The Inevitable Doom of Having to Wear a Bathing Suit

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  • I_Will_End_You
    I_Will_End_You Posts: 4,397 Member
    I've never heard anyone call tankinis "frumpy". LOL. I know plenty of people who are in really good shape and wear them just because they like them.
  • RavenLibra
    RavenLibra Posts: 1,737 Member
    As a guy... NOTE guys think like guys... YOU are beautiful... a guy will look at a girl until he sees something he doesn't like... THEN focus on what he does like... and NOTE NO ONE looks at you closer than you do... I am sure as long as you are confident enough to put it on you are confident enough to own it... SO whatever you choose own it... it is TOO late to change your body between now and then... even if you lose a miraculous amount of weight ( 2 lbs/ week would be safe and sane) then you will have loose(r) skin and that won't be attractive either... BUT you should continue on your weight loss journey... and a healthier fitter you... because it is YOUR decision... at some point you will realize the only opinion of you that counts is yours...
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I think you already got some good advice here. My thoughts given your body description would be a sexier, youthful tankini or one piece...whatever makes you feel good about yourself.

    But if you feel frumpy in a tankini, do not wear one. If you feel sexier/cuter in a bikini even though it may show some of your less-favorite body parts, then wear the bikini.

    This advice comes from a woman who would NEVER wear anything remotely skirted or vintage style because it made me feel like a grandma. Did those suits make me look older or fatter or worse? Probably NOT. But they gave me a frumpy feeling and often made me self-conscious about showing cleavage, too.

    I stick to sporty one pieces with higher necks and cut out backs and I swim like a fish w/ no concern for my chest popping out and feel athletic and strong in my choices of swimwear.

    Whatever makes you feel good about yourself is what I think you should choose :-)
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    You don't need a bathing suit. Shorts, sports bra and a tank top.

    Many pools, gyms, resorts, hotels, etc have policies against that for pool use. I guess no one's monitoring the beach but just another thought.
  • mfp2014mfp
    mfp2014mfp Posts: 689 Member
    Some things you can't change:
    When the vacation starts
    What your body will look like between now and then (not a large change)
    What people will think of your body

    One thing you can change:
    How you view yourself.

    If it makes you feel any better I was running around in my bathers at 250 pounds, because screw everyone, I love swimming.

    Life is short, too short to be wasted on petty things. Live it to it's fullest, in 10 years you will look back at how young and beautiful yuo were and wonder why you were ever so hard on yourself :flowerforyou:
  • asdelmonte
    asdelmonte Posts: 171 Member
    Continue to eat well and exercise, because that will make you feel better about yourself regardless of what results you may get. Confidence is what people find sexy. Not the bathing suit.

    So, wear whichever style bathing suit you feel confident in. Just make sure it fits properly!!!
  • mymodernbabylon
    mymodernbabylon Posts: 1,038 Member
    Come to Europe. You will never feel self-doubting in a bikini. The old ladies who are very full figured wear tiny little bikinis and what the guys wear, well, doesn't leave much to the imagination. That has inspired me to realise that not giving a flying hoot is really what matters - cause I look at those women and men and I'm not thinking, "eww", I'm thinking, I wish I had their confidence.
  • ButtVibes
    ButtVibes Posts: 12
    So what? You won't see those people on the beach / at the pool ever in your life again! And even if you do, if it is months later, your progress will have shown. And if you have to see them again, then what? If they criticize you - then they aren't worth your time: it's too precious to be spent wallowing about somebody's comment. You are doing this for you, not for them.
    And what if they appreciated you that way. It isn't very classy but - one shoe doesn't fit all. Some men/women/whateverfloatsyourboat will find you attractive/pretty/etc. Some won't, yet won't criticize you about it. Those who do just need to grow out of their narrow mind.
    So forget about haters - haters will hate, lovers will love and you will wear whatever pleases you without giving a f*** about what they think :wink:
  • healthygreek
    healthygreek Posts: 2,137 Member
    In Greece 99.9% of the women wear bikinis. When I visit, I wear my bikini (I'm 60) because my stepmother (70-she wears a bikini) and other Greek women say having a wet bathing suit on your belly will give you a bellyache, lol!
    You are a beautiful young woman-wear whatever makes you feel most comfortable!
    Have fun at the beach! That's what it's there for. No need to worry!
  • campdawson
    campdawson Posts: 69 Member
    I wear this swimsuit.:
    http://www.walmart.com/ip/Suddenly-Slim-by-Catalina-Women-s-Slimming-Shirred-Halter-One-Piece-Swimsuit/29507937

    Like others have said, the key to wearing a swimsuit is confidence.

    Reminiscent of the pin up style, very flattering.
  • MelsAuntie
    MelsAuntie Posts: 2,833 Member
    You don't need a bathing suit. Shorts, sports bra and a tank top.

    Many pools, gyms, resorts, hotels, etc have policies against that for pool use. I guess no one's monitoring the beach but just another thought.



    Seriously? WTF? No way in hell would I obey that. I'll wear shorts and a tank top if I want to, and f--- the stupid "policy".
  • meghanbefit
    meghanbefit Posts: 9 Member
    If you're not comfortable in your suit you won't have a good time. One pieces and tankinis don't have to be frumpy. This is my suit and I feel good in it. It looks great on every body type in my opinion and it comes in so many colors. And its on sale right now.

    http://www.modcloth.com/shop/ourdesigners/esther-williams
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    You don't need a bathing suit. Shorts, sports bra and a tank top.

    Many pools, gyms, resorts, hotels, etc have policies against that for pool use. I guess no one's monitoring the beach but just another thought.



    Seriously? WTF? No way in hell would I obey that. I'll wear shorts and a tank top if I want to, and f--- the stupid "policy".

    yeah, I have done a lot of swimming over the years at various indoor & hotel pools and almost all of them have signs about no street clothes with extensive descriptions of what's not allowed (shorts, cut offs, t-shirts, tank tops). I have seen grown men, paying customers, turned away at a very nice city hotel for trying to get in with t-shirts on. I find it ridiculous. The only part I can understand is no cutoff jeans because supposedly the fabric can unravel and bits get caught in the drains. Doubt that happens a lot but whatever. I have also heard the argument that "street clothes" can weigh down swimmers and be a drowning hazard...I'm also doubtful on that.
  • mami3oh
    mami3oh Posts: 105
    I too do no like tankinis, I purchased a high wasted one, love it!

    http://www.amazon.com/Cocoship-Vintage-Engraving-Swimsuits-Swimwear/dp/B00KMV6D94/ref=pd_sim_a_9?ie=UTF8&refRID=0G46B0AB9DNB375C3TEA
  • Meerataila
    Meerataila Posts: 1,885 Member
    Screw it. I ate it, I'll wear it, and put it on my avatar pic, too.

    But until I get a lot stronger and rid myself of some percentage of these ginormous personal flotation devices I've got on my chest, I'll never get to the bottom of the pool again. :sad:

    On the plus side, unless i was face down and unconscious, I have zero chance of drowning!

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