what I eat, and I do run a lot of miles and go to the gym daily, but I enjoy it and love what I do. And yes I will admit, I am obsessive over my calorie intake and what I eat, but I want to be because I have goals to reach. I don't push anything that I do on anyone else, so whyyyyyy do people make comments to me?
Why not just say that back to them? You're letting them know why you're doing what you and that it bothers you when they speak to you the way you do when you don't nit-pick them about what they eat.
They do it for several reasons. People who are dedicated and committed to reaching their goals have to do what others won't so they can get what other's don't. You're going against the grain and to them that's strange. For some of them you may be inadvertently pointing out their own insecurities. This is what happens to me a LOT! My mother is always looking at what I eat, asking what I will be eating and then defends her own choices. But it's not about ME, it's about HER. She's been overweight MY whole life and I learned dieting from her. I had a seemingly good friend just step out of my life once she became envious of it. It had nothing to do with me, I bent over backwards for her, it had everything to do with HER.
You keep doing what you're doing. Ten years down the road when you're STILL doing what you're doing your family and those who say these things to you will either have gotten MORE unhealthy or else they'll have been so inspired by you that they've achieved THEIR health goals!
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Tell them just how you feel! My step father ALWAYS makes fun of me, cause I do not eat pork or cause I sometimes shop at whole foods. I don't care what he says. If I choose not to eat it, then that is my personal preference and he should not worry about it.
Look family or friends, it doesn't matter. You need to tell them that if they cannot not support your choices then they need to not say anything at all. If that is what you like or how you are, then they should support your choices. Honestly to me it is negativity and who wants to be around that.0 -
What do you guys do when people you are close to, such as family, make fun of what you eat? I mean, I know they are just picking on me because I do watch everything I eat, but it kinda digs into me and I get defensive about it. Because I do what I do for me, and I don't say a word, NOT ONE WORD, about what they are eating or how much they are eating. But they always make a comment such as, "She doesn't like it because of the calories." or "Such and such is in it, so you are probably not going to eat that." Or when I ask my mom to make me a 4oz hb steak even though everyone else is eating an 8oz hamburger steak, "You eat like a bird, do you actually want to put some food on your plate?" Or when people are telling me what's in a dish they made they'll say, "And I know all you're thinking about are the calories in it, but one day when you're older, you won't care as much about that"…like this is just a fad for me, instead of a lifestyle change
Like, yes, I do strategically watch what I eat, and I do run a lot of miles and go to the gym daily, but I enjoy it and love what I do. And yes I will admit, I am obsessive over my calorie intake and what I eat, but I want to be because I have goals to reach. I don't push anything that I do on anyone else, so whyyyyyy do people make comments to me?
You may be too nice or diplomatic but i get this all the time and i always reply with " When i want to look like you i will eat like you" it shuts them up pretty quick, if someone wants go down the route of judging me i can play that game pretty well0 -
Just ignore it.0
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One of my flatmates constantly makes comments about how much and how often I eat, despite the fact I know the precise nutritional and calorific details of each meal, and rarely exceed a net intake above 1900cal.
However when she eats it's all frozen, greasy rubbish like potato waffles, chicken kievs and chips. Used to bother me, but then I see the difference in my physique compared to hers and know that despite what is said to me, I know exactly what and why I'm eating the way I do.
Ignore it and embrace your lifestyle choice!0 -
Depends on who it is. I can't really say anything to my grandmother. She's always making fun of me for how much I eat. I eat a lot, okay, but I know that. It's what I do. I don't need my grandma saying "Have yourself some meat, Casey." But what are you going to say to an 82-year-old woman?0
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"The cost-benefit ratio of the food you are holding in front of me just does not look favorable to me."
I say something like that, and people just generally look dumb at me because they have no idea what it means.0 -
There are very few people who I actually listen to on the subject of fitness. Develop a handful of polite brush-offs and move on with your life.0
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See... I like to torment my manfriend ruthlessly by eating pizza in bed next to him even though he refuses to partake. I also like to let him know how I feel about cottage cheese consumption with graphic displays of disgust, like so....
But then he replies much like this because he's all hangry and what-not....
It really works out lovely.0 -
To me you look beautiful....Keep doing what you love!0
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It's on...See... I like to torment my manfriend ruthlessly by eating pizza in bed next to him even though he refuses to partake. I also like to let him know how I feel about cottage cheese consumption with graphic displays of disgust, like so....
But then he replies much like this because he's all hangry and what-not....
It really works out lovely.
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It's on...See... I like to torment my manfriend ruthlessly by eating pizza in bed next to him even though he refuses to partake. I also like to let him know how I feel about cottage cheese consumption with graphic displays of disgust, like so....
But then he replies much like this because he's all hangry and what-not....
It really works out lovely.
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It's on...See... I like to torment my manfriend ruthlessly by eating pizza in bed next to him even though he refuses to partake. I also like to let him know how I feel about cottage cheese consumption with graphic displays of disgust, like so....
But then he replies much like this because he's all hangry and what-not....
It really works out lovely.
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thanks for all of the posts!
It definitely gets discouraging, and yeah my grandma makes comments to me as well, and I can't really say anything back, but it just eats under my skin when people make comments and then when I say something back they're like, "we just do it because we know it pisses you off." WELL THAT'S A REASON TO KEEP DOING IT THANKS 0 -
That is emotional immaturity. Just state "you seem to be really invested in what I eat." And let the silence hang.
Or, is somebody makes an assumption about what you are thinking, ask them "does that bother you?" If they get defensive, question why they would make assumptions about what you think or feel.
If your coworker who is listing the ingredients asks if you are thinking about calories, say "I was thinking that it sounds delicious"
Put the burden of their behavior back on them.
Eta - your parents are invested in you, so acknowledge that "grandma, you taught me to go after what I want". "Mom, everything looks so delicious that I want to make sure I have room to try everything."0 -
What do you guys do when people you are close to, such as family, make fun of what you eat?
I put on my big girl pants and tell them that I don't appreciate the comments. If it continues despite your concerted efforts to be mature about it, tell them to go screw themselves.0 -
I'm honestly confused every time this subject comes up.
I don't understand how this is allowed to continue on endlessly in a person's life.
There are two ways- either sacrastic- or incredibly direct/blunt and rude or a combination of those things.
"I'm sorry- I didn't know my gastrointensitanl system was so important to you- I'll have a full write up on my *kitten* that I plan to be taking at 3 PM this afternoon- I'll have it on your desk by 8 AM tomorrow morning"
"When I want to look like you- I'll keep eating like you"
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"I'm sorry- what buisness is it to you what food I put in my mouth again?"
"I'm sorry- (not sorry) how is this important to you?"
" Good to know you're life is so damn dull you have nothing to do but annoy me about my life. You'll be glad to know you- you rate so low on my G.A.F meter that I don't think of you at all - except maybe when I'm enjoying my dead lifts- or hiking or mountain climbing- and having such a great time that I feel really bad for you because you are trapped at home with your boring life"
" what is the point of these comments again? you can explain to me? did you get a degree in nutrician? become a doctor? or just read the latest garbage that the Huffington Post threw out yesterday?"
"remind me again how much your dead lift is"
" remind me again what you named your quads??? because mine are Thor and Hercules- they can squat you're body"
Can't stand such rubbish- stand up for yourself- who CARES WHAT YOU EAT.0 -
Crap. Not only do I now need to name my quads, Thor and Hercules are taken.0
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I'd leave my husband, divorce my family and get new friends.
I have awesome support. Husband and family, both. And friends!0 -
1. Between my friends and family, I hear so much about dieting, that portion control isn't even a blip on anyone's radar...
2. I ignore people who nag me, until the proverbial kettle boils over and they get to apologize in tears :devil:0 -
People are mean in general. Plus sometimes they are jealous. There's also the fact that people often expect everyone to fit in and be the same. I get hassled sometimes since I've been (mostly) vigilantly watching what I eat this year.
A few years ago I was vegan for probably less than a year. I did feel healthier but it wasn't for me long term. I didn't lecture anyone or even mention it unless I cooked something and someone asked why there wasn't meat in it. I still got hassled by people occasionally though.0 -
Crap. Not only do I now need to name my quads, Thor and Hercules are taken.
Lol, how about "watermelon" and "crusher". If I knew how to post a Gif I would totally post that one of the guy crushing a watermelon between his thighs0 -
I'm honestly confused every time this subject comes up.
I don't understand how this is allowed to continue on endlessly in a person's life.
There are two ways- either sacrastic- or incredibly direct/blunt and rude or a combination of those things.
"I'm sorry- I didn't know my gastrointensitanl system was so important to you- I'll have a full write up on my *kitten* that I plan to be taking at 3 PM this afternoon- I'll have it on your desk by 8 AM tomorrow morning"
"When I want to look like you- I'll keep eating like you"
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"I'm sorry- what buisness is it to you what food I put in my mouth again?"
"I'm sorry- (not sorry) how is this important to you?"
" Good to know you're life is so damn dull you have nothing to do but annoy me about my life. You'll be glad to know you- you rate so low on my G.A.F meter that I don't think of you at all - except maybe when I'm enjoying my dead lifts- or hiking or mountain climbing- and having such a great time that I feel really bad for you because you are trapped at home with your boring life"
" what is the point of these comments again? you can explain to me? did you get a degree in nutrician? become a doctor? or just read the latest garbage that the Huffington Post threw out yesterday?"
"remind me again how much your dead lift is"
" remind me again what you named your quads??? because mine are Thor and Hercules- they can squat you're body"
Can't stand such rubbish- stand up for yourself- who CARES WHAT YOU EAT.
I agree! I feel bad for people that go through this, I really do. Making personal choices to better yourself, and then constantly having to explain and defend yourself. F@ck that!!
In my case, my family and friends know better, and leave me to my own devices bahahahaha!0 -
Pretty much a combo of all the above advice. Plus I read recently that the Buddha once said "when someone insults you it's like they are offering you a gift, you can choose to accept the gift or to reject it". I'm no Buddhist and I’m not religious but I recognise good advice when I see it.
Having said that don’t let people get away with it. Tell them what you think in an honest open way, if they have any feelings for you they’ll listen and stop, if they say “I’m just teasing stop being so sensitive”, I’d say you’re not being sensitive, if you were they would have heard from you about it ages ago, but you have a right to ask people to stop hurting you. If the person absolutely, will not, stop? Dump them; I did that with my older brother after I tried for years to get him to see my view about his behaviour. We haven’t spoken in 8 years and it’s the best decision I ever made. You have a right to be respected, if someone can’t even give you that basic level of civility – family member or not – they don’t deserve to be in your life.0 -
Crap. Not only do I now need to name my quads, Thor and Hercules are taken.
Zues is still free. you can take that.
I'm thinking about it being Thor and Xena- that way they can be super sexy together when they touch- since clearly they aren't separated by a thigh gap.0 -
I simply tell them that I ahve more energy now, Im happier, and I lost 25 pounds doing what Im doing . They see the results and dont say a word afterwards0
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In my opinion, this is bothering you due to lack of confidence in yourself and in your weight loss plans. You should say what you said in your post to them and be confident about it. People often fear what they don't understand and will poke fun. At the end of the day though it's your weight loss that is important and anyone worth keeping around will understand that.0
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MOTIVATION
When they see you with your shirt off and their jaw drops. Then they want to do what you're doing.0 -
time to get a thick skin they will never stop they are just ignorant.stop worrying about what they say or think and put them straight tell them to back off you bunch of losers.be strong for you.great post by the way.0
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