It's summer and I am not bikini ready

I had to work an event for my job and it was at the beach last week so I found my eyes bombarded by seemingly happy scantily clad young women. The last time I went out with my husband and he checked out a another girl in super short skirt, I became an emotional mess because I felt so unattractive. Both instances have made me realize the problem is with me. I know I have a long way to go before getting my confidence and body back but is anyone else feeling the summer blues as all the short shorts and bikini tops come out on display? If so, how do you stay confident in the skin you're in while striving for beauty on the outside and in?

My two cents - There's only one step to getting a bikini body: You put on a friggin bikini.

You do not exist for the viewing pleasure of others. Wear what makes you feel good and quit "fat shaming" yourself. It's no one's business what you wear to where (I mean, don't stroll around nekkid, though, you'll get arrested.)

In all seriousness, if you got paid just to look good (like models do) then you'd have a personal trainer and a personal chef and you'd spend 8 hours a day just tending to your body. Average people like you and me don't have that luxury. So I say, take the attitude of not caring what others think about how you look. You're on this site, you're taking steps towards getting healthy, and that's what matters. Take confidence in that!

Besides, as the good doctor said, "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind!"

I hope you find your courage to just do it. So many great stories here about folks just realizing we should just step out and do it, because its not about judgement from everyone else, its about how we feel.

Yes, he'll look no matter what, but you know what, I bet you he doesn't remember a thing. He remembers when you are radiant from being happy with yourself. He remembers how you great you make him feel when you are not down on yourself about something he can't help you with.
We all want to feel like the most beautiful thing in the eyes of our partners, but they can only see that when you do too. (But side note, let's also use it as a reminder that we should put in effort to make them feel sexy and appreciated too. Never take them for granted)