Feeling guilty for cheating!
mmrey11
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Hello, everyone! I just recently decided to try and change my lifestyle again. Except this time, I'm extremely serious. I have a hard time with money so buying healthy food is hard. I also live with 4 other people who tend to eat anything in the fridge.
Anyways. I know that you should allow yourself "cheat" days so that its easier to stay with your diet but last night i went out with my mom for mothers day and ate cheese fries with ranch and had a dipped cone after(they're her favorite). I wasn't feeling bad about it because I was already ready to jump back on track today. I work in retail and get called in randomly, so this morning i didn't have time to plan any meal or lunch or anything. So someone brought me arbys and i ate half the french and swiss dip and some curly fries and some coca cola. I'm still planning on doing my workout tonight after i get off work.
The only thing is, I feel absolutely horrible and kinda can't stand myself right now for eating it. I don't know what to do. I don't know, I think I just need some reassurance that its okay. Help?:sad:
Also, I don't have any friends on here so feel free to add me!
Anyways. I know that you should allow yourself "cheat" days so that its easier to stay with your diet but last night i went out with my mom for mothers day and ate cheese fries with ranch and had a dipped cone after(they're her favorite). I wasn't feeling bad about it because I was already ready to jump back on track today. I work in retail and get called in randomly, so this morning i didn't have time to plan any meal or lunch or anything. So someone brought me arbys and i ate half the french and swiss dip and some curly fries and some coca cola. I'm still planning on doing my workout tonight after i get off work.
The only thing is, I feel absolutely horrible and kinda can't stand myself right now for eating it. I don't know what to do. I don't know, I think I just need some reassurance that its okay. Help?:sad:
Also, I don't have any friends on here so feel free to add me!
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It's only one day!? Trust me, It's fine to have a cheat day once in a while Molly? Just make sure you can get back on track with the healthy eating straight after and keep up the exercise. Don't feel guilty as it's only one day and you should know in your mind that you've been eating healthily and exercising for the past however long you've been doing it for!
Keep up the diet and remember a cheat day once a month or whenever you feel like one is fine; just get back on track after.0 -
If I do not plan my meals or have items to quickly grab on the run, I tend to eat fast food or over eat other foods I have on hand. It's hard not to feel bad, but I try not to beat myself up too much. Have you given any thought to getting a compact fridge with a lock in your room? All the best!0
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You will be fine. It's almost guaranteed you didn't even go over your TDEE with only half the sandwich and a few fries and Coke. This will not set you back. Move on and be happy.0
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I could but I'm really tight on money working part time. With gas and food, its hard to make a large purchase. Maybe I'll start saving up for it!0
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I have one cheat day a week
normally my day of where i eat like crazy!!! I know i am a man so i can eat 1800 Calories a day and still get away with it... but on my cheat day i go into the 3K+,
Don't feel bad for one day a week... just for the rest of the week eat normally 0 -
I used to beat myself up about things like this.. but recently I have a new mental attitude to "forget it and move on". Because it's negative and holding you back! Focus on doing better now!
Also, I do find that planning meals is really good. Have you a freezer? You could bulk buy some food and make some meals? This would also be cheaper in the long run!!0 -
First of all, Thank you everyone for the support!
Secondly, I have definitely considered making meals in bulk and freezing leftovers.
Trying to find a time to go to the store to get things for pre-portioned snacks as well!
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A few years back I was a member of a weight loss group and was having pretty much the same feelings you are having now. She said it is important to remember that 1 bad meal is not a train wreck when you look at the fact that we have approximately 21 meals a week. So it's ok to have a momentary lapse. It's what you do after that that matters.
Too often we write-off our goals because we 'have wrecked everything' by having a high calorie meal. It's one day, 3 meals out of a total 21 :-) Give yourself a break and get back on the horse, we're all heading in the same direction so you will have plenty of people cheering your corner.
If you end up out with friends, have a club soda or water instead of a soda, have the fries just ditch the dressing or have less than you normally would. Soldier on, you'll get there0 -
Honestly, one meal isn't going to wreck your diet.. 2 meals aren't going to wreck your diet.. Having 2 cheat meals a day EVERY day, would...
Don't feel guilty, if you feel guilty every time you have food you enjoy (maybe a weekly/fortnightly cheatmeal), you're setting yourself up to fail.. Just blow it away, continue your week with healthy options..
As far as money is concerned, there are some really great low cost meal options available f you shop around. Maybe have a look at local online food retailers and freezer shops.. There are healthy, cheap freezer options for the 'quick meal' times and if you shop around you can get fresh a lot cheaper than just relying on chain stores.
All the best.
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It might help you to find something low calorie that is at every fast food restaurant.
I default to a kids size sandwhich plain with ketchup, a diet coke, and a side salad at every fast food place. Fries are pretty high calorie, so I don't eat them out because of that. I eat the ore Ida type fries at home, so I can save on calories.
I have my version of this for a sit down restaurant too.0 -
Eat at a slight deficit daily. I know there is always a "bad" meal lurking but just don't do it. Don't diet, change your lifestyle because that's the only way it can work long term. Healthy food is not always expensive, I switched to oatmeal for breakfast and bought a two month supply for six bucks. Fresh fruit to put in it was adding up so I switched to frozen berries. You can do this, stay at it!0
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I do I too! Weather its getting up late and having to run out the door or being called in, I seem to do this. Its all good in the hood. Just don't let yourself crash and burn, keep going tomorrow!
I have found that if I pack myself food the night before I'm usually prepared. I now plan my Mon-Fri meals on sunday and do them all sunday, unless they'll go bad :P And then Friday I do Sat and Sun :P
Hope I have helped you in some way!0 -
The best advice I have ever gotten is just do it, accept it and move on. This weight loss journey really is a journey. You are going to have good days and bad, and its hard...really really hard. You just have to accept it, and move on. Tomorrow is a fresh new day
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There is NOTHING wrong with falling short. The problem is when you decide to stay down instead of get back up and keep going.
Don't worry. It's over, you can't take it back. You don't need to feel guilty. Just move on. Good luck!0 -
My cheat day usually consists of 5/8 of a stuffed-crust pizza, most of an order of cheesy breadstix, and copious amounts of rum (6-10 servings).
Do you still feel bad?0 -
Good gracious girl its not the end of the world to cheat. Just pick yourself back up and stand firm on your plan to get fit and healthy and move forward. I go over my calories all the time and cheat and I just get right back on track the next day. I think its getting easier and easier to eat better. Today even with eating a Big Mac at Mcdonalds I was still under my goal. I pretty much avoid that place but today we were so hungry from working all day and not eating much for breakfast, I allowed myself to eat it guilt free. Hang in there and keep moving and grooving towards your weight loss goals. Feel free to add me as a friend!!0
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Consider that we have to burn 3500 calories to lose a pound. So - we have to eat 3500 calories OVER your normal intake (1200??) to gain a pound. It is never going to happen in a day. It is when we consistently burn calories, or over eat that we see change positive or negative.
I tend to look at my intake/burn on a weekly basis rather than day by day. If I'm at 1200 calories a day, that means I can take in 8,400 calories a week, and will loose a pound and a half without exercising at all. So you goofed - big deal. Make it up another day this week. Or burn an extra 500 calories during the week.0 -
Then don't do "cheat" days, "cheat" meals ( I hate that term.) If you have a healthy calorie goal it should not be hard to stay in it. If you want fried chicken, pizza, chocolate, just eat it, enjoy it, log it in, make sure it fits, and exercise more than you take in.. Otherwise you're like the alchoholic saying he has to give up booze so he'll just get drunk one day a week, or the person trying to stop smoking who says, okay, I'll devote one day a week to blow through a whole pack of cancer sticks.0
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I don't call them "cheat" days, I call them "slingshot" days. Because sometimes you do need to indulge a little bit to kick your diet back on track.0
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It's not the end of the world, it happens to us all. You might try to keep a journal and plan out your day and take healthy snack s with you. That helps me!0
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It's okay. I know it's so, so hard. I am new here too. Just keep doing your best; and I know that you can make it. 0
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You know we all have bad days. I am new here. But keeping the goal in site helps me. I am having a hard time staying within my calories. Seems like every other day we go to a favorite place to eat. And of course you already know what you like there. So on & on we go. But I do try to walk extra on those days. If you could do some form of exercise for 30 minutes on the cheat day that would help. Not only with getting rid of the extra calories but it would help you forgive yourself. Chin up & carry on. Just remember. IF YOU AIM FOR THE MOON AND FAIL, YOU'll STILL BE AMONG THE STARS!!!!!!!!!!0
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I don't like using the words: cheat, diet, or cannot to describe what foods gobble down. For me, there is no CHEAT because nothing is off limits. If I eat unhealthily, I try to find a way for it to fit in my calories for that day. If I cannot make it fit and I go over, OK. It's not the end of the world. I put a note in my entry for the day owning up to going over. NO EXCUSES. Just acknowledging what happened, so I can learn from it.
Only a couple days into my journey here, I went over my goal by over 1000 calories! But it didn't stop me from staying on track, and it shouldn't stop you. This morning I had 3 slices of pizza! I thought for sure I was doomed to go over today. So I told myself I would fix a side salad with the rest of the meals today, and the salads ended up being so darn good and filling that I've eaten less and stayed under!
Just keep your chin up, realize your in this for the long haul, and in the grand scheme of things, one meal, or one day does not make or break your journey. After all this journey is for the REST of your life. 0 -
Thank you all so much, I feel a lot better and am already back on track. This was so inspiring. It is a wonderful thought to know that there are so many people behind you.0
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I don't have cheat days. I just take things from day to day and log everything, every once in a while I am over for the day but not normally. If you are logging it all you will know if you are at or close to your limit and then have to make choices as to whether you will eat a fattening meal or food or eat something healthier. There is no reason to feel guilt if you normally keep control over your foods, self control and moderation are two of the keys to a healthy life style!0
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There is no such thing as "cheating"... looking better is not a "snapshot" of your life; it's a long term commitment!
so a day "off" the diet, isn't cheating; it's reminding you of how you used to eat!
have a look at your weight report for the month; doesn't seem so bad now does it? 0 -
It happens to everyone! When I was in high school I was so strict with my diet that one slip up would make me feel so bad about myself. Eventually I learned that one higher calorie meal wasn't the end of the world, and as along as I didn't let that derail me then it's fine. Just shake it off and work hard the next day to keep your diet on track. It is important to be able to relax and enjoy meals with friends and family without letting your diet make it unenjoyable or letting temptation derail your goals.
Partner your fries with a run and relax!0 -
Hello, everyone! I just recently decided to try and change my lifestyle again. Except this time, I'm extremely serious. I have a hard time with money so buying healthy food is hard. I also live with 4 other people who tend to eat anything in the fridge.
Anyways. I know that you should allow yourself "cheat" days so that its easier to stay with your diet but last night i went out with my mom for mothers day and ate cheese fries with ranch and had a dipped cone after(they're her favorite). I wasn't feeling bad about it because I was already ready to jump back on track today. I work in retail and get called in randomly, so this morning i didn't have time to plan any meal or lunch or anything. So someone brought me arbys and i ate half the french and swiss dip and some curly fries and some coca cola. I'm still planning on doing my workout tonight after i get off work.
The only thing is, I feel absolutely horrible and kinda can't stand myself right now for eating it. I don't know what to do. I don't know, I think I just need some reassurance that its okay. Help?:sad:
Also, I don't have any friends on here so feel free to add me!
Everyone cheats on their diet once in a while, even the cleanest eaters will have that moment. I'm proud to say that I have reduced my body fat percentage from 13% to 5%, and in the six months it took me to drop the body fat percentage, I have been very strict to my diet, so one day I decided to go crazy and have pizza (and a whole box of it). No guilt whatsoever. No one here is any better than anyone else, and we all go through things like this. Don't feel bad. As long as you are eating good regularly, you're okay.0 -
13-5% body fat? I think you need a refund from who ever you paid to measure it. No way are you only 5%.I'm proud to say that I have reduced my body fat percentage from 13% to 5%,0 -
Especially since there's no vascularity present. Compare a competitive athlete or bodybuilder with 5% and one will definitely see the difference.
13-5% body fat? I think you need a refund from who ever you paid to measure it. No way are you only 5%.I'm proud to say that I have reduced my body fat percentage from 13% to 5%,
At least he didn't offer an Herbalife product to help.
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