Checking in on friends - helpful or nagging?

hummingbrdhrt
hummingbrdhrt Posts: 67 Member
in Motivation and Support
Good morning and Happy Thursday everyone!

When I see some of my friends haven't logged in for over a week or so, I'll send them a message letting them know I miss their check ins and inquire as to how they are doing. I do this for friends who have said they want to stay active on MFP and asked for motivational help. If someone did the same for me, I'd think it was very thoughtful. I do know, however, some people would see it as being intrusive or nagging.

What do you think?

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  • kkorto
    kkorto Posts: 3 Member
    I think your are just being supportive and would find it very helpful if you would message me for motivation to do it:)
  • Ferrous_Female_Dog
    Ferrous_Female_Dog Posts: 221 Member
    I think it's fine. But I have no friends on this site, so what do I know?
  • fit_sil78
    fit_sil78 Posts: 3
    I see nothing wrong with it!
  • culo97
    culo97 Posts: 256 Member
    Good morning and Happy Thursday everyone!

    When I see some of my friends haven't logged in for over a week or so, I'll send them a message letting them know I miss their check ins and inquire as to how they are doing. I do this for friends who have said they want to stay active on MFP and asked for motivational help.

    What do you think?
    I think you should try to reach out to them once. If they're unresponsive, then decide to move on. If someone decides not to follow through on their commitment, that shouldn't be your burden.

    If your friend list is getting to quiet, there're plenty of opportunities to ask for more people to connect with.
  • _KitKat_
    _KitKat_ Posts: 1,066 Member

    I think you should try to reach out to them once. If they're unresponsive, then decide to move on. If someone decides not to follow through on their commitment, that shouldn't be your burden.

    If your friend list is getting to quiet, there're plenty of opportunities to ask for more people to connect with.

    ^^^^^This^^^^^^^^

    Mfp is a community and OP you sound like you are trying to be a concerned and caring member, so a check in is great...but if no response, even if you wish you could there is nothing you could do or should burden yourself with. I do a check in message too, without a reply I remove them as a friend. People I talk to or know are very active normally I usually keep them just in case they come back.
  • realdusi
    realdusi Posts: 10 Member
    I'm slowly building a group of friends and they've been very motivating for me and I try to do the same for them. I find that the people I tend to "nag" are friends who are actual friends or family in real life. They don't want to hear from me on MFP cause they hear from me IRL too.
  • slamirault
    slamirault Posts: 12 Member
    It depends on the person. You can ask up front what level of communication they're interested in. And like the other posters mentioned if the feedback loop isn't closed by them then don't waste your effort. Unless of course you're really close to them and understand they need a little nagging at times.

    I would be very interested to have a friend like you. I work best when I know someone is checking in on me so I can't slack off.

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