As you get older, do you find yourself...

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  • epigirrl
    epigirrl Posts: 54 Member
    Actually, I find myself doing the complete opposite..I find myself more motivated to keep getting better in all areas of my life. =)

    this ^^

    This is me, too.

    Just turned 50 last month. I am now healthier, happier, fitter, less risk averse, and have more clarity on what matters to me. Was single by choice for over a decade...now in a great relationship with someone I have known for years. Had a good, well-paying job...that I just left last week...because the possibility of creating my dream job is right in front of me. Exceeded my wildest dreams in terms of weight loss/fitness...and all of the amazing unintended consequences that came with that. But, I am definitely still a work in progress.

    Can't imagine ever settling again...
  • Blacklance36
    Blacklance36 Posts: 755 Member
    Opposite. I settled at 28 in my relationship because I thought I was supposed to "get married and have kids". Now that I don't have that weight on me I feel like I can do whatever I want and there's no ticking clock above me.
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    My kids are gone and I no longer stress about having to provide for anyone or having to look after anyone but myself. I'm not hard on myself and am more accepting of others.

    I'm happy with where I am in my life!

    I live on my own and have a great circle of friends and a wonderful girlfriend who I love spending time with. I have my health and the money I need, I'm a happy guy.
  • Deena_Bean
    Deena_Bean Posts: 906 Member
    Up to age 34-35 yes.

    Since then, it's been completely the opposite. I'm 37 and the last two and a half years have been a whirlwind for me of rearranging and renovating everything in my life, no longer settling, and enjoying life so much more. I have totally different priorities in all areas.

    This - Life is way too short to settle. LIVE IT UP :)
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/Deena_Bean/view/100-days-a-subjective-beginning-and-the-big-year-666179
  • BaldheadSlick
    BaldheadSlick Posts: 51 Member
    No, I won't say that I'm settling. I just don't sweat the stuff that I thought mattered oh so much "back-in-the-day".

    For everything else, I've realized even more how much power I have to create change.
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  • andeey
    andeey Posts: 709 Member
    No way! If anything, I'm far more selective and "prune" the sh*te out of my life. I am at the best spot I've been in as far as family, job and friends are concerned because I pick and choose very carefully and have no hesitation to say "adios" to anything that doesn't enhance my life.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    No. I'm not settling. I did that before.
    I got out of that.

    And I won't do it again.

    If you find yourself settling, rethink it.

    LIfe is too short for "meh"
  • cindyj7
    cindyj7 Posts: 339 Member
    Settling? And not settling for pure crap, but for mediocrity? Are you settling for a sufficient relationship that's alright, instead of looking for a great one that gives you what you want?
    Yes.
    Are you settling for a certain size/weight, and not worrying about the last 10 pounds you'd like to lose?
    No.
    Are you settling for a job that's ok and pays decent, instead of going for one you're passionate about?
    All the jobs I am passionate about do not pay enough to allow me to eat and maintain shelter.

    This is me, exactly.
  • sillygoosie
    sillygoosie Posts: 1,109 Member
    Nope. I'm much more particular about everything in my life. I don't settle on relationships, work, the way I spend money, the restaurants I'm willing to go to, and even the movies or tv I'll watch. Anything worth doing should be done right. It actually makes my life easier and happier.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    Only with my job, but to find a job I was more passionate about I'd have to move and/or travel a lot which would interfere with my family life which is more important right now. I'm very happy in my marriage, with my family, working on getting happier with my body (although I'm pretty good with it now), and my fitness, working to constantly improve be better, etc.
  • ThisCharmingFellow
    ThisCharmingFellow Posts: 132 Member
    If you find yourself settling, rethink it.

    LIfe is too short for "meh"

    This.

    I had settled for several things over recent years. A couple of months on MFP and everything is just so different, it's as though I am alive again. I was happy with life but now I am even more happy with life. Hopefully the future will be even better.
  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
    I'm too ambitious to settle.

    Sometimes, I do settle for just giving him a bj instead of the whole hour ordeal...I mean, sleep is way more important these days.:drinker:
  • kristen2713
    kristen2713 Posts: 253 Member
    Are you a life coach?

    Haha...no...I just think maybe I'm hitting some form of a mid-life crisis, just a little early :sad: I am thoroughly enjoying reading everyone's comments and to the woman who met/married the love of her life at 50...you made me cry :heart: in a good way lol
  • Star_1234
    Star_1234 Posts: 123 Member
    For awhile I did, and then I woke up and realized that this was not the life I wanted for myself. I only have one shot at this thing so I have to be bold and brave and take more risks.

    Relationships - I got rid of the people who were pulling me down and kept the ones that really mattered.

    Body - I joined the gym and set out to start a whole new lifestyle. 6 months later I'm 35 pounds less and stronger than I have ever been in my life and so very happy with my new lifestyle.

    Job - I starting becoming more focused on personal/professional growth, advancing my skills and knowledge. It's a work in progress.

    This.
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  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    No, but I find my priorities changing. It may look like settling to other people, but I'm finding my priorities are lining up with what I actually enjoy rather than what other people think I should enjoy. I work a job that probably sounds boring but I like the people and like the flexibility.

    Exactly!!

    I worked my way up to a "career" position and was absolutely miserable, it affected every area of my life. I now have a stable office job with benefits and loads of downtime (hence thousands of posts on this forum and Pinterest pins, LOL). I am so happy and in my evenings and weekends and vacations, I can truly enjoy all of my passions in life and be present for the people I love. It's awesome.
  • kristen2713
    kristen2713 Posts: 253 Member
    Are you a life coach?

    Haha...no...I just think maybe I'm hitting some form of a mid-life crisis, just a little early :sad: I am thoroughly enjoying reading everyone's comments and to the woman who met/married the love of her life at 50...you made me cry :heart: in a good way lol

    Read "Eat, Pray, Love" one too many times?

    LOL!! maybe i should?? tried to read it once and hated it...watched the movie instead, but that kinda blew too :)
  • askeates
    askeates Posts: 1,490 Member
    Actually, I find myself doing the complete opposite..I find myself more motivated to keep getting better in all areas of my life. =)

    I do the same thing.... I've waited and worked this long to get exactly what I want, why give in now and settle??
  • Go_Mizzou99
    Go_Mizzou99 Posts: 2,628 Member
    Not in the least.

    At 53 I left my high paying, high bonus job to start my own engineering firm. I became profitable in just 1-year (after buying over $200k in lab equipment, 5 trucks, etc.) and just hired my 9th employee.

    Although I am working my *kitten* off, my only regret is I waited too long to start it.

    Make time for the important things. Use what time is left for the little things.

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