Dieters shed two friends for every stone they drop?

nanadayana
nanadayana Posts: 14
in Health and Weight Loss
Hi people.

This morning I listened to a discussion about this issue on my local radio station. Apparently there's a survey conducted by Brits and they've concluded that - Dieters shed two friends for every stone they drop - and it's all down to jealousy.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2633837/Shedding-weight-Prepare-wave-goodbye-friends-Dieters-lose-two-friends-stone-drop-jealousy.html#ixzz33SYtPreT

Is anyone of you guys experiencing this? As for me, I did not lose any friend (yet, and hope I won't!) But I did noticed some jealousy vibes from this one friend of mine. While everyone around me is commenting that I look slimmer, she constantly says that I am her fat friend. I never bother about her comment before (because she's a fun friend), but after reading this article I realized that it could be that she prefers me to stay as her 'fat' friend.

There are a lot of things that she has said or done that hurt me like saying I won't be able to do yoga ever when I plan to do it once I lose 25 kg. One thing that I learnt from her is that, never tell people about my food diary. Haha! She used to say that I can never lose weight because I eat all these fattening food (a potato in one meal is not fattening for god's sake!). But she never say anything when I had successfully lost 16 kg.

I try to keep her in my loop because she's fun, or at least used to be fun. But while I am struggling in this lose weight journey, she seems to act like I am a threat. As if she keeps me because I'm fat so she can be a skinny friend next to me. This is depressing.

Okay, so my question is, is any of you guys having this issue?

Thank you!
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  • farway
    farway Posts: 1,260 Member
    Not me, but I'm a bloke, so most of my friends are also blokes

    And never believe what you read in the Daily Wail
  • Aaron_K123
    Aaron_K123 Posts: 7,122 Member
    Uh, no....I don't have that issue. Then again I don't have hundreds of friends, I have a few and I'm pretty sure our relationship isn't that shallow.
  • CMB1979
    CMB1979 Posts: 588 Member
    Hasn't happened to me. But then again, I left the country before I lost most of my weight.

    However, some people, like food, can be toxic. It's best to get rid of both for maximum health.
  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,724 Member
    I wouldn't say I have, no, but I have turned down social situations that I felt would be little more than eating and drinking way too much, and not much fun otherwise

    If someone kept referring to me as their fat friend, though, they'd be an ex friend
  • carinthea
    carinthea Posts: 97 Member
    If I lost 2 friends for every stone then I would be in negative equity. Not because I have lost loads of weight (though over 18 months, until last summer, I had lost 12 stone) but because I just don't have that many friends. That said, I have lost 1 friend due to weight loss, albeit relatively indirectly. She started the South Beach diet with me, I lost 6 stone, she gained 7lbs. We then started Weight Watchers together, I lost 2 stone, she lost 4lbs...she stopped going and started on to the GP about getting a gastric band fitted, I continued WW and exercising. We didn't fall out through jealousy or anything else, but we drifted apart...it happens.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,341 Member
    Articles like this make me happy I have a small, loyal, wonderful group of friends.
  • KarenJanine
    KarenJanine Posts: 3,497 Member
    Always take everything published by the Daily Mail with a handful of salt.
  • countscalories
    countscalories Posts: 418 Member
    This isn't jealousy. It's mean, and generated by fear. Fat people are "safe" to be around, because they make everyone near them look better. Hence the saying, "Everybody loves a fat man." Want to appear thinner instantly? Stand next to a fat person!
  • conqueringsquidlette
    conqueringsquidlette Posts: 383 Member
    Huh.... Well, since I didn't gain friends with the weight, all of my friends knew me thin to begin with. Did this survey take that into account?
  • conqueringsquidlette
    conqueringsquidlette Posts: 383 Member
    Always take everything published by the Daily Mail with a handful of salt.

    All hail the Daily Fail.
  • twopeas2
    twopeas2 Posts: 81 Member
    OP your friend doesn't sound like any fun to me, she sounds pretty horrible actually. I would be cutting her out of my life if I was you, as it'll only get worse.

    I've lost a couple of acquaintances, but no actual friends.
  • Yoshirio
    Yoshirio Posts: 242 Member
    She doesn't sound like a very good friend at all....
  • josparkle
    josparkle Posts: 141 Member
    16kg is a great weight loss and your real friends will love you no matter what weight you are, celebrate your achievements and support you through the rough times.

    This 'friend' - maybe you can lose her, she doesn't sound that fun to me, or you can deal with her on your own terms and ignore her when she talks dumb.
  • lisaabenjamin
    lisaabenjamin Posts: 665 Member
    If you lose friends when you lose weight, they weren't really your friends to start with.

    And the Daily Mail is the worst excuse for a newspaper ever. Except maybe the Daily Sport. Which looks like a newspaper but is actually just soft porn.
  • surfinbird_1981
    surfinbird_1981 Posts: 946 Member
    I wouldn't wipe my *kitten* with the Daily Fail...
  • Therealobi1
    Therealobi1 Posts: 3,262 Member
    luckily this hasnt happened to me. If someone stops being my friend due to my weight, then they were never my friend. Being jealous of someones weight is abit childish. I do admire other people's figures but jealousy no. Plus now I see what can be achieved if you put in the hard work.
  • Dewymorning
    Dewymorning Posts: 762 Member
    After I lost over a stone one of my friends decided to have a go too and has now lost quite a bit of weight too. Yay!
  • HealthyVitamins
    HealthyVitamins Posts: 432 Member
    I don't have two friends to start with.
  • chriamaria
    chriamaria Posts: 76 Member
    Start the yoga now and then when you see that you are successful at it (I have done yoga even at the high weight of 260 lbs) tell her where to stick it. Although many people are saying to take this article with a grain of salt, I believe that it has helped you see truth in your life. I say call her out on her behavior. If she's a true friend she'll stick around...and she'll quit being such a jerk.
  • aribugg
    aribugg Posts: 164 Member
    I dont have any jealousy issues (that im aware of...) but i have noticed a change in my interests that poses a threat some of my best friendships. I want to go out and do things, and they like to sit in and have dinner at home with some Netflix. nothing wrong with that after a work week, but my energy levels are certainly on the rise. and it gets old for me...
  • pensierobello
    pensierobello Posts: 285 Member
    Hi people.

    This morning I listened to a discussion about this issue on my local radio station. Apparently there's a survey conducted by Brits and they've concluded that - Dieters shed two friends for every stone they drop - and it's all down to jealousy.

    Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2633837/Shedding-weight-Prepare-wave-goodbye-friends-Dieters-lose-two-friends-stone-drop-jealousy.html#ixzz33SYtPreT

    Is anyone of you guys experiencing this? As for me, I did not lose any friend (yet, and hope I won't!) But I did noticed some jealousy vibes from this one friend of mine. While everyone around me is commenting that I look slimmer, she constantly says that I am her fat friend. I never bother about her comment before (because she's a fun friend), but after reading this article I realized that it could be that she prefers me to stay as her 'fat' friend.

    There are a lot of things that she has said or done that hurt me like saying I won't be able to do yoga ever when I plan to do it once I lose 25 kg. One thing that I learnt from her is that, never tell people about my food diary. Haha! She used to say that I can never lose weight because I eat all these fattening food (a potato in one meal is not fattening for god's sake!). But she never say anything when I had successfully lost 16 kg.

    I try to keep her in my loop because she's fun, or at least used to be fun. But while I am struggling in this lose weight journey, she seems to act like I am a threat. As if she keeps me because I'm fat so she can be a skinny friend next to me. This is depressing.

    Okay, so my question is, is any of you guys having this issue?

    Thank you!

    Dude, you can do yoga whatever weight you are - you certainly look smaller than me in your pic and I love my hatha! Get on it now :) Or try Pilates to strengthen your core.
  • hellokathy
    hellokathy Posts: 540 Member
    You said that hearing this broadcast was what made you think about your friendship? Don't do that. If you didn't have these doubts before, don't let something like this get into your mind. It's basically like reading about an illness and suddenly feeling like you have it.

    But on the other hand, what your friend is doing isn't okay. I get her POV because I often give my friends tough love, too. Like I'll tell them when they're doing something that's not cool. I'll still have their back and catch them if they fall but I'll also tell them when I think what they're doing isn't a good idea. For example a friend of mine kept trying to lose weight through some really fishy diets, including some shakes and pills. Do I applaud her for every pound she shed? Sure I do. But do I tell her that I think what she's doing is healthy in the long run? Nope. Your friend needs to find a better way between blind support and dragging you down with all that negativity.

    And on a not all that related note: The title of this thread is really confusing for a German like me. I kept wondering who the Dieters are. :laugh:
  • JojoEffeckt164
    JojoEffeckt164 Posts: 146 Member
    I realize that my my friends are kind of changing. I have no issues with jealous people (I erased those people a while ago already) but since I became more active I do more activities with my rather active friends... So I´m getting closer with my active friends.
  • luca15306
    luca15306 Posts: 111 Member
    I agree with the statement but not the article.
    I have no friends left, its seems a waste, weight loss was partly to feel better going out. Now I don't ever go out.
    Mixture of stuff, probably me to blame asusual
  • novembersuse
    novembersuse Posts: 77 Member
    I've not experienced it, but even though I'm dieting, I kinda try to keep it secret. I always think there's nothing worse than going out for drinks with someone who isn't drinking, or going to dinner with someone who has a salad. My calorie counting is strictly for when I'm alone, and when I'm out it goes completely out the window. It suits me to have all these free passes, but it's making it a longer journey, and I don't think I'll ever be able to ignore a great menu and scan for the lowest calorie option. I think if I did, I might get fewer offers to come out :tongue:
  • 2dare2dream
    2dare2dream Posts: 104 Member
    And with friends like that who needs enemies? , i learned many years ago that some people bring mostly negativity to your life and therefore should be removed from your inner circle. However we all have to make our own choices as to how we travel our own path. Congrats on your success so far and hopefully you will find the inner voice or confidence to call your friend out on her lack of respect for you not only as her so called friend but as a fellow human being
  • Velum_cado
    Velum_cado Posts: 1,608 Member
    As I've lost weight I've gained friends. I started doing pole and made loads of pole friends. I can't think of any friends I've lost since I started losing.

    People change over time, friendships naturally come to an end... Weight loss is a slow process that takes time. It seems to me that you'd naturally lose friends over that time. It's possible people are jealous. It's also possible that some people become stuck up, self-righteous a-holes as they lose weight and people can't tolerate being around them. Who knows?
  • elliej
    elliej Posts: 466 Member
    Never believe anything you read in the Daily Mail. It's a national embarassment
  • smallpalehuman
    smallpalehuman Posts: 38 Member
    Congratulations on your weight loss journey so far! You should feel extremely proud of what you have achieved and will continue to achieve (including yoga!)

    I'm sorry to hear someone is making negative remarks at what is a clearly positive lifestyle change for you. It's especially hard when that person is a "friend"

    First of all, I'd definitely call her out on her actions. Speak to your friend face to face and tell her how it makes you feel when she makes these comments. You'd hope as friends you'd have her full support and she'd be happy at the idea of you being happy.

    Sure, she can feel jealous but she doesn't need to try and make you feel like rubbish because of her own insecurities!

    I really hope she apologises for her behavior and acts the way a friend should. But if she doesn't, let those comments make you stronger and more determined!

    Life is too short for bad friends :)
  • Zomoniac
    Zomoniac Posts: 1,169 Member
    Apparently there's a survey conducted by Brits and they've concluded that - Daily Mail readers shed two friends for every issue they read - and it's all down to other people knowing that Daily Mail readers are subhuman and they do not wish to associate with this person.

    Okay, so my question is, is any of you guys having this issue?

    Thank you!


    No. No I am not.

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