My apology to obese people

Ferrous_Female_Dog
Ferrous_Female_Dog Posts: 221 Member
in Motivation and Support
Hi,

I'd like to apologize to overweight and obese people for the way I have silently judged you and discriminated against you most of my life.

I made blanket assumptions about you.
I assumed you were lazy.
I assumed you were greedy.
I assumed you were bad people.
I assumed you were not trying.
I made judgements about what you ate.
I made judgements about what you wore.
I made judgements about what you said regarding your weight.

I am sorry. I am a hypocrite. I was trying to distract myself from the fact that I am all the things I was assuming you were, that I did all the things I was judging you for. That's so much easier isn't it?

Never mind that I am ordering 2 Burger King Value Meals for myself. That's okay, since I'm not obese. Yet. Let me judge that person over there drinking a milkshake. He looks like he's 300 lbs. Shame on him. Tsk, tsk, tsk.

Never mind that I would go DAYS without barely moving from the sofa. It's okay that I'm lazy, I can still get around if I need to. Let me judge that person who is riding in a cart in Walmart. She really should be walking. How lazy.

I've learned a lot on this site. I've learned that I am not very different from the people I've scorned and judged all of these years. We do the same things, only with different results. I would eat mindlessly until my stomach felt like it would pop. I would do nothing for days. I'd order take out from a nearby restaurant simply because I didn't want to walk there. The only difference, I guess, is genetics. Metabolism. Luck.

I'm sorry for being a bigot. I understand now that none of those things are true. I hope you forgive me and the rest of the ignorant people out there who are still judging and hating you for no good reason at all. It's not you they hate. It's themselves.

Replies

  • 1HappyRedhead
    1HappyRedhead Posts: 413 Member
    Kudos to you for being so brave as to honestly admit not only what you were thinking, but to also have the courage to apologize. :flowerforyou:
  • Mikkimeow
    Mikkimeow Posts: 1,282 Member
    I forgive you.

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    In all seriousness, it doesn't happen often that people recognize things that they have thought or done harshly and attempt to atone for them. Good job.
  • ashdawg8790
    ashdawg8790 Posts: 819 Member
    :flowerforyou:
  • ShibaEars
    ShibaEars Posts: 3,928 Member
    I too was guilty of this. I am changing my way of thinking. I still catch myself doing it from time to time, but I am working on stopping it. Everyone has their own struggles, who am I to judge people based on a small glimpse into their life?

    I would also like to add:

    I would also apologize to fit women. I used to think they were vain and I would think rude things about them. I would think they looked skanky and tried too hard. Then I realized this was my jealousy speaking. I was envious of the way they looked and wished I had the confidence to dress the way they did. Now I realize how much dedication and hard work are put into fitness. I look at fit women now and am inspired to push myself harder.
  • Kitship
    Kitship Posts: 579 Member
    :smile:
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Apology accepted.
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    Bravo!

    I think we're coming to an age where judging anyone for pretty much anything just doesn't feel morally right anymore. It's nice to feel that we're starting to come together to support one another.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    cute
  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
    I came in here expecting this to be a lot different.

    This was mature of you, mad respect. I'm glad you've been able to see people in a more positive light.

    :flowerforyou:
  • ponycyndi
    ponycyndi Posts: 858 Member
    Some of my favorite people are obese. And none of them are lazy!
  • Pinkranger626
    Pinkranger626 Posts: 460 Member
    Thank you for this post. I too have been guilty of thinking some of these thoughts.... the sad part was that it was more often when I was heavier than now. Now I understand the struggle that I had been going through mentally and now I can understand those who are currently going through the same struggle.
  • Spoonergirl1
    Spoonergirl1 Posts: 1
    Thank you for your confession, and apology. As a former thin person, I was guilty of these same thoughts and actions. When I became obese after child birth and medical complications, I realized that I was quite wrong, and that being overweight is not always black and white...it is an everyday struggle!
  • tmj4477
    tmj4477 Posts: 145 Member
    Wow, that was awesome
  • Pirate_chick
    Pirate_chick Posts: 1,216 Member
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  • wonderwoman234
    wonderwoman234 Posts: 551 Member
    Good for you for having the balls to be honest about how you used to think and how you've changed. That is big. Fat discrimination is a real problem in this country and somehow still accepted in many circles. Glad you have crossed over to the more humane/compassionate side of the human race. :)
  • goalss4nika
    goalss4nika Posts: 529 Member
    This is so awesome! What a brave honest person you are. :flowerforyou: Thank you for your apology.

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