Would you hate your parents ?

bloodyhonest
bloodyhonest Posts: 196 Member
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If you found out that they had a favourite child and it wasn't you ?

oh, and imagine that they actually said it out loud.
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  • sissiluv
    sissiluv Posts: 2,205 Member
    I would wonder who said fave kid was when I know mom had her tubes tied after my birth and she's the only parent that really matters.


    Buuuuuuuut to stay true to the hypothetical, nah. I'd just be hurt.
  • 4homer
    4homer Posts: 457 Member
    nope. As an adult I know people can like others more then others but love the same.
  • MeganAnne89
    MeganAnne89 Posts: 271 Member
    If you found out that they had a favourite child and it wasn't you ?

    oh, and imagine that they actually said it out loud.

    As much as this is very hurtful of them to say to you, it's something that for yourself, you need to wipe off your shoulders and not let it bother you.

    Something like that should never be said and it's a sign of ****ty parenting. It has no bearing on who you are as a person.
  • lisalsd1
    lisalsd1 Posts: 1,519 Member
    No...too old to care. I have kids, and I truly do not have a favorite. My favorite is which ever kid is giving me the least amount of grief at the time.
  • Lisa1971
    Lisa1971 Posts: 3,069 Member
    I wouldn't hate them of course, but I'd be hurt.
  • Lisa1971
    Lisa1971 Posts: 3,069 Member
    My favorite is which ever kid is giving me the least amount of grief at the time.

    WORD!!!!!!!!!:drinker: :flowerforyou:
  • JonnyMacAwesome
    JonnyMacAwesome Posts: 770 Member
    No, I am already well aware of this. It does not bother me, or affect my day to day life.

    It's just like how my parents so openly disagree with my wife and I doing Attachment Style Parenting, vs their preferred "Cry it out" ...

    It's all opinion/preference... people are entitled to feel that way and openly speak about it.
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  • salladeve
    salladeve Posts: 1,053 Member
    No I wouldn't hate them, but the hurt would be difficult to deal with. I don't think I would go out of my way for them any longer. I would just concentrate on my own family, and let their "favorite" child deal with them (especially as they got older). Ha, it may be a blessing in disguise (sarcasm).
  • bloodyhonest
    bloodyhonest Posts: 196 Member
    you don't have a favourite parent?

    I preferred one parent over the other because the other one played favourites.
  • bloodyhonest
    bloodyhonest Posts: 196 Member
    No I wouldn't hate them, but the hurt would be difficult to deal with. I don't think I would go out of my way for them any longer. I would just concentrate on my own family, and let their "favorite" child deal with them (especially as they got older). Ha, it may be a blessing in disguise (sarcasm).


    I think I may have used the wrong word (hate). What you said about distancing yourself is exactly what I feel like doing.
  • paulawatkins1974
    paulawatkins1974 Posts: 720 Member
    My first child, my daughter and I have the most in common, get along best and I'd say she's my best friend. (Having had her at 16 might have something to do with that) I do not however love her more although I'm closest to her. I am crazily madly in love with all of my kids though. I think my parents each have certain ones of us they are closer too but I feel they loved us equally. Yes I'd be very hurt if they obviously loved me less I guess
  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    Yes, but mostly because I'm my mother's only child.
  • CaddieMay
    CaddieMay Posts: 356 Member
    My brother was always the favorite. But the dynamics changed as the years went by. Now I'm the favorite. By far. :tongue:
  • navygrrl
    navygrrl Posts: 517 Member
    I don't hate them. I love them, but I don't really involve them in my life anymore and haven't since I left home. Eventually I was able to have a better relationship with my dad, but I still have very little contact with my mom. I try to make sure that each of my children knows I love them and find each of them special because I don't want any of them to feel like I did.
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    They already do (my little sister for my dad, and my little brother for my mom) and I don't hate them. I was a difficult child to love, anyway. Can't blame them for liking the other ones better.
  • RINat612
    RINat612 Posts: 251 Member
    I'm the favorite, so this doesn't apply to me. I've been known to fly across country for a weekend to take my mom out for a movie date :) And I am the only son (out of 3) who actually calls the parents.

    Wait a minute... I'm the son-daughter! Crap!
  • k_piggy
    k_piggy Posts: 9
    no, i don't live to please people no matter who they are lol.
  • toaster6
    toaster6 Posts: 703 Member
    Not at all. My parents have terrible taste in people. You can tell because you can see who they married.
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    If I was the kid they threw money at and I ended up fine, it wouldn't bother me...
  • Guns_N_Buns
    Guns_N_Buns Posts: 1,899 Member
    Back when I was a kid, it was very apparent I wasn't the favorite. I accepted it.

    As an adult, I'm like their personal Money Tree, so definitely a favorite now -- all for the wrong reasons. Do I care? No.
  • spirit095
    spirit095 Posts: 1,017 Member
    No. I already know I'm not the favourite child, but it honestly doesn't bother me lol
  • fivethreeone
    fivethreeone Posts: 8,196 Member
    Not at all. My parents have terrible taste in people. You can tell because you can see who they married.



    I know this feel
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    I am an only child, so yes, I would have some questions for them.
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
    My mom does have a favourite.

    That favourite is not me.

    I do not hate her for it. I do however point it out whenever she starts with the "I have no favourites all of you are equal"
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    Not at all. My parents have terrible taste in people. You can tell because you can see who they married.

    I think the same thing of one of my parents about both spouses, but just in case I have a spy here, I'm not saying which.
  • daydream58
    daydream58 Posts: 572 Member
    It was always obvious my whole life who the favorites where in my family, and it wasn't me. I've had a lifetime to adjust to it.

    I think it was in the movie "Prince of Tides" where the mother took each of her kids aside and told each one that they were her favorite and that it was a big secret and they should never tell. That scene surprised me (I think everyone as there was a laugh in the theater when she pulled the 2nd and 3rd aside and said the same secret to each!) But I thought it was actually pretty cool in a way... even tho the mother saying it in the movie was sorta psycho.
  • mummma
    mummma Posts: 402 Member
    i have 3 kids ages 3, 5 & 7. i regularly tell each and every one of them 'youre my favourite' lol. they hear me say it to the others and to them... theyre all my favourite really lol i have a bro and dont really remember being in that situation tho, maybe my mum didnt like either of us much haha x
  • honsi
    honsi Posts: 210 Member
    I am not the favourite, my younger sister is . A lot of people think my parents only have one child. I don't hate them but I don't like them either.
    Im not saying that in a petty sulk. My parents have been abusive in their favouritism.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    It was always obvious my whole life who the favorites where in my family, and it wasn't me. I've had a lifetime to adjust to it.

    I think it was in the movie "Prince of Tides" where the mother took each of her kids aside and told each one that they were her favorite and that it was a big secret and they should never tell. That scene surprised me (I think everyone as there was a laugh in the theater when she pulled the 2nd and 3rd aside and said the same secret to each!) But I thought it was actually pretty cool in a way... even tho the mother saying it in the movie was sorta psycho.

    I STRONGLY suspect my grandmother did this with each of her ten children. My mom and favorite aunt have both confided in me that their mom favored them, and one of my uncles said things to the same effect!

    I'm an only child.

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