Really Upset

Here the thing about weight lost. We all have these goals to meet but the real goal is feeling comfortable in your own skin. TO love oneself. When that time comes life feels some much better. I am slowly starting to get there more confident. increasing self esteem.

If you feel comfortable at a higher body fat% then what society feels that what matter. I am almost sure that I am still in the obese category too..

Congrats on the 8 lbs you have already lost - you are on your way to changing that "obese" reading. Keep up the good work!

Hey everyone.

Tuesday was my first monthly nurse's appointment at my gym. I know that I'm overweight. That's never been in question for me. But when she used the caliper to determine my BF%, it came out at 39%. That isn't overweight. That's OBESE. And I just kind of sat there, looking at the number, trying not to cry. Because I don't feel obese. There are areas that I'd like to slim down, but I've never once looked at myself in the mirror and thought "you're not even overweight. You're obese. You have so much fat on your body that you're actually obese."

I guess it was the surprise more than anything that upset me, but now I feel like everyone who looks at me can read the number written across my forehead. I know that's ridiculous, but it's like having a specific number in mind makes everything so much worse.

I don't know if there was really a point to this post other than to let it all out, and I do feel slightly better for having done so. Thanks for reading.

Been there too, and I can remember that earth-shattering feeling when I realized that was me.

Took me a few days to mentally turn that upset into determination to fix it, but having that number for me was far more of a motivator than some vague "I want to be a size 4/6/8". It's a real number that you can work to get down.

Look at it this way... Your story will sound so much cooler in the end. You will have beaten obesity.

Use your emotions to fuel your weight loss. You don't like being obese? Progress. Eat better, exercise harder, and feel better. You can do this :flowerforyou:

i love her response. i also just yesterday (for the first time ever) was interested in my BMI. I'm still considered obsese as well (i dont feel it) but my BMI has dropped from 43 to 33.9. My goal weight I will still be considered "overweight" but thats fine with me because thats how I'm confortable with myself.

That's what happened to me, i got weighed for life insurance and it put me in obese mode... broke my heart, but you on here trying to lost that's awesome:)

Words have power, and obese is so much more emotionally charged of a term than is overweight. Why is that? It's because we, as a society, have taken the weight category termed "obese" to be so much of a negative that the stigma attached to it is now often a part of the struggle and shame that leads to the emotional states that cause obesity.

Don't let "obese" be a part of the group of labels that you use to describe yourself. Obese is a temporary state, it's not a part of who you are. Who you are is a strong individual that is working hard to overcome the obstacles that are in the way of your leading a healthy life, and it is that obstacle that you can define as "obese" if you so wish to define it.

Hey everyone.

Tuesday was my first monthly nurse's appointment at my gym. I know that I'm overweight. That's never been in question for me. But when she used the caliper to determine my BF%, it came out at 39%. That isn't overweight. That's OBESE. And I just kind of sat there, looking at the number, trying not to cry. Because I don't feel obese. There are areas that I'd like to slim down, but I've never once looked at myself in the mirror and thought "you're not even overweight. You're obese. You have so much fat on your body that you're actually obese."

I guess it was the surprise more than anything that upset me, but now I feel like everyone who looks at me can read the number written across my forehead. I know that's ridiculous, but it's like having a specific number in mind makes everything so much worse.

I don't know if there was really a point to this post other than to let it all out, and I do feel slightly better for having done so. Thanks for reading.

Wake up calls, we get them often but we never hear them until one day, that one call hits you right between the eyes!

I went to a new Dr. now typically the Dr. (in the past) has used the term overweight but not Dr. D first time I meet him and he says "how long have you been fat?"... whoa! Fat? seriously did he say FAT?

I am morbidly obese... I'm like what? If I am then what is that person who is 100 lbs heavier? and how do I get out of this?

All I can say is pick yourself up and change it, say goodbye to obesity and hello to a healthier life. I know it hurt, knocked the wind right out of you but now use it to make the changes - you are on the right road!

Please do not feel bad. You are young and therefore when you lose the extra weight, you will not end up with excess loose skin that only expensive plastic surgery can fix. And the more you weigh, the faster the scale will drop! No need to feel bad because in a matter of months, you can get the figure you want.

Its ok to let it out, "dust yourself off" and get back up on your feet, today is a new day be grateful
that you can even walk, are in good health not tied to a bed in a hospital.

You may not know how you are going to get to your goal but all you have to do is take just ONE Step!
Start with affirmations to BOOST your confidence: :bigsmile:
http://caloriecount.about.com/use-affirmations-weight-loss-b581060

Many people underestimate STRESS as a factor that may be sabotaging their weight lost. :frown:
http://www.webmd.com/diet/features/can-stress-cause-weight-gain

It took me about 3 mths before i started seeing results. Although not clinically diagnosed I
have experience severe IBS and gluten sensitivity therefore I eat mostly
Paleo , Mediterranean, Flexitarian diet. In plain English its very little starch, no gas producing foods
most fruits, veggies, plant and animal protein.

Don't start a workout regiment that makes you overexert yourself your body will producing the stress hormone
....and BOOM...you are not losing but gaining weight.:mad:
http://chriskresser.com/why-you-may-need-to-exercise-less

I've lost 20lbs over two years and 10 of those pounds was just in the last 12 weeks
which was right after I changed my regiment. Now I do more walking, hiking, a few high intensity for very
short intervals at home (push ups, planks, burpees, squats) and a weight lifting class at the gym once in a while.:happy:

My calorie goal is set to 1200. Three months ago I was ranging 1600-1800, WITH exercise
Now its within 1200-1400 W/O exercise. Allow yourself to renew your relationship with food, your body
and your life....

HOPE THIS HELPS GOOD LUCK

My first "jaw dropping experience" was when I'd gotten to big for my scale at home to register my weight. I didn't like it, but then told myself I couldn't be too far off. (It stops measuring at 330.)

I then went to an immediate care center in March 2011, and they weighed me at 376! That one really stunned me.

A month later, I went to an event at my daughter's school, and could hardly walk to the door because of my weight and being so out of shape. I had to sit on the floor once inside the door, and was mortified as people had to walk around me. I had the nerve to grumble at the staff saying if they hadn't made me walk so far, it wouldn't have been such an ordeal.

That was when I told myself "Something's gotta change." That afternoon, I called to make an appointment with a bariatric doctor.

Lots of things have happened since then, but I'm still 83 pounds down. I've lost 12.4 in the last 4 weeks when, again, I decided I needed to go after this thing.

Sometimes we need those "eye opening, jaw dropping" experiences to kick us into gear. It's those experiences that make us willing to go through being uncomfortable. People won't change without a dramatic event that's big enough to warrant making the change.

Now you know where you're at. It takes courage and strength to continue down the path your on and not get side-tracked; to not let your focus shift to some rabbit trail or wild goose chase that won't get you where you want to go.

You can do this. Don't let that number divert you from achieving greatness. You CAN do this! I promise you. Stay focused! Get'er done!!