The People Who Notice What You Eat

it goes both ways, the skinny one looks at the not skinny one and thinks "man I cant believe they ate that much" and the not skinny one looks at the skinny one and thinks "man I cant believe thats all they ate, they need a cookie"

maybe the not skinny one just ran 6 miles
maybe the skinny one ate a huge breakfast

really its no bodies business either way unless it is a mentor/mentee type situation, bugger off people

I LOOOOOVE all food. So I'm always asking people what they're having for lunch just because I like to talk about food. I ask skinny people, overweight people, whatever. Never meant to be rude.

it goes both ways, the skinny one looks at the not skinny one and thinks "man I cant believe they ate that much" and the not skinny one looks at the skinny one and thinks "man I cant believe thats all they ate, they need a cookie"

maybe the not skinny one just ran 6 miles
maybe the skinny one ate a huge breakfast

really its no bodies business either way unless it is a mentor/mentee type situation, bugger off people

Exactly.

Heaven forbid I order a salad. I have actually had waitresses ask me - both when I was overweight and now - if that was 'really' all I wanted. Emphasis on the really in many cases.

This is why I hate eating in public...

Its not so much that they're overweight or that they notice what I'm eating. Its the comments like "ooohh, someone has the munchies" and the eagle-eye when you get ONE lousy stinking piece of chocolate from the office candy bowl. Just let me eat in peace. I'll log it -promise.

Oh heck yes!

Years ago when I was very unwell following a long visit to Hospital, my Husband and I were invited to a Carvery by my Mum for some dinner.

I had gained a LOT of weight from aggressive steroid treatment and an inability to move for 3 months or stay awake any longer than 6 hours together. To say I was feeling self-conscious would be an understatement!

I got my dinner and helped myself to a serving of gravy (which was made very watery and loose - making it look like my dinner was swimming in gravy) and this girl would not stop staring at me.

She watched me struggle to the serving area (my knees, ankles and hips were still quite seized at the time due to the illness), kept talking to her dinner partner quite openly about me, disgust all over her face and then as I walked back to the table, she just open-mouthed stared and looked me up and down in that you-completely-disgust-me look.

I laughed in her face and said loudly to my family "What in the heck is wrong with this girl? Why does she keep staring at me like that? Hasn't she ever seen an obese woman with a plate of gravy before?!" before laughing loudly and turning round to look at her.

It made me feel so terrible but she made me so cross and sad, it still makes me feel sad now

Kaela x

I'm always shocked when people take notice of my eating habits, or make weird comments about them. Yes, I eat a lot, and frequently. Yes, I cook at work. Yes, I'm lean. No, I do not want a doughnut.

So, it does go both ways.

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I also get food envy.

No matter what I order, I want what the person across from me is eating.

Can't help it.

Grass is always greener on the other side.

I once had a girl at work say to me "Do you really keep all that down?" (I eat massive lunches. :happy: )

To me, it sounded like she was implying I had an ED. I told her I lifted weights like a boy and if she started to as well she could get rid of her little, tasteless, microwave diet lunches and eat real food, too.

I always feel like people are judging what I eat. It's something that I'm working on because I know that people don't really care (or at least that's what I'm telling myself).

I'll go one further. I have a co-worker who was told by a physician that he needs to lose 20 lbs. At least once a week, he will comment on the large amount of food that I eat at lunch. It is my largest meal of the day, admittedly, but he will comment on the "tower" of food I get. Now I have lost almost 50 lbs. I have been at this for years finding a way to modify my lifestyle so it is sustainable for the rest of my life. You would think instead of making fun of what I eat, he might want to ask a little bit since he has been instructed to drop weight.

THEN he will piss an moan that he's not losing weight when he doesn't do a speck of exercise, and when he tries to "diet" he cuts everything out only to "fall off" his diet and revert back to his old eating habits. THEN he will look at me and shake his head saying "I don't know how you do it" like I am using magic and it's something he cannot do.

The man just irritates me all over the place.

i think my dinnermates last weekend were trying not to look as i demolished an entire order of yu shan beef. before they had gotten through half of theirs.

I typically don't notice what other people eat.

But when I was obese I was very, very self conscious about any situation where food was available for multiple servings. Like buffets, cookouts, etc. I didn't feel uncomfortable getting the initial plate, but if I wanted seconds (or more) on anything I became super, duper self conscious. I don't know if anyone ever really noticed, but I felt like they did in my mind. It's terrible, to be so mindful of what other people think, or potentially even might think, about what you eat.

Interestingly enough, the only time I recall anybody making a comment about my eating was after I'd lost weight and wasn't fat anymore.

This thread reminds me of something i've noticed over the last 25 years: ever notice that people no longer mind their own business? Used to be you wouldn't get smart comments from folks about what you were eating and such but now they all think it's their business. Actually it's that way about all sorts of personal choices, it's like the want to rule over you.