Starting over... AGAIN!!!
sharonmcweenie
Posts: 14 Member
Why is it that when my brain is ready for my body to get moving and lose weight, my body isn't ready... or my body is ready to go, but my brain can't make my body get off the couch? When will they ever be in sync?? When will they finally agree with each other and work together to make it happen?
Let's face it - the whole weight loss thing is nothing but a mind game. You have to talk yourself into going to the gym or walking the neighborhood. You have to talk yourself into driving by the Dairy Queen instead of pulling into the drive-thru. You have to talk yourself into eating more veggies and less crap. For some people it's really easy. For me... it's been a 25 year long journey to get from "holy crap, I'm 185 lbs!!" to "holy crap, I'm 312 lbs!"... 25 years of knowing exactly what I have to do to change it, but for whatever reason, I just can't seem to make it happen.
What is it going to take? A heart attack? A car accident where they have to use the "jaws of life" to wedge my fat @ss out of the car instead of just opening the car door to get me out? Or will it be some completely embarrassing, demoralizing moment where I sit down in a chair and it falls apart right under me, right there in front of a group of coworkers or during a job interview? I don't know what it will take. My father had his first heart attack at 42 years old. I'm now 46. "Dodged that bullet!", my brain said to my body. My father later died of complications from diabetes, heart failure, and a laundry list of other symptoms at the ripe old age of 61. "Well, we have plenty of time before we have to worry about that!", my brain says to my body, as my body absorbs the sausage biscuit and Pepsi I had for breakfast on the way into work. Seriously??!!!
So... I'm coming back here... again... because I have to do something. Anything. And I need all of the support I can get. The awesome thing about this website is that you guys are all on here for the exact. same. reason. I want to be "friends" with every single one of you, unless you're one of those people who only have 5 lbs to lose. Frankly, I just want to poke your eyes out with a shrimp fork. Then again, it's all the same struggle, isn't it? So whether it's 5 lbs or 500 lbs, it's still important to us and we still have to support each other through the journey. So... I take back the shrimp fork comment, although I reserve the right to still say it in my head while being your biggest cheerleader on the outside. Because I know that you will congratulate me pound for pound, and you'll keep your "dang, what a heffer" thoughts in your head while being my biggest cheerleader on the outside. Thank you for that.
Ok - enough ranting. Enough of the pity party. Big girl panties pulled up, and all of those other ridiculous cliche's that get us through the day.
I'm going to go log in my sausage biscuit and Pepsi now. The good news is that I didn't eat the full serving of fries that came with that awesome combo... so, I'll get to document that I only had 3/4 of a serving!! Yay for me!!
Baby steps, right?
Let's face it - the whole weight loss thing is nothing but a mind game. You have to talk yourself into going to the gym or walking the neighborhood. You have to talk yourself into driving by the Dairy Queen instead of pulling into the drive-thru. You have to talk yourself into eating more veggies and less crap. For some people it's really easy. For me... it's been a 25 year long journey to get from "holy crap, I'm 185 lbs!!" to "holy crap, I'm 312 lbs!"... 25 years of knowing exactly what I have to do to change it, but for whatever reason, I just can't seem to make it happen.
What is it going to take? A heart attack? A car accident where they have to use the "jaws of life" to wedge my fat @ss out of the car instead of just opening the car door to get me out? Or will it be some completely embarrassing, demoralizing moment where I sit down in a chair and it falls apart right under me, right there in front of a group of coworkers or during a job interview? I don't know what it will take. My father had his first heart attack at 42 years old. I'm now 46. "Dodged that bullet!", my brain said to my body. My father later died of complications from diabetes, heart failure, and a laundry list of other symptoms at the ripe old age of 61. "Well, we have plenty of time before we have to worry about that!", my brain says to my body, as my body absorbs the sausage biscuit and Pepsi I had for breakfast on the way into work. Seriously??!!!
So... I'm coming back here... again... because I have to do something. Anything. And I need all of the support I can get. The awesome thing about this website is that you guys are all on here for the exact. same. reason. I want to be "friends" with every single one of you, unless you're one of those people who only have 5 lbs to lose. Frankly, I just want to poke your eyes out with a shrimp fork. Then again, it's all the same struggle, isn't it? So whether it's 5 lbs or 500 lbs, it's still important to us and we still have to support each other through the journey. So... I take back the shrimp fork comment, although I reserve the right to still say it in my head while being your biggest cheerleader on the outside. Because I know that you will congratulate me pound for pound, and you'll keep your "dang, what a heffer" thoughts in your head while being my biggest cheerleader on the outside. Thank you for that.
Ok - enough ranting. Enough of the pity party. Big girl panties pulled up, and all of those other ridiculous cliche's that get us through the day.
I'm going to go log in my sausage biscuit and Pepsi now. The good news is that I didn't eat the full serving of fries that came with that awesome combo... so, I'll get to document that I only had 3/4 of a serving!! Yay for me!!
Baby steps, right?
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Oh I just love this.
I'd love to be your friend
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I'm in if you are!! Something's gotta give!!! 0
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Brilliant post, fair play to you. If at first you don't succeed... and all that
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Loved this post! I haven't posted yet, and quite frankly, you drew me out from the shadows. I can empathize. Many things you stated, I have felt as well. The older we get, the more important we realize how staying physically healthy has an impact on our quality of life.
I'm cheering you on...with abandon. :happy:0 -
Me too ... been there ... done that. Again and again and again and again. We can do this!! It took me so many tries to quit smoking that I've lost count but it finally worked. I'm taking a lesson from that with weight loss. Just keep trying and eventually it will work!!! I'm sending out a friend request now. :flowerforyou:0
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Hi!
I understand 100% It is a total mind game. I also find myself trying to get both my mind and body to be on one accord, but it is a struggle. For myself, I did not realize I was getting bigger... bigger... and bigger! I would wear sweats most of the time because I hate shopping, especially since nothing ever fits right ( I'm 5'1 plus size). So anyway what I have done is decided this was the last time I will start over. When you feel like quitting remember WHY you started working out and eating better. I don't know about you, but my knees hurt from the weight I put on!
When my sister was in elementary school our dad had to have a conference with her teacher. He sat in the chair and yes it broke underneath him. He was so embarrassed. That was what motivated him. He started at 410lbs and is now down maybe 150ish labs. He isn't slim but he has made progress. Don't allow something embarrassing to happen to prompt you to lose weight.
Why I am starting over now, well my boyfriend took me to a couples retreat and mirrors were everywhere. I finally saw what I looked like and I wanted to cry. I was not pleased. Not only that, I want to someday have children and I do not want weight to be a factor in me getting pregnant or not being able to have enough energy to chase my children.
My goal is not to be skinny, not to be the size I was in high school or college, but to feel good and look good. Just keep pushing if you mess up remember you are human. Get back on track and don't beat yourself up about it. It took us both all of our lives to develop our eating habits and routines so it won't change overnight.
As you said...babysteps 0 -
My breaking point was three things happened in the space of a week. I was diagnosed as pre-diabetic, I wasn't sleeping properly and felt exhausted all the time and that kept me feeling unable to cope with life's stresses (so I ate them), and when I heard some teenagers laughing and whispering very loudly that me and my bouyfriend looked like Supersize and Superskinny like the TV programme. (He's very slim). It really crushed me. 3 years on and I have kept off the 4.5 stone (from 17.5 stone to 13 stone - I am 5ft 8) - and am working at slowly losing a little bit more in time for my wedding to said boyfriend in Aug. I hope to lose a further stone. I've got a little over 3 months.... but if don't make it to 12 it's not the end of the world, I will still be fitter, slimmer and healthier.
Sometimes you do have to hit rock bottom before you can get back up in a different direction - and you can start by making small changes every day that become a new habit. If you realise that you can never "go back" to how you used to eat, that you have to make permanent changes that become your new regimen and you've made some rules (just for you) that you use to help you make decisions in supermarkets and when eating out you'll have a fighting chance. You don't have exclude the things you like - you just need to eat less of them and if you are eating emotionally, so an activity that makes you happy instead of trying to eat away the feeling.....
I'm walking proff that this can be done - you ARE worth it - and WHY NOT YOU?
good luck all!0 -
Sending a friend request now...your post caught my eye this morning...mostly because this is the first time I've been back in 4 months and of course I've gained back most of what I lost...I know I can lose it again with the help of my friends here...I too am not getting any younger or healthier unless I DO something about getting healthier at least... lets get going in the right direction again!0
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I love your post and can totally relate...story of my life...ugh!! My weight has been a life long struggle and I though I finally overcame if after I had my 4 year old twins. I gained 70 lbs while pregnant and lost 90 lbs afterwards. Over the past 2 years I have gained 40 of it back...WHAT??!! I am trying to get back on track...so I don't have to keep doing this over and over. I would love to be your friend! :-)0
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I start over EVERY MONDAY!! Messed up Tuesday.... and now today is Wednesday... need help and fitpal buddies! Starting again over again... today! Please add me if you are need support and motivation like I do!0
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Hi! I am back again using my fitpal app but this time I decided I need fitpal friends!
I made it half way thru my weight loss... started feeling comfortable and deprived and started eating again... 5 pounds crept up.... soon it will all be back if I do not stop now!
I am starting today and decided to look on the page here for friends that would help me and motivate me! I will do the same for you! I really would love fitpal friends that we can motivate and support each other!
Please add me as a friend if you think we can help each other! I want to be healthy and look great which will help every aspect of my life. Let's face it... overweight people get judged, picked last or not at all, overlooked... I do not want to be fat anymore!0 -
I can relate to about 98% of this. I'm adding you. 0
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Wow... I'm sitting here with tears in my eyes!! Maybe THIS will be the flip of the switch... THANK YOU !!!! 0
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My breaking point was three things happened in the space of a week. I was diagnosed as pre-diabetic, I wasn't sleeping properly and felt exhausted all the time and that kept me feeling unable to cope with life's stresses (so I ate them), and when I heard some teenagers laughing and whispering very loudly that me and my bouyfriend looked like Supersize and Superskinny like the TV programme. (He's very slim). It really crushed me. 3 years on and I have kept off the 4.5 stone (from 17.5 stone to 13 stone - I am 5ft 8) - and am working at slowly losing a little bit more in time for my wedding to said boyfriend in Aug. I hope to lose a further stone. I've got a little over 3 months.... but if don't make it to 12 it's not the end of the world, I will still be fitter, slimmer and healthier.
Sometimes you do have to hit rock bottom before you can get back up in a different direction - and you can start by making small changes every day that become a new habit. If you realise that you can never "go back" to how you used to eat, that you have to make permanent changes that become your new regimen and you've made some rules (just for you) that you use to help you make decisions in supermarkets and when eating out you'll have a fighting chance. You don't have exclude the things you like - you just need to eat less of them and if you are eating emotionally, so an activity that makes you happy instead of trying to eat away the feeling.....
I'm walking proff that this can be done - you ARE worth it - and WHY NOT YOU?
good luck all!
I CAN'T WAIT till my partner and I can get married!!! Here in the US, things are a little behind the times. Congrats to you and your boy... many many happy years together!! 0 -
I can relate to about 98% of this. I'm adding you.
YAY !!!0 -
Here's some links that might help.
Read these:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1217573-so-you-want-to-start-running
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/974888-in-place-of-a-road-map-2k13
TL:DR ->http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/975025-in-place-of-a-road-map-short-n-sweet
If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal
Want to lift heavy things?
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/
Stronglifts Summary
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/560459-stronglifts-5x5-summary
Stronglifts Womens Group
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/4601-stronglifts-5x5-for-women0 -
Hi! I am back again using my fitpal app but this time I decided I need fitpal friends!
I made it half way thru my weight loss... started feeling comfortable and deprived and started eating again... 5 pounds crept up.... soon it will all be back if I do not stop now!
I am starting today and decided to look on the page here for friends that would help me and motivate me! I will do the same for you! I really would love fitpal friends that we can motivate and support each other!
Please add me as a friend if you think we can help each other! I want to be healthy and look great which will help every aspect of my life. Let's face it... overweight people get judged, picked last or not at all, overlooked... I do not want to be fat anymore!
GIRL !!! It's on !! Let's do this !!!0 -
Here's some links that might help.
Read these:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1217573-so-you-want-to-start-running
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/974888-in-place-of-a-road-map-2k13
TL:DR ->http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/975025-in-place-of-a-road-map-short-n-sweet
If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal
Want to lift heavy things?
http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/
Stronglifts Summary
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/560459-stronglifts-5x5-summary
Stronglifts Womens Group
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/4601-stronglifts-5x5-for-women
Wow!! That's awesome!! Thanks for taking the time to put this information together for me... 0 -
YOU are awesome!!! Thanks for your note... we'll get through this, my friend!! 0
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Welcome back to your journey of renewing yourself. You are so important and you are making yourself important in your life! BRAVO!!!!0
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You go hun!! Well said! Thank you for sharing and making me smile! ♥0
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Great post.
Pretty sure if you keep those "big panties" up there you will be a resounding success.
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Get out of my head!!! Same exact thing going through my head. Great post. Requesting you now.0
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Oh oh Pick me Pick me!! I want to be your friend!!
I am right there with ya. I get really caught up in the unfairness of it all. But with that said, I find the key for me is something I can keep with longevity. I can not give up cake, ice cream, fast food, etc etc etc!! What I can do is make changes to help along the way.
I started in January this year with a goal of being down 50-60lbs by June. Its not going to happen. I started a workout program, then my husband jumped on board. He eats 3000 calories a day or more and builds muscle, drops weight, and makes me want to vomit. LOL. Well, it did. It doesn't now. I found my happy place with it all.
Anyways, my words of encouragement are this. The other day I read a post on social media where someone had lost weight and people were like "you look amazing, how'd you do it???" and the answer was "DON'T QUIT". That wasn't the answer they wanted but its the truth. Don't ever quit. Sure we all fall off sometimes. We all get in denial mode, but just don't quit. In the last couple weeks my weight has finally started losing again. It has taken forever to get it moving. I have changed food, calories, workouts, you name it, I have been doing it, but I finally have hit my magic numbers and it is starting to pay off after 4 long months of struggling. So. Don't Quit! Don't quit trying new healthy foods. Don't quit drinking water. Don't quit logging. Don't quit any of it. So what if today you started with sausage and a Pepsi? Oh well. Hell in this last month I have made a homemade baby shower cake, licked the frosting spoon, ate probably 1/3 of the cake, had McDs a few times, ate chips, chocolate, you name it I have done it, but I also made the choice to not let that stop me. I worked extra hard the next day to keep calories down, and workout more. I have decided I am not perfect. Regardless of what anyone says, YES I DO want to have that body, but NO I won't do without. I have settled in to a slow weight loss journey, walking with my BFF and lifting weights with my husband, as well as eating chips or ice cream with my kids. I just don't quit on making 85%-90% of my choices healthy.
And you want to know something? I don't like counting calories, or exercise at all. But I set challenges for myself to make them fun. LOL. Crazy but it works. Add me. I love your honesty, and the shrimp fork!!0 -
Hello! This is my second time in. I did good the first time, but then went on vacation, then holiday's came, and then there were the parties with all that great party food! So here I am again! Starting over.
I agree totally about making yourself drive past those fast food places. I cave in a lot with fast food and junk food when I am over tired, so I finally realized it and that is when I have to try the most. For some reason I eat more when I am over tired, and my daily exercise, well, let's just say that doesn't happen. So, my new thought process is to get good rest and make myself stick to this program. I've got to do it. Nobody else will do it for me.
You can do it! Once you see weight coming off you will get even more motivated. Baby steps, yes, they work, just stick to it.
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Hi Brand new too! In it with you and 13 lbs is my 1st (supposedly manageable) goal, it does not get me into healthy BMI by a long shot.
It's either a never-ending daily battle or as they say, "a life-style" change. I do believe that repeated over and over, the new ways created towards food and exercise can become habit.
We all just got REAL COZY having whatever we wanted when we wanted and in excess.
Party is over but doesn't have to be a total drag. Upside is losing all the negative feelings about what we look like, how nothing fits, and how we just want to hide and avoid people on an especially bad scale or outfit day.:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:0 -
Hi there! Still keeping pretty good with my program. I have my exercise room all situated with a treadmill and a TV/DVD for my Mary Windsor Pilates 20 min basic workout. I have to tell you....Pilates is a miracle exercise...at first it's hard to bend, but after about a week, you feel better, and another week, you see yourself sliming down! The treadmill helps me with the calorie count! Or I walk outside if it's nice out. Keep up the good work everyone and stay away from that junk food as much as possible.0
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This is me, too! I welcome any and all friends. I am starting over for what feels like my 50th time. Gonna get there one day.0
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