I'm in an abusive relationship.

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  • geekishgirl
    geekishgirl Posts: 117 Member
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    This is so beautifully written. Congrats to you for recognizing a toxic relationship and putting an end to it. It's time I do that myself.


    And yes, I do know who the OP is talking about in this post.
  • BigT555
    BigT555 Posts: 2,068 Member
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    alot of people are misunderstanding op's post, its about breaking up with a negative attitude not her husband (whom she mentions is very supportive)

    kudos to you, getting rid of that mentality is the toughest thing one can do, im still fighting for it

    I did get that it wasn't her husband, but could not figure out who she was talking about. Mother, sister, not so friendly friend??
    herself
  • mccindy72
    mccindy72 Posts: 7,001 Member
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    I just went through a divorce after being married for 15 years and two kids. My ex is physicaly and emotionally abusive. It is the hardest thing I had to do and I have to do co-parenting with him, so I have lost time with my children. You should never have to go through life with someone who treats you badly. For me the re-building is very hard and I have to take one day at a time.

    Oh boy. Please re-read. I understand how you read it, but OP was referring to her own negative self-image, not her SO, whom she refers to as quite supportive.
  • DeeVanderbles
    DeeVanderbles Posts: 589 Member
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    Definitely not where I thought this post was going. A-freaking-men, sister. Well put!
  • Tracey1147
    Tracey1147 Posts: 951 Member
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    Love this post, it is so true for so many of us on here.
  • gvrbabygirl
    gvrbabygirl Posts: 12 Member
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    When I saw this post title, I immediately thought to myself "Oh no! Let me jump in and be as supportive as I possibly can...poor girl!" I could not be more pleased with this post. How AWESOME!

    Way to go, thank you for the inspiration! I think I need to do some emotional housekeeping as well.

    Great post!
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
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    alot of people are misunderstanding op's post, its about breaking up with a negative attitude not her husband (whom she mentions is very supportive)

    kudos to you, getting rid of that mentality is the toughest thing one can do, im still fighting for it

    I did get that it wasn't her husband, but could not figure out who she was talking about. Mother, sister, not so friendly friend??
    herself

    Yeah, I got that now (after your post above).
  • srslybritt
    srslybritt Posts: 1,618 Member
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    alot of people are misunderstanding op's post, its about breaking up with a negative attitude not her husband (whom she mentions is very supportive)

    kudos to you, getting rid of that mentality is the toughest thing one can do, im still fighting for it

    I did get that it wasn't her husband, but could not figure out who she was talking about. Mother, sister, not so friendly friend??

    It's filled with "I" statements, so I felt pretty safe assuming she was talking about herself. lol.
  • SheBeButLittleSheisFierce
    SheBeButLittleSheisFierce Posts: 690 Member
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    What a great and encouraging post! If I wouldn't let someone else treat me that way, why should I treat myself that way!!! Very inspiring and needed. Thank you!
  • RekindledRose
    RekindledRose Posts: 523 Member
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    So I've decided to break up with this person. End this terrible relationship. It's taken years of abuse to finally come to this decision. I'm breaking up with my bad attitude and horrible outlook. The hardest relationship to end is the one with your negative self image.

    AMEN! I need to break up with my bad attitude too! We are our worst critic at times, aren't we?
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
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    It's filled with "I" statements, so I felt pretty safe assuming she was talking about herself. lol.

    ?? She talks about herself in the third person, not as I. "This person always compares..." "this person isn't very motivating" "they make me feel like garbage"

    I get that it was purposeful to make a point, but it's not as if she said "that person in the mirror" or, as you suggest, "I".
  • whitebalance
    whitebalance Posts: 1,655 Member
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    As a masochist, I wish I had more self loathing in my relationship with myself.
    As a sadist, when you brought this up with yourself, did you reply, "NO!!" ??

    OP: Bravo. That is all.
  • carisone
    carisone Posts: 31 Member
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    I came to this post wanting to support a sister in dire need, I leave this post having been supported by a sister!!! Way to go, awesome post!!
  • patriciapowerswilliamson
    patriciapowerswilliamson Posts: 109
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    Yep, most missed her point here. Anyhow! Good for you! I wish you all the best!
  • jenbroussard71
    jenbroussard71 Posts: 221 Member
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    Great post! I need to get rid of my negative self image too....
  • FatFreeFrolicking
    FatFreeFrolicking Posts: 4,252 Member
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    LOVE this. I enjoyed reading it. You've got this, girl!

    P.S. You're beautiful and have awesome boobs (I like men but I had to admit it LOL) :flowerforyou:
  • Maryam4eva
    Maryam4eva Posts: 33 Member
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    This person always compares me to other girls. Always grabs my baby fat. Always picks and points to the things I am most insecure about. Constantly tells me how fat and unattractive I am. To make matters worse, this person isn't very motivating. Always says how I can't do this exercise, or when I do, how moronic I look. This is suppose to be the person I love most in the world, and they make make me feel like garbage on a daily basis. Why am I not good enough for this person? It hurts.

    So I've decided to break up with this person. End this terrible relationship. It's taken years of abuse to finally come to this decision. I'm breaking up with my bad attitude and horrible outlook. The hardest relationship to end is the one with your negative self image.

    From this day forward, I vow to be kind to myself. I vow to put on a bathing suit and rock it with pride. I vow to work my butt off, but not feel guilty about a cookie with my son. I earned this body by making a beautiful baby. I will never get rid of the stretch marks and I will never look like I did before, but I am finally going to start listening to my amazing husband and see myself as the beautiful sexy woman he tells me I am. I will continue to work hard, because I want to be in great shape, but it will not come from the abuse of my negativity.

    “The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.”

    ― Audrey Hepburn

    Most of us are also our own worst enemies - well done for recognising that and for vowing to be kinder to yourself. Yep - listen to your fantastic hubby - your child adores you and wants you to be around a long time, so yes, live healthily, eat sensibly, exercise to keep yourself fit and active and MOST of all enjoy doing stuff with them and enjoy life

    Thank you for the reminder
    :flowerforyou:
    BOOM!!!!
  • PunkyDucky
    PunkyDucky Posts: 283 Member
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    I love it!! I do it all the time..i'm changing my negativity about my body around. Thank you for this OP
    :flowerforyou:

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  • ruthbs
    ruthbs Posts: 14
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    SO can relate. I just look in the mirror once in a while and say: Self, STFU and I love you! :)
  • tibby531
    tibby531 Posts: 717 Member
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    where's the "standing ovation" GIF when you need it?

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