Oh good, I'm not the only one who needs to vent!

SkFarmMom · May 2014

So I've been trying for YEARS to get in better shape, but my Hubby keeps (unintentionally) undermining my efforts...like the time I got into karate (and REALLY enjoyed it)...but he kept having things he wanted to do on Tuesday evenings at 7 and eventually I just dropped it... :-P ...or I'd try to improve my eating habits (ie, regular meals instead of skipping, increasing veggies/etc) and suddenly he felt we should be having ice cream every evening for a month...or the times I really wanted to get a gym membership, but it was too expensive or inconvenient or not safe enough for me to go alone (bearing in mind that I'm 5'9" 200+Lbs, castrate animals for fun and know how to handle a 30-06, a 12 gauge and a 13" cast iron skillet

So I joined MFP 5 days ago and have been stepping up my activity and drastically overhauling my eating (for the better...I used to skip meals like crazy and now I'm forcing myself to get my recommended intake and I'm already feeling better/more energy. Well after months of telling me I "look just fine" this morning we got in a little scrap...he was throwing a baseball with our son, who missed the catch, caught it in the eye, took off running in tears. Hubby made some comment about it not being a big deal because the ball had a rubber core, not a real hardball...I told him to "kiss my bum" (not a euphemism...I don't swear, but I was REALLY annoyed)...he decided to pick that particular moment to impress upon me that my derriere was so large "it would take all day"...did I mention I castrate animals for fun?? After 4 days of wanting to chew his arms off from hunger (who knew upping your intake could actually make you feel hungrier) I felt like chewing them off and beating him with them.

Anyway...that's my rant for the day! I feel better now.

Time to get on with my day, going to take my size 14 backside on a little bike ride.

bcattoes · May 2014

Truly bizarre post. On many levels.

_Josee_ · May 2014

Here we go AGAIN!

jason_adams · May 2014

I'm glad you're tracking things and upping your activity. I know that act of establishing control helps me handle life a lot better.

Please don't remove any human or animal body parts for funz or lolz.
Hope your son feels better.

StaciMarie1974 · May 2014

The passive-aggressive stuff is annoying. Been there, though on different topics. After years (our oldest is about to be 16) I've reached the point where I tell him what I think - more often at least. For us its more about 'do me a favor'. I'll be getting ready for bed, he'll ask me to make him some popcorn. Finally reached the point where I'll tell him no, but he's welcome to make it for himself. Just an example.

Start small somewhere. If he suggests ice cream - suggest he take the kids and go without you, or if you have a frozen yogurt place nearby suggest that instead. (They are popping up all over the place around me, like Starbucks a couple of decades ago.)

TheBrolympus · May 2014

I hope you work on a farm and don't just randomly castrate animals you find.

You control what goes into your mouth not him. IF he wants ice cream, let him go by himself. For someone that can handle guns, animal testes, and an iron skillet, you don't seem to have much will power.

MostlyWater · May 2014

wow

RekindledRose · May 2014

I can totally relate! You are not the only one.

Friend request on the way.

brower47 · May 2014

SkFarmMom · May 2014

I hope you work on a farm and don't just randomly castrate animals you find.

Haha!!! Yes, I live on a farm, and I only castrate animals that need it...(and that belong to me)...I learned some neat skills when I worked at a pig barn for about 4 months, like how to surgically remove testes from within the abdominal cavity if they aren't descended and how to do sutures, but that's a story for another day...don't worry, it was always with proper sedation, sterile technique and only after adequate training.

(I always wanted to be a vet so I found the job fascinating.)

You control what goes into your mouth not him. IF he wants ice cream, let him go by himself. For someone that can handle guns, animal testes, and an iron skillet, you don't seem to have much will power.

That is absolutely true, but I come from a fairly conservative patriarchal background and grew up with the understanding that wives are to "submit to their husbands"...so it's been an interesting (12 year) journey learning how to balance my personal individuality and desires with my conscience when what I want conflicts with the expressed wishes of my Hubby. (He didn't grow up with any such notions and doesn't expect it of me, so it's entirely an internal conflict.) I could hijack my own thread going down that rabbit trail, but I'll just leave it as, I'm learning to respectfully stand up for myself and my needs when they aren't being met and thankfully he's very receptive when I do. (About a month ago I finally was able to get him to realize why the gym thing was so important to me and instantly was on board, so now I'm just waiting for the fall (when the yard/farm work slows down and the calves and lambs go to market) to get my membership and start.

Oh...and we live in the sticks...so we don't "go" for ice cream...Him wanting it = me dishing up a cereal bowl full for him. (He's spoiled, but he reciprocates...in other ways.

I have gotten much better about getting him a treat and grabbing a piece of fruit or a tea for myself, having one spoonful or just skipping it altogether.

fivethreeone · May 2014

SkFarmMom · May 2014

I'm glad you're tracking things and upping your activity. I know that act of establishing control helps me handle life a lot better.

Please don't remove any human or animal body parts for funz or lolz.
Hope your son feels better.

LOL!! I promise I only remove animal body parts, and only when it's necessary. I love animals, have a strong interest in veterinary medicine and perhaps...a slightly warped sense of humor...

Yes...our little man is fully recovered.

skullshank · May 2014

MyChocolateDiet · May 2014

All the urban ppl in the house say..

ew_david · May 2014

I'd say something funny, but female castration is not something I want happening to me.

baba_helly · May 2014

Holy ****

I need a nap

squishycatmew · May 2014

LOL I love how everyone is flipping out over the castration thing, while I immediately assumed you were a vet/vet tech or worked on a farm. As a city kid who seriously considered veterinary school and spent a lot of time in animal shelters, I know how simple a procedure that really is.