Should a 5'9.6 145 girl want to lose weight

Losing weight shouldn't be your goal, you're definitely in the healthy range. Consider going to the gym to help build muscle and tone. I've never seen a woman who works out a lot and doesn't look amazing.

You are a perfectly healthy weight. This honestly sounds more like a self esteem issue than a weight issue. Just remember that the grass is always greener on the other side. I can guarantee you that many of those small dainty girls you talk about would love to be tall and curvy. Learn to embrace what you have and be confident. The guy who is interested in you wouldn't be interested in you if he wanted small and petite and dainty.

If you are unhappy with how your body looks, maybe look into weight training and changing how your weight is distributed. Plus it makes you feel bada** and feels great. But as far as losing weight, no. You definitely don't need to.

Listen to stuff she knows her stuff.... Are your friends the same height as you... You will figure it out one day that you cannot compare weight... I would suggest not worrying about the scale but adding some weight training and get theses muscles to pop, that's way sexier than a skinny girl....
Good luck with your decisions.

Happy to help, you're a beautiful girl don't let the haters hate.

I am a teenager who is 145 lb at 5'9.5. I have a lot of friends who are like 120 pounds and it makes me feel depressed/sad because I know I will never weigh that little.

I wear a size 4 dress, small to medium top (I have a larger bust so I usually have to go up a size in shirts just for that reason alone) and a size 7-8 in jeans/shorts, I carry a lot of weight in my hips and rear end and the top/back of my thighs otherwise my legs are slim. My stomach is usually quite flat as I drink plenty of water and eat low carb (I have a carb intolerance but also don't like bread, rice, pasta much anyways) but the number really bugs me. I feel unattractive to men at 145 pounds. At my highest I was 165 lb but lost the weight as I have matured (I think it was more puppy fat/baby fat. My doctor is not concerned) I just don't feel very feminine like petite and dainty at my height and especially my weight. I have long legs and arms and I feel like a man.

The current guy interested in me is very open about his weight of 195 lb at 6'0 (he is an athlete so he carries a lot of muscle, you would have no idea he actually weighs close to 200 pounds) but I have been shutting him down and denying him access to me emotionally because I feel as though he deserves a petite, dainty girl which I am not.

I feel stuck and like I am closing doors because of my weight.

So the fact that he's with you doesn't mean anything? I'm sure if he was unhappy with you he wouldn't stick around.
And at 145 for a women that's 5'9", there's nothing wrong with that. And for the record, plenty of men like taller women, including myself.

No.

I know the feeling of "everything would be so much different if I were different. Since age 11, I've hated my body. I've been thick and I've been thin but the self-loathing has remained. I don't even know why anymore but am afraid at age 60 I'm beyond fixing the self-image issue. Don't be like me! Realize that the problem isn't your weight or height, it's how you see yourself. Fix that.

Plus your weight is fine for your height. Learn to carry yourself with pride. Nutrition and exercise would be fine to focus on, but only to bring out the best in who you are and how you feel, not to totally change yourself. Find some awesome and accomplished tall women to relate to; don't look at the dainty girls.

Hon, you're gorgeous, and no you're not "petite" at 5'9 but you look plenty dainty!

Don't shut down a guy because you're assuming what he should be into. ESPECIALLY when you really are way hotter than you're giving yourself credit for. I remember how that feels, and it sucks, but thats where self-confidence has to come in and say "Cut the crap, girl! You're hawt!"

And even if you do have some meat on your thighs, you should be strutting around like Beyonce or something because there's nothing to be ashamed of. I personally LOVE my thighs. Oh and I'm 1/2 a foot shorter than you and a couple pounds heavier. So seriously, quit being so hard on yourself or you're going to miss out on a lot of happiness.

You are tall. You are not ever ever going to be small and dainty. You just aren't. You need to accept that. All women, all people are NOT the same. It would be boring if we were. It's okay to be "bigger" than the average female. That does not make you man-ish in any way. It just makes you bigger than the average female. (And honestly you really aren't that tall, I had a friend in college, female, 6'6")

And yes, 145lbs is perfectly healthy for your height. I am 5'8.75" (If we are getting so exact) and I currently weigh 155lbs and am perfectly healthy and atheistically pleasing to myself and my husband. I find it pretty awesome to be tall and big.

If a man is interested in you, he's interested in you! You don't get to decide what girl he "deserves" or should be with. He likes you. Let him like you.

Losing weight shouldn't be your goal, you're definitely in the healthy range. Consider going to the gym to help build muscle and tone. I've never seen a woman who works out a lot and doesn't look amazing.

^^^^^ THIS!!

umm. looking at your profile pic you are very slim. you shouldnt wanna lose weight because others weigh less. 145 is just a number. and if he is chasing you then he wants you for you. what your doing is very unhealthy emotionally. you are tall slender and beautiful be proud of that and embrace it.

O: you're sexy <.< I would kill to look like you, but my genetics would never let me.

you should just know that I am the same age as you, 6'0 tall and 347 pounds <.< you really shouldn't worry.

also weight doesnt actually matter you should actually focus on building muscle if you want to look leaner. if you go to the gym and work out you would look better, maybe gain some weight but muscle weight is 100x sexier than fat weight so it doesn't matter!

If the guy is interested in you now, then he likes you how you are. If he wanted a dainty girl thats what he would have gone for. Be confident in yourself and embrace your body. Confidence is sexy no matter what size you are. I learned the hard way, and if i could have a redo I would have loved myself alot more. Even now, with the extra weight I have put on, I attract alot more attention simply because I have learned to love myself and let my confidence show.

Tall Girl Opinion (Age 35 now, but was a teen years ago)

You are beautiful at 145, I'm sure! I was 5'9 in HS and was 122lbs when I graduated as a senior. IMPORTANT NOTE: I was a 32A (tiny bust). I was did not like my size and always felt tall and skinny. I played volleyball and basketball and ate plenty, but remained skinny with a butt. In college I graduated at 22yrs old at 5'11 at 129lbs (Yes you can keep growing after age 18, I did not stop growing until I was 21). Still felt like I was too thin. My doctor like yours said I was fine, did not need to gain weight or lose weight. Note 129lbs is under normal BMI, but she never left me think I was underweight. She said this because we are all proportioned differently. (I did not have much chest, but I had a nice size butt) Seems like us tall girls get butts :-)

I am now 35yrs old, 5'11 and 148lbs and trying to get to 143lbs (my wedding day weight) but also with toning/muscles. Again, I still have no chest :-). I think you at 145 is beautiful and you stated you had a larger chest. IF I HAD any boobs I'm sure I would be happy at 155-160. Your weight could be in your chest and butt (and women like me dream of those top curves in the bust area). I don’t even no how much boobs weigh each, as mine are tiny. I'm sure you should get at least 3-5lbs per breast. But I don’t know. I can only dream of them. My husband told me his father always told him "Sometimes" good things come in small packages. My husband was referring to my breast. I quote "sometimes" because we are all overly blessed in certain areas and that is a blessing. Though I was not overly blessed in my breast, they are still a good thing.

Basically, I want to encourage you to just stay active at such a young age. Also I believe I didn’t gain much weight in college because I was active, walking everywhere, riding my bike, dancing/partying etc.... So I added close to 20lbs from less activity and life changes.

I wish you the best and you look back in that mirror and see the beautiful young woman you are!