Body shaming!!

prium01
prium01 Posts: 306 Member
Once we start losing weight, we start body shaming:explode: , finding faults with our body....while putting on we don't even think :huh: about it....does anybody know why this happens....

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  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    This should end well.
  • SIMAKRA
    SIMAKRA Posts: 97 Member
    maybe you expect too much?
  • KseRz
    KseRz Posts: 980 Member
    Once we start losing weight, we start body shaming:explode: , finding faults with our body....while putting on we don't even think :huh: about it....does anybody know why this happens....

    No work so starting a discussion....

    Welcome to join!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

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  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Once we start losing weight, we start body shaming:explode: , finding faults with our body....while putting on we don't even think :huh: about it....does anybody know why this happens....

    No work so starting a discussion....

    Welcome to join!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

    MadMagazine-WhatYouMeanWe.jpg

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • cbhubbybubble
    cbhubbybubble Posts: 465 Member
    No, I was pretty good at it before I was losing weight.
  • prium01
    prium01 Posts: 306 Member
    I did not mean all of us...some of us would agree...its just psychology I guess...
  • sassyjae21
    sassyjae21 Posts: 1,217 Member
    No, I was pretty good at it before I was losing weight.

    Lol me too. I actually do it less, now.
  • BigT555
    BigT555 Posts: 2,067 Member
    i think its just because when you are trying to lose weight you are focused on that task, you are more likely to spot the aspects that you feel you need to improve on.

    when we put on weight its exactly as you said, we dont even think about it. although, alot of people still do think very much about it, which in alot of cases just causes them to eat more in an endless cycle of getting fatter, feeling worse, eating more, getting fatter....

    it could also have something to do with the fact that we know now that we can improve on these things, for example if someone has large love handles and they start to get into the habits of proper nutrition and fitness they realize eventually it just takes commitment to get rid of said love handles, so they can be more critical of them in the short term
  • Ashes_To_Beast
    Ashes_To_Beast Posts: 378 Member
    My opinion,
    When we put on we're not concerned or working on ourselves so we're simply not tracking or paying attention until it's to late.

    When we start losing it's a project and hard work so we expect results and tend to criticize ourselves a lot more.
  • Platform_Heels
    Platform_Heels Posts: 388 Member
    For me it's because in my head I have a way I want to look and I don't think I do. It doesn't matter how many people tell me I'm thin, fit, have an awesome body I don't see it.

    Then again I think I have a little bit of BDD
  • prium01
    prium01 Posts: 306 Member
    i think its just because when you are trying to lose weight you are focused on that task, you are more likely to spot the aspects that you feel you need to improve on.

    when we put on weight its exactly as you said, we dont even think about it. although, alot of people still do think very much about it, which in alot of cases just causes them to eat more in an endless cycle of getting fatter, feeling worse, eating more, getting fatter....

    it could also have something to do with the fact that we know now that we can improve on these things, for example if someone has large love handles and they start to get into the habits of proper nutrition and fitness they realize eventually it just takes commitment to get rid of said love handles, so they can be more critical of them in the short term

    Thanks for this! I totally agree..
  • Chieflrg
    Chieflrg Posts: 9,097 Member
    Once we start losing weight, we start body shaming:explode: , finding faults with our body....while putting on we don't even think :huh: about it....does anybody know why this happens....

    No work so starting a discussion....

    Welcome to join!! :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:

    It all evens out. When I am bulking, I end body shaming & begin body lip service...
  • darkrose20
    darkrose20 Posts: 1,139 Member
    According to the Huffington Post, every body is a biniki body. Hopefully, this will lessen your shame.
  • millerll
    millerll Posts: 873 Member
    Refusing to settle for mediocrity is not body shaming.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    According to the Huffington Post, every body is a biniki body. Hopefully, this will lessen your shame.

    I like this!!
  • Sinisterly
    Sinisterly Posts: 10,913 Member
    Idk, I'm only here for the kitten gifs.

    Kittens, anyone???
  • KatDJZ
    KatDJZ Posts: 224 Member
    I was thinking about this yesterday. I started off the day feeling good about my progress and the clothes I was wearing that fit better, but then I caught a look of myself in the mirror and I guess it just didn't match up with how I was feeling and I felt pretty bad for awhile. I mean, god knows I've looked this way for years, so it's certainly no surprise, but now that I'm working on it is when I decide to get all upset about it? Stupid.
  • DebbieLyn63
    DebbieLyn63 Posts: 2,654 Member
    Quite simply, when I was 50 pounds heavier I stayed away from mirrors and wore loose tent clothing to hide my body as much as possible. When I started losing and seeing progress, it was great, but I wanted more and more progress, and I wanted it to happen faster. I was working hard on my diet and exercise and my payoff was how I looked in smaller jeans.
    Tighter clothing reveals more of the excess fat that still needs to come off, so I tend to focus on what I still have left to accomplish.

    Before, I didn't think it was possible to ever wear form-fitting clothes again. Now I see the possibility, but now I want perfection.
    Goes with that all-or-nothing mentality I struggle with.
  • WendyAdelissa
    WendyAdelissa Posts: 11 Member
    Also Idk if anyone relates but I've been trying to lose weight for the past 21 years and it is a cycle of highly motivated, frustrated and give up maybe gain it all back plus some, and then a period of denial, repeat. I think for me I got larger and larger each time I tried to lose weight so now I am very critical since I have woken up and this is the worst shape my body has ever been in. But I also think I am more realistic than I have been in the past. I told a friend I don't care if I look good naked, I'll be satisfied if I look good with clothes on. Haha
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    Idk, I'm only here for the kitten gifs.

    Kittens, anyone???

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  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    I have struggled with an eating disorder. I have been overweight. I have been borderline obese. I have yo-yoed. From my experience, the insults are just as rough and just as frequent when you're thin as when you're fat. I've heard it all, and it isn't pleasant. I've been insulted with everything from comments about muffin tops and having 4 butt cheeks to having someone I thought was a close friend send me an email to ask me to stop losing because my arms looked gross - when I was still 20 pounds overweight, to a co-worker spreading rumor that I was doing drugs and sleeping with everyone in my office simply because a man she was interested in asked me on a date.

    The truth is that at least half of people suck. They are horrible, spiteful, self-centered egomaniacs masquerading as kind just so they can have things to gossip about. And it doesn't matter what size they are. People don't magically go from being kind and overweight to being thin *kitten*. If a person is a jerk, that person's a jerk fat or thin. The trick is trying to find the half of the people out there who don't want to hurt others to make themselves feel better. Sometimes it's hard to tell the good ones from the bad ones.
  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
    Once we start losing weight, we start body shaming:explode: , finding faults with our body....while putting on we don't even think :huh: about it....does anybody know why this happens....

    Because when putting on a person reverts to a state of denial / blindness as the psychological pressure of having to admit they dislike the way they look and they are continuing to contribute to that willingly is hard to face.

    When losing this state of denial must be lifted to address the issue and people feel shame at what they see and how they have let themselves slip.

    I guess.
  • goalss4nika
    goalss4nika Posts: 529 Member
    I was thinking about this yesterday. I started off the day feeling good about my progress and the clothes I was wearing that fit better, but then I caught a look of myself in the mirror and I guess it just didn't match up with how I was feeling and I felt pretty bad for awhile. I mean, god knows I've looked this way for years, so it's certainly no surprise, but now that I'm working on it is when I decide to get all upset about it? Stupid.


    This! Although I've lost 50lbs, its still not enough and I just get so sad with my progress.
  • LassoOfTruth
    LassoOfTruth Posts: 735 Member
    Idk, I'm only here for the kitten gifs.

    Kittens, anyone???

    whackakitteh.gif

    That made my day. Thank you.
  • DOM4U
    DOM4U Posts: 239
    Define body shaming...cause all kinds a weird shhiittss going on in my head.
  • phuckingbadasscutie
    phuckingbadasscutie Posts: 1,619 Member
    I'm pretty good at this all the time...of I'm losing, gaining or maintaining. It just is what it is.