How did you feel when someone mentioned your weightloss
ek0513
Posts: 147 Member
Today, for the first time since I started losing weight (25 lbs in 4 months) someone mentioned that they noticed I was losing weight. I was wondering how you guys feel when someone compliments you on your weightloss. I personally felt uncomfortable, and I didn't really tell anyone I was losing weight. It's just one of those things that is awkward for me. I was wondering what everyone else here felt, or feels when someone mentions your weightloss
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I always feel uncomfortable when people point it out. Proud of my hardwork...But uncomfortable.0
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I feel extremely uncomfortable. Was really hard for me yesterday, went to a family do, and people kept talking about it, and commenting on my diet (also in the 'Don't eat that, I can see you are on a diet!'-way) and I hateeeeeeeeeeeeee it... I'm considering not going to the next family do, because it just drives me up the wall0
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I feel dam good about it lol even though this is all for me it is nice when someone notices0
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Yeah I don't know why but it felt uncomfortable as well. I couldn't understand why though. As it felt nice, and made me happy as well0
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It was great at first, nice to see that people noticed the results of my hard work. Lately, though, it's been more uncomfortable. I am ten pounds from goal (down almost 100 lbs in 2 1/2 years, 72 lbs since last fall) and I've started to have people tell me, "Oh, you're getting too thin, you need to stop losing weight!" "If you lose any more, you're going to disappear" and similar annoying comments. I had one friend actually tell me that I need to gain weight (I'm 5'5 and 156 now, not at all scrawny) because it was 'unhealthy to lose that much weight', and that it's bad for my heart to exercise six days a week.0
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It depends on who's mentioning it. If its a close family member than I get happy that someone has noticed because sometimes I wonder if I'm making any progress that's noticeable. Some family members and just other people, I am happy but at the same uncomfortable because I still feel embarrassment of my starting weight and hope they don't keep on talking about my weight.0
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Embarrassed. Not used to that kind of attention.
But proud of my weight loss. It's been hard work!0 -
I feel embarrassed (I seem to get these comments on a weekly basis from people at work). Especially when people tell me I'm looking nice and slim now... back handed compliment! So I looked like crap before? (this is just how my head works and I realize that they don't mean it this way)
But then, there is no pleasing me. When meeting up with the BFs family (who I hadn't seen in a couple of months), not one of them mentioned it - which miffed me slightly.0 -
If it is my fiance, fabulous...but anyone else, very uncomfortable. Partly because I always feel like I'm gonna gain it back anyway so I feel like I don't deserve the compliment. I went from like, 200+ to 140 and kept it off til I got knocked up (with horrible pregnancy depression...and major emotional eating) but ever since my daughter was born four years ago, I've been having a really tough time. Lost about forty (which was only about half the weight I gained during pregnancy) and gained it all back about two years ago. So I usually feel very undeserving because I know I'll fail and gain it back. I also have never accepted a friend request on MFP because I don't want the accolades from my "friends" on my progress! (Again, because I feel I wouldn't deserve it.) I do really really enjoy seeing my ticker progress though...when it progresses in the right direction!!!0
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it depends on who it is, if it's my family i'm ok with it, my supportive friends i'm ok with, my "you've lost too much, you look ill" friends i hate them mentioning it as it makes me feel like rubbish, i also hate strangers or casual acquaintances mentioning it
why is it socially acceptable for somebody to say "you've got thin" (or words to that effect) but not socially acceptable to say "haven't you got fat/put weight on". ok so i do realise that to say somebody has put weight on or is fat is rude, but unless they are family or a friend i find it equally rude to mention my weight loss.
a good example of this is.... my husband took me to one of his friends weddings, i don't really have much to do with his friends so they hadn't seen me in a couple of years, they were all full of compliments and kept telling me how good i looked, instead of making me happy, this made me paranoid that his friends had been pitying my husband for marrying the fat frump, when his usual type was dolly bird, that probably wasn't the case (although i genuinely think it was) and i felt uncomfortable for the rest of the night, didn't help that a couple of them kept coming up and repeating themselves over and over, i just wanted to hide
i also think the more i lose, the worse i actually handle people mentioning my weight loss, hopefully i will learn to deal with it better one day :sad:0 -
I don't comment on other people's weight...and I'm generally irritated if they don't pay me the same courtesy.0
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Not very happy, they all said I look anorexic and need to bulk hard. The only people that said this are the ones that have belly fat and want to loose it. The others say, you do look quite slim now, but yeah as long as you know what you're doing and are bulking, then keep doing what your doing.0
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Friends and family, no problems. Strangers though....I did feel uncomfortable last year. One morning I arrived at my gym getting ready to start my workout routine when a fit, blonde lady just came up to me, said hi and mentioned she had been noticing me the past few months and could tell I had lost weight and wanted to congratulate me. Caught me off guard since I had been coming to this gym for nearly 2 years and it was the first time anyone approached me out of the blue. She then asked me how much if I didn't mind telling and I told her and she was surprised. I felt a bit weirded out by the slight shock on her face when I told her the amount I have lost but got over it quickly. She said I was an inspiraton. I thanked her for her kind words and went on my way. I don't care now. I don't ever mention it first unless people ask or are already talking about it.0
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i m happy and proud of my hard work.0
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I actually wanted to hear someone mention it that I looked like I lost weight. It took 20 lbs before someone said something. I've kind of mixed feelings. I wanted to know others noticed but at same time don't want it to be a big thing.
If someone says it looks like you lost weight, my answer is that I'm trying. I keep the info short.
I provide no further comment unless asked.
In some ways I am treating my weight loss as a secret. I know something they don't know and it's rather empowering. As I KNOW I am loosing weight.
And we all know even those that verbally support us often don't believe it will happen. So again . . . I have a secret they don't know.
I have to say as a discaimer, I know this goes against most recommendations. It is suggested to talk openly and to build a support group when loosing weight. However, in my case I have friends and family that are supportive, I just feel they are also non-believers that are just being nice.0 -
I appreciate that someone notices and thank them. Then I move on to something else. I get embarrassed if they won't leave the subject alone.0
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I don't like dwelling on the topic, but I do appreciate it when someone notices it, because all the responses have been nice. I don't mind the ones that say "well done, keep going!" though that's getting a bit personal!0
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People started mentioning it once I hit around 16lb lost and now it happens a few times a week. I honestly really enjoy when it happens! I do get a bit awkward when they carry on with ''are you doing it on purpose?'' and a load of questions but just a quick mention is cool with me.0
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I felt fantastic! I've lost 4kgs in the two months or so and family + family friends have been mentioning how good I'm looking! Hearing their comments makes me want to work harder. It's awesome to know my hard work and effort is finally paying off!0
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Its getting mentioned to me that much when I'm in the office at the moment, and the local shop for that matter (same owners) that its starting to get on my getting ever smaller tits.
I wish now that people would just be happy and not have to mention it to me all the time, I do eat crap sometimes and not done it as quick as some people on here, but I'm only 15lb from my goal now and its getting a bit boring talking to people about it, just let me get on with it.
If people want help, just ask me directly rather than asking other people what I'm eating and doing exercise wise to lose weight.
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When people tell me I've lost weight they're pretty much stating the obvious, since I've lost almost 18 kgs. I have come to realize that I look like another person if compared to 2-3 years ago, but honestly, no one hasn't been seeing me for such a long time. I've lost my weight gradually so it wasn't so noticeable while I was losing it. I've still received compliments and comments starting from the first months, and I still get comments about it whenever I'm back home from my relatives (considering that I study abroad and they can't see me for several months in a row). I don't mind when they say it, even though I know exactly how much I've lost, how long it's taken me and so on, so I honestly know about my own weightloss better than they ever could. But it bothers me when they start commenting about how my weightloss affected my appereance - I don't like when they say that I look good, or that I shouldn't lose more weight. I know I've changed a lot, but I still am chubby and it's noticeable. I don't plan on losing much more weight because I don't want to be thin, but I'm still nowhere near being fit and I don't see why they should talk to me as I was already "done".0
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Only my husband has noticed my weight loss, no one else has said anything.
I'd love it if someone had noticed!0 -
My years ago when I had just left my job I lost around 90lbs (I put it all back on I'm afraid). When I went back to visit my old colleagues a couple of them walked past me completely because they didn't recognise me! People were complimentary but I did feel a bit uncomfortable that some people that didn't really take much notice of me when I worked there all of a sudden wanted to be friendly with me.
On another note I also noticed that I got much more attention from sales assistants in clothes stores! Whereas I used to be ignored and practically had to stalk a sales assistant to get any help before all of a sudden they were coming up to me and asking if they could help me. I should have felt delighted by this but in fact I felt really quite angry, I was still the same person as before but just wearing smaller clothing - it was almost like being fat meant I was a non-person which I think is a disgusting way to treat another human being. Having said all that it doesn't stop me wanting to lose the weight again as I want to be healthy.0 -
Highly uncomfortable. Especially when your family goes bragging about it to everyone in sight. Ugh just leave me be with my program and let people take notice themselves please. Don't get me wrong it's nice to be complimented and all but there is a fine line between compliment and torture to even go anywhere. Especially clothing shopping where they mention your weight loss and the sales clerks fake being happy for you just to get a sale because they know you're buying a whole new wardrobe.0
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Agreed, it's uncomfortable.. the more weight you lose the worst it gets. Not that thats a bad thing really, just uncomfortable. Then they ask you for tips, like you cheated or something.0
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well for me it depends. some ppl look at me with weird face and say 'OMG wht happened to u??!! r u sick or something??!!' that is when i feel bad..
but if some1 looks at me n say 'wow, u look good and healthy, keep it up girl' thts when i like it..0 -
i started a size 16 - 18 and now i'm a 10 - 12, my boss keeps telling me to stop losing weight and even though i am only 5'4" and do not mention my weight loss unless someone mentions it to me, i enjoy shopping now and my friends and other work pals have been lovely, so now i just smile at her and do not answer, good luck everyone, your doing great, dieting isn't easy but the result is fab!!!! i have 18 lbs to go and i'm going to make it there and be smiling inside and out!!!!0
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At first, after losing about 20 lbs, really good. Now, it makes me feel super awkward and uncomfortable. It's just something about the conversation being focused on my body, and what I look like now compared to what I looked like before, and just ugh. I don't know how to respond. I usually just mumble something about how I feel, physically, and try to change the subject. The worst is when I got, "You look so much better now!" Well thanks, bro, I didn't think I looked that bad before.
I understand, though, that people are going to be interested and are going to comment. I've almost halved my body weight and that's not going to go unnoticed. It's just something I'm going to have to deal with.0
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