Why can't I seem to do this...

anxietywhore140
anxietywhore140 Posts: 1 Member
in Motivation and Support
Hello,

I'm 19 years old and work primarily at a desk, there isn't a lot of time that I am on the move at the moment. It seems that this wastes all my energy that I had in the morning.
I want to start a running program that means going to my gym after work but I dont seem to have the motivation to do anything else but go home and cook my dinner!
I also keep failing at sticking to a healthy diet plan because there are so many temptations and I just can't help myself.
Living away from home I dont have my boyfriend to keep me on track and help me. I have no support system around me.

Basically... How can I get motivated to actually strive for my goal! I need to lose this weight for my health!
Thank you in advance!

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  • cebreisch
    cebreisch Posts: 1,340 Member
    Well, for starters, get past the idea that you have to be perfect at eating and exercising for this to work. All it takes is determination, and willingness to get uncomfortable.

    I've lost my weight so far without really exercising at all. It really is true what they say about "calories in vs. calories out."

    Realize your limits. Being willing to do this is a big part of the battle. Making changes in such a way that it doesn't blow you out is just as big a part.

    If all you can manage right now is to make healthier dinners, then that's what you do until you can add something else, like drinking more water, into the equation. I started with not going to some fast food place every day for breakfast - although I did this morning, but I haven't in a long while. I usually have yogurt for breakfast.

    Also - find something that's worthwhile to you to warrant being uncomfortable. Some sort of reward. It could be anything from learning how to knit or crochet or buying a new purse or just "getting away for the weekend" when you hit certain milestones.

    You can do this!
  • weatheredcheese
    weatheredcheese Posts: 112 Member
    Hey, this is all down to you and your attitude to your life and adventure.

    Not having the motivation because of work suggests work is getting you down, but what is more satisfying that completing a work out and knowing you are one more step towards your goal.

    As for temptation, it is hard to say 'No' but 'No' is a 2 letter word which simply rolls off the tongue, try it and you will find it easier to say the second time, then the third and so on.
  • sadrithmora
    sadrithmora Posts: 121
    Lost weight without exercising as well, but I'm pre-e-e-etty sure you're much better off with exercise :)

    As for temptations, have you tried packing lunch with you so you don't need to tempt yourself with other stuff? Does your work allow you to access your diary to log after (even better-before) your meals?
  • gypsy_spirit
    gypsy_spirit Posts: 2,107 Member
    "When you are ready to lose the weight and get healthy you will."

    Someone said this to me a few years ago and I thought they were crazy. But you know, they were exactly right. When I was ready -- I had the right mindset for all the work that had to be done.

    Motivation is not very reliable. You need to just get up and do it every day. Every day. Change one thing at a time. Build good habits around workouts and eating well.

    Most importantly, until you are truly ready, this will seem too hard, too tiring, too time consuming, too much effort...well, you get the picture. Until you are ready - any excuse will do.
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    "When you are ready to lose the weight and get healthy you will."

    Someone said this to me a few years ago and I thought they were crazy. But you know, they were exactly right. When I was ready -- I had the right mindset for all the work that had to be done.

    Motivation is not very reliable. You need to just get up and do it every day. Every day. Change one thing at a time. Build good habits around workouts and eating well.

    Most importantly, until you are truly ready, this will seem too hard, too tiring, too time consuming, too much effort...well, you get the picture. Until you are ready - any excuse will do.

    exactly this...
  • samthepanda
    samthepanda Posts: 569 Member
    if all you can manage is baby steps at the moment then that's okay - do those, as long as you are doing something. If you can't get to the gym to do a running programme, then is there something you can do in or around home? I started exercise using the wii fit, curtains closed! Could you run outside? Is the running programme a group thing that the gym organises, if so you might find other members and staff will help motivate you? I still find it hard to motivate myself to go to the gym sometimes, so I try and go for classes - freestyle are great for pushing me - and the gym staff have been very supportive when I've been struggling sometimes. I found really hard to speak to them at first (I'm quite an anxious person) but its been worth making the effort. If you have more energy in the morning, could you exercise then?
    Weatheredchee is right, the first No is really hard but it does get easier. You can have treats and nice things, but try and balance these with healthy choices.
  • _HeartsOnFire_
    _HeartsOnFire_ Posts: 5,304 Member
    "When you are ready to lose the weight and get healthy you will."

    Someone said this to me a few years ago and I thought they were crazy. But you know, they were exactly right. When I was ready -- I had the right mindset for all the work that had to be done.

    Motivation is not very reliable. You need to just get up and do it every day. Every day. Change one thing at a time. Build good habits around workouts and eating well.

    Most importantly, until you are truly ready, this will seem too hard, too tiring, too time consuming, too much effort...well, you get the picture. Until you are ready - any excuse will do.

    QFT.

    Also I found this quote the other day. Maybe it'll help you.

    Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice.
    -Wayne Dyer

    Some of these links may help you.

    Read these:
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here?hl=so+you're+new+here

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1217573-so-you-want-to-start-running

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/974888-in-place-of-a-road-map-2k13

    TL:DR ->http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/975025-in-place-of-a-road-map-short-n-sweet

    If you have 75+ lbs to lose 2 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 40-75 lbs to lose 1.5 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 25-40 lbs to lose 1 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have 15 -25 lbs to lose 0.5 to 1.0 lbs/week is ideal
    If you have less than 15 lbs to lose 0.5 lbs/week is ideal

    Want to lift heavy things?
    http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/

    Stronglifts Summary
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/560459-stronglifts-5x5-summary

    Stronglifts Womens Group
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/4601-stronglifts-5x5-for-women

    Remember, it's about moderation not deprivation. You can do this. You have to make decide to make the choice and decide to do it. It's up to you.

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