i hate my body so much

I really think you are being to hard on yourself!! I checked out your pictures and think your pretty hot. Those totally waif thin chicks are umattractive. You hug them and feel like your gonna break them. Just work on being happy with you!

I'm sorry if this comes off as mean,but you would look like a skeleton if you lost 32 more pounds. Stop trying to lose weight and start trying to love yourself enough to eat healthy and exercise. Please also look into therapy. In the US if someone says they want to die or want to kill themselves we are required to report that to the authorities.

This absolutely breaks my heart to read this. Please start looking at your positives. We ALL have flaws and we all have strengths. You need to realize what the media shows us...DOES NOT exist. You are unique, beautiful and one of a kind. There is no other like you and never will be. Even at a smaller size...you Will mentally struggle. You need to start seeing yourself in a different light. You NEED to change emotionally AND mentally. A healthy life style is all of those. Seek help if need be. This desperate feeling you have can and will damage you. I am ALWAYS here if you need/want to talk.

You do know Victoria's Secret models are smaller than a size 8?

She says she is Uk size 12, so already is US size 8. She is aiming for US size 4 or below, which for 5'7'' height would probably mean she would be too thin to even be a model.

OP, please talk to a therapist, there is nothign wrong with your body, unless you are making up measurements and posting soem other girl's photos. You could end up all bones and skin and still feel bad. It is your perception of your body that is wrong.

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You do know Victoria's Secret models are smaller than a size 8?

You do know that Victoria's Secret models don't even look like Victoria's Secret models? Unless you're live, in person- where they use make-up and clever lighting to give the illusions of those 'perfect' bodies, their photos are heavily retouched in Photoshop. :frown: http://jezebel.com/5951863/when-perfect-isnt-enough-the-unretouched-images-victorias-secret-doesnt-want-you-to-see/ is one of my favorite examples, and there are many, MANY more available. It doesn't really matter, at least until poor women like you fall prey to the idea that you can achieve something that professional models, who's job it is to work out and look their absolute best, can't even do.

I would encourage you to do some research into what real women's bodies look like so that you can learn to not be so harsh on yourself. The imperfections, those things that they Photoshop out, are what make us beautiful and unique.

Does it make you ladies feel better to know that Victoria Secret models don't look as beautiful as they appear in magazines? They might be enhanced, but I doubt they look like trolls without all of that "photoshop"....oh, and by the way, they don't just appear on magazines, they also have to walk in front of people in fashion shows ( they still look stunning ).

Ladies who try to see flaws in beautiful people (celebs and people they come across in life) need to spend more of that time focusing on themselves and not on others.


To the OP, if you want to lose weight : eat healthy REGULARLY and exercise REGULARLY, and don't stop. You fail because "yoyoing" never works.

THIS THIS THIS!!

Oh, you again. Please get counseling

Like the old saying goes be proud of what your mama gave you! If you have large hips they are there for a reason and there are guys who love women like that. I use the same execuse about my metablism being slow which it is true, but it is also an excuse to be unhappy with my self and the world. Grant it I have used every excuse I know and have been taught to stay at the weight I am and I am not happy. I know I will never be a perfect size 8 or 0 for godsakes but I am working toward a goal that is realitic and I plan on gettingthere, while on the trip to a lighter me I am going to work on loving me the way I am, I was given big hips, large bones, high cheak bones, and a large rear end from my Cherokee blood, I hated it up till a few days ago and then I realized I am trying to be someone I was not born to be. I am proud to be indian now it is something I can and have passed to my boys.
Granted I do need to stop stress eating and useing excuses for my weight but I not going to sit on my rear and complain I am going to learn to love me for the health of me and for my boys. Because if they see me hateing my self they will learn to pick themselves apart.

So in ending this saga learn to love yourself it's hard yes but it can be done if you put effort into it TRUST ME I was always a doubting Debbie and now I am learning I WAS WRONG to believe the media and the curel words of others I am me and I am worth living for. I was suicideal for over 15years of my life because of my weight and things done to me by my family and peers. But I am at the age now I say screw it and I am determined to be ME!!!

Seriously get some perspective, you have a fully functioning healthy body. So many people don't even have that. Maybe go spend some time assiting those who arent able bodied, you might then begin to be grateful for what you DO have, and can then move onto something that really matters.

i really hate my body, im disgusting and flabby and chubby. no matter how much i exercise and eat healthily i struggle to loose weight; it's probably because ive yoyoed so much. i wish i looked like a victoria secret model. i have very wide hips which i hate!! and chunky thighs. i had two binge days and already my thighs and hips look bigger. i have such a crap metabolism!! i hate my body so much i want to die. i want to be a size 8! i wish i had the motivation to eat very little. i dont want a womanly figure. supermodels not the catwalk ones, the ones in magazines look so glamorous and slender. i hate bad metabolism and large bone structure which makes me look bigger than i am. i really want to die. it's gotten so bad to the point where i dont want to go out because i hate myself so much. dont tell me that the inside is more important because im not even nice or smart or talented. i dont even have much of a personality apart from the odd witty comments i make. im a uk size 12/14 and 5"7 and i hate it so much! therapy hasnt helped and the only way i can be happy is if im thin. i wish i could afford surgery; i'd get thiposuction, lipo and something to make my hips smaller.

I am a size 16....... growing up I was active and weighed 98 pounds grad day I am 48 now and have fought with my weight for years. 1988 to be true .. but lets be true with our self .. ok ... If we hate something we change it . it will not happen over night but it will come . start with small goals. a pound a week to ten pounds at a time .. that is what I am doing . I am even making myself get up even earlier every morning and stopping at a cemetery on the way to work so I can walk 15 min a day . then I take my apple or banana and do my walks on my breaks .and after I eat my lunch .. I try to get in as much walking that I can because I hate excessing .but I do like walking .. set down and think about what you like to do and just do it . and stay away from anything white .. bread , rice , potatoes ,so on .. the pounds will come

i really hate my body, im disgusting and flabby and chubby. no matter how much i exercise and eat healthily i struggle to loose weight; it's probably because ive yoyoed so much. i wish i looked like a victoria secret model. i have very wide hips which i hate!! and chunky thighs. i had two binge days and already my thighs and hips look bigger. i have such a crap metabolism!! i hate my body so much i want to die. i want to be a size 8! i wish i had the motivation to eat very little. i dont want a womanly figure. supermodels not the catwalk ones, the ones in magazines look so glamorous and slender. i hate bad metabolism and large bone structure which makes me look bigger than i am. i really want to die. it's gotten so bad to the point where i dont want to go out because i hate myself so much. dont tell me that the inside is more important because im not even nice or smart or talented. i dont even have much of a personality apart from the odd witty comments i make. im a uk size 12/14 and 5"7 and i hate it so much! therapy hasnt helped and the only way i can be happy is if im thin. i wish i could afford surgery; i'd get thiposuction, lipo and something to make my hips smaller.

i really hate my body....

me.too

I hear your frustration I am 53, I take a butt load of meds. and I am a diabetic. I can not exercise because I have rheumatoid arthritis along with, osteo, gout, nueropathy, fibro. I have a knee I need replace and I have a hernia. I try every day to do some kind of movement every day. I am way over weight ( I use to body build and was built like a brick **** house) I was an athlete I was in the Navy and a police officer. Now I am just a large lump of flesh just waiting to die. I stick to the diets, I never go over in any way. Yet I never lose one pound. So as I said my friend I hear ya.

I can tell you from personal experience with the same extreme of self hatred that you feel, that being smaller does not make a difference as it is you, the person, that you are hating and not accepting. I have been a Uk 12 and now, a Uk 6. I disliked myself at both, during periods of my life, with an intensity. If anything, I actually dislike myself more at this size, than I did when bigger, because it is not about my size, but rather what is going on inside. Please seek further help, and start seeking to find some semblance of self like.

2 things:

First: GET RID of the negative self talk NOW. It is more destructive to you than anything else life is throwing at you right now.

Second: Get your inner child in check.

You wouldn't let your child go next to a blazing fire....you'd say, "Don't go over there...you could get hurt.' But you have no trouble going over to the big table of sweets and pastries and rationalizing that "it's just today" and "I deserve it...I had a rough day"..."I'm mad at somebody at work"....I'm mad at my partner....happy sad tired bored sunny raining snowing sleeting, and did you see that guy just cut me off!?!!!

Trust me, I have the same problem. I HATE that I feel like everybody can eat whatever they want whenever they want and never gain an ounce. It frustrates me that I have to work harder for so many things than my siblings ever seemed to have to.

WRONG!!! I could play musical instruments better/easier than they, but they could draw/paint better than I could. Friends of mind can't have gluten or dairy or whatever. Everybody has their challenges others don't have to endure. The only one not affected by all the stuff life throws at them? That would be God. LOL

It's one day at a time, one breath at a time, saving all your pennies to get the surgery once you get down to where you want to be.

I started this path April, 2011. Lost 115, lost 26 more due to skin removal surgery, then gained back about 70 over the course of the last 13 months.

Last week, I had "get real" session with myself. It's only going to work if I actually ACT like I want to lose weight. I remembered meeting with a dietician after a month of hardly "complying" with what she suggested I do. She looked at me and huffed a little - and asked, "Do you want to lose weight?" I said, "Well yeah." A little voice in my head said, "Well then act like it." Whenever I'd tell my dad I was "working on it", he'd say, "You've got the talking part done."

The only other suggestion would be to enlist the help of a therapist. A friend of mine who lost about 100 pounds and does some body building told me that to lose the weight, he "hired the right people". Whether or not you have the money, you can still enlist the right people. People who you know are doing things you want to do....Ask them what they did, and then find something that you can do to move yourself in the right direction.

You can do this. If I can do this, anybody can.