People you are close to giving you a hard time about diet
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thanks for all of the posts!
It definitely gets discouraging, and yeah my grandma makes comments to me as well, and I can't really say anything back, but it just eats under my skin when people make comments and then when I say something back they're like, "we just do it because we know it pisses you off." WELL THAT'S A REASON TO KEEP DOING IT THANKS
And there's your answer. Ignore them. Act like you're deaf if you have to, and they'll quit when they realize they can't get a reaction out of you. Expect a short term escalation - they'll get more outrageous for a while trying to goad you into doing or saying something in response.0 -
time to get a thick skin they will never stop they are just ignorant.stop worrying about what they say or think
This. It's a pretty common thing in my life. Not so much with food, but with fitness.
"You need to take time off and relax"
"Why do you run so much?"
"I don't get how running that much is enjoyable"
"Doesn't that hurt?"
"Aren't you tired?"
"You don't eat enough"
"You need to eat more of this or that"
"If you took more time off, you'd get better at running"
"Why do you out yourself through that?"
"It's unhealthy how much you run"
Comments are comments. Questions are questions.
Those people who say "oh she doesn't eat that, it has calories in it" are likely just teasing you, and they Probsbly think you are super cool with a TON of will power!
Don't let it get to you.0 -
I can't win.
When I was big my family made fun of me and shamed me fore eating so much. Now I'm smaller they say I should just stop watching what I eat, stop over-thinking, eat what I want etc. I don't think they realise that for me, if I stop caring I will just pile it all back on again.
Only person I really listen to is friends that have the same attitude to health and fitness as I do and my partner because he actually knows what he's talking about.0 -
thanks for all of the posts! It definitely gets discouraging, and yeah my grandma makes comments to me as well, and I can't really say anything back, but it just eats under my skin when people make comments and then when I say something back they're like, "we just do it because we know it pisses you off." WELL THAT'S A REASON TO KEEP DOING IT THANKS
I don't know if your grandma is like mine? But for my grandma, preparing food for people is something that she loves. Seeing people enjoy and eat her food makes her happy. And grandmas are old school. My grandma doesn't ask me to eat more, she just puts more food on my plate and says eat this.lol Which I definitely don't mind because her cooking is the best! But to her that is what a man is supposed to do which is come back for seconds and thirds and I have to agree.
I have had to deal with the same kind of stuff and when I am bulking which is pretty much all the time, i eat more than everybody I know so I am the one making the comments now. I laugh at their little bowls of ice cream or their little plates of food. Hey, they wanted it and now they got it!
If its grandma saying it then it is one thing. i would never turn down her food anyways. But if its other family and friends ect..just tell them to eff off0 -
time to get a thick skin they will never stop they are just ignorant.stop worrying about what they say or think
This. It's a pretty common thing in my life. Not so much with food, but with fitness.
"You need to take time off and relax"
"Why do you run so much?"
"I don't get how running that much is enjoyable"
"Doesn't that hurt?"
"Aren't you tired?"
"You don't eat enough"
"You need to eat more of this or that"
"If you took more time off, you'd get better at running"
"Why do you out yourself through that?"
"It's unhealthy how much you run"
Comments are comments. Questions are questions.
Those people who say "oh she doesn't eat that, it has calories in it" are likely just teasing you, and they Probsbly think you are super cool with a TON of will power!
Don't let it get to you.
You know what I say to people when they make comments about my training or if I am growing some kind of scary viking beard. I tell them I do it because I am a filthy animal which is exactly what I am0 -
My husband is incredibly supportive. Usually. Yesterday I made a comment about wanting to 'eat all the things', and he asked me if I was starving my body. Doh! So we had a conversation about me trying to get healthy - and that getting healthy and ensuring you eat healthy foods mostly is NOT an eating disorder. Lol!
And BTW, LOL re: the gifs.0 -
What do you guys do when people you are close to, such as family, make fun of what you eat?
I find that people do this or take issue with my making time for workouts because they lack the discipline to do it themselves, so it is almost like they are trying to put me down. Can't count the times I have heard...
"Must be nice to have the time," or
"You're lucky you can _______."
It is annoying, really.0 -
I lift up my shirt and show them what all that hard work is doing to my body. Then I smile smugly and walk away.0
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I can't win with my family. If I watch what I eat around them, they tease me for "eating like a bird", and go on and on about how miserable it seems to have to watch everything I eat. (Oh, and I'm also "insane" for exercising regularly). So last time my mom visited, I threw caution out the window and ate whatever I wanted (what she was eating) for a few days, figuring I'd make it up after she left. Then I got the "I wish I could eat like you and still be skinny!"
I am the only one in my family not overweight. Could it be because I watch what I eat?0 -
My mom called me gross for eating my alfredo with zucchini instead of pasta. It was actually good.0
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I routinely get treated like the human garbage disposal.
As far as comments go, I don't really surround myself with a bunch of pricks. If a weird comment is made, I give the benefit of the doubt that the person is trying to be funny and not malicious, and I don't get all warped about it. I notice either people don't care about your "food life," or simply respect it, so long as you aren't preachy about it and/or make it a focal point of your existence.0 -
My husband used to give me a hard time because I would put my piece of chicken or steak or whatever on the scale and cut back until it fits what I can eat for that day. Now, he's used to it and he doesn't say anything and he's actually starting to ask me "how many ounces of this are you eating today?" and he'll do it for me. I just ignore it when people don't get it. If they want to eat crap and be unhealthy and fat that is their choice but this is my life. In one ear... out the other.
If someone said "when you get older you won't care so much" I would say... "gee I hope that's not true because I hope to be healthy my whole life".0 -
Just ignore them and keep going!
I just started (day 12) myself and suddenly people are offering me donuts maybe just to see me react? 0 -
I can't win.
When I was big my family made fun of me and shamed me fore eating so much. Now I'm smaller they say I should just stop watching what I eat, stop over-thinking, eat what I want etc. I don't think they realise that for me, if I stop caring I will just pile it all back on again.
Only person I really listen to is friends that have the same attitude to health and fitness as I do and my partner because he actually knows what he's talking about.
Your family is identical to mine (and workplace too).0 -
I like the suggestions of asking them a question in response to their comment. "Why do you ask?" or "Oh, why do you say that?" "Ask Amy" and Miss Manners are always telling people to respond that way to any type of rude comment, not just about weight or eating habits.0
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I'm honestly confused every time this subject comes up.
I don't understand how this is allowed to continue on endlessly in a person's life.
There are two ways- either sacrastic- or incredibly direct/blunt and rude or a combination of those things.
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OR
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" what is the point of these comments again? you can explain to me? did you get a degree in nutrician? become a doctor? or just read the latest garbage that the Huffington Post threw out yesterday?"
I found this funny because my Mom really does have a degree in nutrition, so it wouldn't work terribly well with her.
No point either as I don't get harassed by family or friends. I had a few friends make some remarks in the very beginning, but other friends shut them up. I have friends that run the gamut from very overweight to very thin and we all hang together with no one hassling anyone else. My family is supportive too.
My co-workers on the other hand can be annoying, but I have no emotional investment there, so it's easiest to just ignore. If they get too bad I just stand and look at them until they stop. Most are more concerned with themselves or their own lives anyway, so easy to deflect with questions about how they or their family is doing.
If someone starts talking about you (your weight, health, etc) just ignore the comment and ask them questions about themselves.
"Here try some of this. You're looking too skinny."
"Sorry, no thanks. That's a nice blouse that you're wearing. Where did you get it?"
and they are off describing the blouse. You come off as a nice person to all and any discussion about you or your weight is finished.
You can ask about kids, spouse, their latest hobby, whatever. Works for me!0 -
You do what you do because that is what YOU want to do! Don't let what other people say or do have an adverse affect on your goals. In my opinion, misery loves company so because you have made a conscience choice to make changes regarding your health, everyone else just wants you to be in the same boat as them, don't fall for it and and don't worry about it, as long as what you're doiing is what you want to do...keep on doing it!0
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Like, yes, I do strategically watch what I eat, and I do run a lot of miles and go to the gym daily, but I enjoy it and love what I do. And yes I will admit, I am obsessive over my calorie intake and what I eat, but I want to be because I have goals to reach. I don't push anything that I do on anyone else, so whyyyyyy do people make comments to me?
Unfortunately everybody is a critic. Regardless of whether I am putting on weight or trying to cut down someone always has a problem with what I'm eating... Its just that people always think that they know better. You just have to get used to it. Sorry I can't really give you any good advice on the topic cause I'm still trying to figure out what to do... BUT it usually helps to just ignore whatever others are saying. Just stay focused on your diet and be confident on the fact that its helping you achieve your goal!0 -
Crap. Not only do I now need to name my quads, Thor and Hercules are taken.
Zues is still free. you can take that.
I'm thinking about it being Thor and Xena- that way they can be super sexy together when they touch- since clearly they aren't separated by a thigh gap.
Dibs on Athena. Let me know if you take Xena, because that would be an awesome right quad name.0 -
I'm honestly confused every time this subject comes up.
I don't understand how this is allowed to continue on endlessly in a person's life.
There are two ways- either sacrastic- or incredibly direct/blunt and rude or a combination of those things.
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OR
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" what is the point of these comments again? you can explain to me? did you get a degree in nutrician? become a doctor? or just read the latest garbage that the Huffington Post threw out yesterday?"
I found this funny because my Mom really does have a degree in nutrition, so it wouldn't work terribly well with her.
No point either as I don't get harassed by family or friends. I had a few friends make some remarks in the very beginning, but other friends shut them up. I have friends that run the gamut from very overweight to very thin and we all hang together with no one hassling anyone else. My family is supportive too.
My co-workers on the other hand can be annoying, but I have no emotional investment there, so it's easiest to just ignore. If they get too bad I just stand and look at them until they stop. Most are more concerned with themselves or their own lives anyway, so easy to deflect with questions about how they or their family is doing.
If someone starts talking about you (your weight, health, etc) just ignore the comment and ask them questions about themselves.
"Here try some of this. You're looking too skinny."
"Sorry, no thanks. That's a nice blouse that you're wearing. Where did you get it?"
and they are off describing the blouse. You come off as a nice person to all and any discussion about you or your weight is finished.
You can ask about kids, spouse, their latest hobby, whatever. Works for me!
This is how adults handle things. 9 times out of 10 people are just saying things to say something.0 -
I pack a snack or a full lunch whenever I go to family members house. My cousin will say that I have a bag of rabbit food. lol But it's good natured. so I don't mind. Genearlly my family is very supportive.0
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Respond just don't react, my suggestion would be to tell them ....I am making myself better and healthier for my future, I would think you would be happy for me. Then dont say anything!!! Don't feel guilty, keep working on your goals0
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I get those comments from my boyfriend, if I say that I'm not in the mood for pasta or whatever, and he'll respond with sarcasm, 'Oh that's right, I forget you're on a diet and you'll never eat pasta ever again because of the calories'.
Nothing you can really do about it other than ignore.0 -
Crap. Not only do I now need to name my quads, Thor and Hercules are taken.
Dibs on Freya and Hera.0 -
What do you guys do when people you are close to, such as family, make fun of what you eat?
Punch them in the face.0 -
Crap. Not only do I now need to name my quads, Thor and Hercules are taken.
Dibs on Freya and Hera.
Dammit. Fine. I've got Athena and Boudica.0 -
Crap. Not only do I now need to name my quads, Thor and Hercules are taken.
Dibs on Freya and Hera.
Dammit. Fine. I've got Athena and Boudica.
I'm good with that! 0 -
Crap. Not only do I now need to name my quads, Thor and Hercules are taken.
Dibs on Freya and Hera.
Dammit. Fine. I've got Athena and Boudica.
Boom done. now we all have fabulous quads.
I'm starting to wonder if I should name my glutes too- but what do we think- maybe that might be over kill?0 -
I KNOW RIGHT!!?? These people are putting themselves in an early grave (at least the overweight one's who bother me about it are) Why do they want to kill us too? And ya know it'd be considered totally rude if we started picking on everything our overweight friends put in their mouth. Like I'm almost tempted to try it (once I lose a bit more it'll be even better) Look on with disgust as they bring their fork to their mouth and say "Are you really planning to eat THAT?"...Or "Are you still eating? Geez!" LOL Totally unacceptable right? but for some reason them trying to kill us is ok!0
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Crap. Not only do I now need to name my quads, Thor and Hercules are taken.
Dibs on Freya and Hera.
Dammit. Fine. I've got Athena and Boudica.
Boom done. now we all have fabulous quads.
I'm starting to wonder if I should name my glutes too- but what do we think- maybe that might be over kill?
Oh hell no. Then when someone ticks you off you can suggest they go kiss Persephone and Isis. It's much more couth.0
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