Mom to mom

Take a deep breath!! I've been there, I have a 3.5 year old and a 20 month old.
This may sound cliche but it takes time and is not going to happen over night. You are putting way to much pressure on yourself to be perfect, take care of everyone including yourself and its super hard to do when babies are so unpredictable. I work full time as well as go to school, luckily school is online.

I have struggled with keeping motivated until recently and my youngest is now 20 months. i have recently started scheduling myself workouts. I walk on my 10 minute breaks. yes its only 10 minutes but it is better than nothing. Sometimes i will walk during my lunch break or go to the gym. I'm lucky that my sitter watches the kids until 530 so if I have time I will go to the gym after work.

i got rid of the bad snacks at my desk, it was too easy to eat the candy. I try and make sure I bring veggies that I enjoy eating with me to fill me up.

its really about a mind set, and it is hard to have that mindset when you are waking up every couple hours with a 2 month old. Take a deep breath and in time things will fall into place. Enjoy your baby they really do grow up fast!

i can totally relate. my babies are now 2 and 4 and it's just been in the last few months i've started "figuring it out" and making time to care for myself. i understand the pressure to do all the things - working full-time and parenting full-time and running a household full-time is insanely exhausting and i hope you give yourself a pat on the back every day for all the amazing things you do! it's unfortunate that you're not feeling fully supported in your roles at home; i really hope that changes for you.

i've found some really good, quick workouts (and no equipment necessary!) on neilarey.com. right now i'm in the midst of this 30 day program: http://neilarey.com/programs/30-days-of-change.html. i make myself do this whenever i have time during the day, and i've also started going to the gym before i start work in the morning (which is easier for me than for some since i work at home). not sure if any of this will be useful to you, but please know you're not alone - so many of us have been in the same position. also remember that you are doing an amazing job if your baby is being fed, cleaned, and allowed to rest - give yourself permission to slack on the non-essential stuff, and let yourself be nice to yourself, because you are rockin' this!

I agree with Arf24_1 My babies are 5 and 2, and I am just starting to find time for myself. It takes a long time to be able to find mom time when they are that young. I did it all too being my hubby and I were seperate shifts. Took a bit to come back to me time. But now I am there and loving it. Just do little things, like someone else said, concentrate on one thing at a time. Maybe eating better is the first step and then bring in little routines of excercise

Oh, Sweetie, have I been there! Remember that you are creating a new lifestyle for yourself, and sorting that out takes time. I have two kids, a part time job, and am also the co founder of a non-profit. My marriage is great, my kids are awesome, happy, and well-cared for, I run, do pilates, and karate. However, my house is a constant mess. And guess what? Its okay! You really can't do everything, and something has to give. I decided that it wouldn't be me (a health crisis helped me prioritize!) or my family. Over the years (my kids are now 9 and 7) I've slowly gotten better and better at fitting more and more in, and my husband is learning what he needs to do and how to help. Again, its a slow process, but I and my family are better for it. Best of luck to you, and please feel free to PM me for venting, questions, ideas, etc.

Congrats on the new baby. Enjoy it now. They do grow very fast. My husband did the same thing when our son was born. We both work full time and the only day we all are together is Sunday and Monday when I get off work. As soon as I would get home, my husband would just let me feed him and bathe him and put him to bed. Eventually I got fed up with it. I told him that on the days that he was off, that is his bonding time with our son. And that I didn't want our son to not have a great relationship with him. It was like a light switch went on. All except for the house cleaning part! lol... But getting better. Please don't stress yourself out about losing baby weight so fast. It will come back just as fast. Change your eating habits to healthier ones. Take the little one on walks with you. I also try to go to the gym in the morning. I am just to tired after work and that is my times with my lil man. I hope this helps a little.

Anna

i understand! literally, i understand. i work full time and have three kids 4 years old and under.
take a deep breath.
and then take another one.

you are in a vicious cycle. you're having trouble taking care of yourself b/c you are overwhelmed and anxious about being overwhelmed and anxious. you are me. you need to break this down and do one thing at a time. and you.will.be.ok and go easier on yourself. it sounds so simple and i know when you are overwhelmed this sounds like throw away advise but literally go easier.

you need to ask for help. how have you asked for help? maybe you think you've asked your husband for help but how have you said it? have said to him "husband, I'm struggling, I'm having a hard time taking care of myself which makes it hard for me to care for our marriage and baby" have you said anything close to that? and then this is where you can ask for specifics like bath the baby, go grocery shopping, putting the baby sleep sharing the schedule, etc.

the food plan will come if you can reduce you're anxiety. good luck

I feel for you. I am mom to four that are almost all teenagers now. It's been a while since those frustrating baby days of sleep deprivation and no one to help. I am sorry you are having a tough time of it. You have come to the right place for motivation and support. I don't have enough time to read everyone else's posts (wish I could, but got kiddos to pick up). If any one said structure and organization with your diet and exercise, I agree with them. Logging your food and exercise will help you more than you would ever believe.

There are tons of people on mfp that know exactly where you are at and will always have someone to help get you through rough spots in motherhood and your weight loss journey. Don't hesitate to reach out for help. Sorry if I'm rambling, but got to go. If you need friends, please add me if you'd like.

It will get easier, just takes time.

That sounds very hard. I waited until my kids were older before I went back to exercising.