25 lbs. lighter and no one has noticed

Are you doing it for yourself or other people?

THIS.

I know it sounds douche-y, but 'tis truth. Most people are so wrapped up in their own drama they barely notice others exist, let alone lost weight. This is about you anyway, so fck 'em.

I agree with everyone in that a lot of people probably notice something, but to actually say, "Hey! You lost some weight! Looks good!" also implies a lot negative thoughts, like that you look better now means that you looked worse when heavier, or that you were too overweight, etc, etc. Only if you make a *massive difference then would some people feel comfortable making some kind of comment, like, "have you been working out or something?"

I think only very close friends and family would feel comfortable making ongoing supportive comments about what they notice if they openly knew you were working on a diet.

*not to diminish 25lbs of good progress! Pick up a 25 lb turkey in the supermarket or something and you will see how much of an accomplishment that is! Good work!

I had a dear childhood friend who when I asked if she had noticed I had lost a lot of weight recently, replied I never focused on your weight before why would I now? I concede I still weight more than I did as a 4 or 9 or 15 year old. (Smile)

I would guess it's an awkward thing to them to mention.
Gratz on your loss! :drinker:

Same. 25 down, nobody can tell.

Seriously fat, I am. lol.

^^^^^^ This rhymes.

I can kinda relate, but in an opposite, but no less discouraging manner.

I'm down about 30 pounds now (my ticker is off ) and I've had family and friends comment, but their comments actually irritate me, because it almost feels like they're lying, because * I * don't see it. I see the scale moving, and to some degree my clothes sizes changing (I HATE that I can wear a 12 in one pair of jeans, but STILL a 16 in another, it irrtates the CRAP outta me).

Anyway, I'm frustated that I'M not seeing the changes, and I'm trying so hard not to get frustrated. All I can tell you, is what I tell myself- don't give up. I started telling myself, 'today is a day I will keep going, so today is a day I will not give up'. Sounds silly, but I have to appreciate my successes moment by moment, to acknowledge that I haven't given up.

Are you doing it for yourself or other people?

THIS.

I know it sounds douche-y, but 'tis truth. Most people are so wrapped up in their own drama they barely notice others exist, let alone lost weight. This is about you anyway, so fck 'em.

YUP. YUP. YUP

It took me 60pds before people said anything to me

Most likely they have noticed, but don't want to risk saying something and being wrong or implying they thought you were overweight in the first place. They worry that it might just be something else, like clothes or make-up, so they will wait until they are very sure and even then they will down play it so they don't sound like they thought you were fat before. Some won't say anything until they see you are lighter multiple times and until they are sure you aren't dying of something. Heck, I started at 220 and some people didn't say anything until I lost 50 lbs a year later. In other words, I lost nearly a quarter of my body weight before most people said something like "did you lose a bit weight recently"?

It will come; just keep at it. 25 lbs is less noticeable on taller folks than on those who are more height challenged. Also, body composition can be a factor as well. It is also possible that others are noticing but don't want to comment - some folks don't like to be singled out ...

I was down 30 before anyone noticed and now that I hit 50 even more people are noticing.

I'm about 6'1" and overall have lost approximately 70lbs. I haven't been able to change to new clothes, and have received very few comments outside of MFP friends regarding my appearance and how it has changed.

I disagree that people do not say anything because they are jealous or whatever a lot of people like to say. The fact of the matter is, everyone is in their own bubble, and frankly, they probably don't pay enough attention to your body to notice. When you have a lot to lose, as we do, even good-sized chunks of weight are very hard to notice, especially since you're losing overall, and not just in one area.

You really do need to remember that it's about yourself. Do you see a difference?

One of the things that will get you the most attention is going to be the confidence you exude. Carry yourself with pride, and people will wonder. Live a healthy life, and it will come more and more naturally to you. However, waiting for someone else to comment... it's kind of a recipe for disaster.

I'm 5'7" and have over 100 to lose. People didn't comment until I was down 50lbs. Which was fine with me, I don't discuss my weight or what I'm doing with anyone, so it's not like they knew I was trying. Now that they've noticed, I say thank you if they comment and only if they ask, do I tell them what changes I've made to get here. To me, it's still not noticeable. Sure, my clothes are looser, that # on the scale is different, but I don't see it when I look at myself. If I don't see it, how can I expect anyone else to?

Well done on 25lbs!

Agree with previous comments about it being a mixture of people not noticing and people not wanting to comment. Isn't there something about it takes four weeks for you to notice a difference, 8 weeks for your loved ones to notice a difference and 12 weeks for others to notice a difference? Not sure if I have the timings right there and I'm not sure how that might translate into numbers on the scale, I guess that will be different for different body types.

By the way I'm 5'10" too so I do understand. It can be a little frustrating sometimes that the difference between the next dress down for me is probably about 15-20lbs yet for someone quite short it can be 7-10lbs. However, there's not a lot we can do about our height!

no one really notices until it goes off your face. then I get annoyed when they tell me to put weight on. lol like other people said they will notice eventually. just keep doing what your doing. :-) x