Flirting with average looking girls vs. above average girls

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  • fr053n
    fr053n Posts: 2,793 Member
    What if the hot girl just doesn't go out a lot?

    If she doesn't go out as much as "average cute girl," she won't have as many opportunities to be hit on.

    I'm hoping this is why I never get hit on lol
  • RINat612
    RINat612 Posts: 251 Member
    This topic is like a foreign language to me. I've honestly never hit on a single girl, ever. My wife darn near walked up to me at college and said "You'll do." 12 years later (10 married), we're doing great :happy:

    But I think the biggest factor would be how approachable the girl comes across as. What determines that, I haven't a clue.
  • JTUSAFRet
    JTUSAFRet Posts: 28 Member
    I don't flirt, i'm shy :blushing:
  • ilfaith
    ilfaith Posts: 16,769 Member
    Back in my single "Sex and the City" days (living in Manhattan in my 20s)...I got hit on pretty often...in bars, at parties, even at the supermarket, subway, or Barnes & Noble (a big pick-up spot in NYC in the 90s). I think it's because I was attractive enough (without being so stunningly beautiful as to intimidate), seemed approachable (I am one of those people who gets stopped on the street for directions in any city I visit...guess I have the opposite of "*****y resting face"), and was a bit of a flirt myself.
  • PRMinx
    PRMinx Posts: 4,585 Member
    I rarely get hit on. I can't even remember the last time. And, actually, I'm pretty friendly and I like chatting with people. I get along with guys really well - all my friends are men. Hrm.
  • greeneyes972
    greeneyes972 Posts: 87
    I think women who are more accustomed to being flirted with handle it better, manage men more easily, and therefore aren't as vocal about it.

    +1
  • plm209
    plm209 Posts: 222 Member
    In my opinion it's because super hot women often (notice I didn't say always) exude an attitude of being unapproachable. To many guys, the fear of being rejected outweighs their desires, so they'll go for someone they see as being in their league.

    As a side note, I've found that many guys who have struggled with weight or body image issues, myself included, will devalue their appearance. There were many times after I started getting in shape that I was surprised by the attention I was getting from women that I had considered "out of my league" even though I was now in their league. It takes alot of getting used to especially after years of feeling unhappy with your body.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    Personally, I'm always looking for that plain girl with low self-estemm and Daddy issues.
  • Cookieman123
    Cookieman123 Posts: 26 Member
    I say go all in or gtfo of the game

    This. I'm glad my fatness gave me a sense of entitlement.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    honestly? I think it depends on the person/situation.... some people put it out there more, i.e. are more open/inviting of it, therefore, receive more flirtation. While others make it clear that they aren't here to flirt and/or are not receptive to it, etc., so it gets shut down.
  • mstaser
    mstaser Posts: 657 Member
    It all comes down to personality and who is more approachable. The stereotypical hot girl is just assumed to be snobby based off of what everyone learns from TV and media.
  • Jessica_Eve
    Jessica_Eve Posts: 47 Member
    I rarely, if ever get hit on. I don't really care though.
    I do have *****y resting face
  • CCSavage88
    CCSavage88 Posts: 191
    I think it all depends on how approachable you seem, if you smile/laugh often and have a personality that invites people they will gravitate towards you more then someone who isn't so welcoming looking...I think my smiling and outgoing personality get's more of a response then my face
  • iPlatano
    iPlatano Posts: 487 Member
    The majority of hot girls are I've talked to are so boring. Some of them lack of personality and its almost impossible to hold a conversation with them.
  • beastchick78
    beastchick78 Posts: 109
    I dont flirt :bigsmile:

    Lies! :wink:
  • solarpower03
    solarpower03 Posts: 12,161 Member
    I can flirt with anyone- I like to make people smile!
  • MissSarahAllison315
    MissSarahAllison315 Posts: 263 Member
    This topic is like a foreign language to me. I've honestly never hit on a single girl, ever. My wife darn near walked up to me at college and said "You'll do." 12 years later (10 married), we're doing great :happy:

    But I think the biggest factor would be how approachable the girl comes across as. What determines that, I haven't a clue.

    BAAHAHAH!!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Actually spit out my drink laughing at that!!! That's how my mom was with my dad back in the 80's and they're going on 30 years!!!
  • thatjosiegirl
    thatjosiegirl Posts: 362 Member
    I think it all comes down to body language and whether that person appears to be approachable.

    I'm rather reserved, so in public I rarely ever get flirted with. But at work where I am a little more relaxed and approachable, I get hit on quite frequently.
  • KrazyTwinMomma
    KrazyTwinMomma Posts: 45 Member
    This all leaves those of us who practically never have men approach them and hardly know what flirting is in a frustrating position wondering and not knowing if we're one of the below average or one of the intimidating ones. :S

    And now I'm wondering where I fall on the scale!!!
  • Flab2Fab27
    Flab2Fab27 Posts: 461 Member
    I rarely, if ever get hit on. I don't really care though.
    I do have *****y resting face

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  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    There is a range between "average" and "above average" in appearance. It's not just one or the other.

    But, anyway, to add to your research, I do get a lot of attention from men, and sometimes from lesbians as well. I respond happily to both genders.
  • _Tink_
    _Tink_ Posts: 3,845 Member
    I get zero attention from men. But then, I also have resting b*tch face.
  • Junken__Diraffe
    Junken__Diraffe Posts: 102
    I get hit on all the time. Or maybe it's in my head. Either way, I like it. I'm average, at best. I'm friendly and I flirt and I talk to anyone. I'm sure it's more due to my personality than anything. Well, that and my fantastic butt.
  • Train4Foodz
    Train4Foodz Posts: 4,298 Member
    I flirt with everybody equally....
  • emmanap91
    emmanap91 Posts: 300 Member
    I just don't flirt. I'm terrible at conversation with people I don't know or don't know well.

    I also have *****y resting face.
  • melb_alex
    melb_alex Posts: 1,154 Member
    They probably look intimidating or appear to be less sociable than the other girl :)
  • excusekiller
    excusekiller Posts: 457
    I flirt with everybody equally....
    Even me? lol
  • Train4Foodz
    Train4Foodz Posts: 4,298 Member
    I flirt with everybody equally....
    Even me? lol
    Come on sexy LOL
  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    I flirt with what I feel attractive. which is where most girls feel unattractive.
  • runnergirl0721
    runnergirl0721 Posts: 2,289 Member
    I rarely get hit on. But then again I will honestly say that I don't pay attention either. I am a very friendly person and don't really see when I'm being hit on. My friends find it hysterical..but the honest truth is that I am just me. And I've been told I'm flirting when i don't mean to be. I think that girls and guys just have different ways of flirting- girls don't consider it being hit on unless is blantantly obvious while guys sometimes think a smile and a few words are all it takes.

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