Difficult Situation with Hated Food

CharleneM723
CharleneM723 Posts: 80 Member
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I've gone to my boyfriend's parents house for dinner a few times. Each time, his Mom makes something with bleu cheese, whether it is salad or in the main course. I've choked it down a few times, but it makes me want to vomit and the taste makes me sweaty and uneasy. How do I handle this now? By the way, I'm 28, he's 42 so I'm not a teenager and I shouldn't be acting this way but I can't tolerate it any longer. They live out of state so it's a rare occasion and I'm not close to them.

Thanks.

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  • nomeejerome
    nomeejerome Posts: 2,616 Member
    I've gone to my boyfriend's parents house for dinner a few times. Each time, his Mom makes something with bleu cheese, whether it is salad or in the main course. I've choked it down a few times, but it makes me want to vomit and the taste makes me sweaty and uneasy. How do I handle this now? By the way, I'm 28, he's 42 so I'm not a teenager and I shouldn't be acting this way but I can't tolerate it any longer. They live out of state so it's a rare occasion and I'm not close to them.

    Thanks.

    Um. Tell them you don't like it?
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    3 options:

    - tell them you don't care for it
    - tell your boyfriend to tell them you don't care for it
    - suffer through it

    My wife's mom makes a plumb pudding with brandy butter every holiday...everyone loves it...I hate it...I simply say "no thank you, I don't care for plumb pudding and brandy butter" when it comes around. No biggie...
  • MissSarahAllison315
    MissSarahAllison315 Posts: 263 Member
    3 options:

    - tell them you don't care for it
    - tell your boyfriend to tell them you don't care for it
    - suffer through it

    My wife's mom makes a plumb pudding with brandy butter every holiday...everyone loves it...I hate it...I simply say "no thank you, I don't care for plumb pudding and brandy butter" when it comes around. No biggie...

    This. Make it a funny thing....that's what I do with my boyfriend's parent.Tell them that you try and try and you still can't do bleu cheese but that you'll try again in 6 months and see if your taste buds have changed :p
  • VTRutz
    VTRutz Posts: 52 Member
    I don't see what the difficult situation is... Just tell them you don't care for blue cheese. Unless they made the blue cheese from scratch, and slaved over it for weeks in a cheese cave because they thought you loved it I highly doubt they are going to be offended....
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    How is it difficult to say you don't care for something?
  • martinel2099
    martinel2099 Posts: 899 Member
    I've gone to my boyfriend's parents house for dinner a few times. Each time, his Mom makes something with bleu cheese, whether it is salad or in the main course. I've choked it down a few times, but it makes me want to vomit and the taste makes me sweaty and uneasy. How do I handle this now? By the way, I'm 28, he's 42 so I'm not a teenager and I shouldn't be acting this way but I can't tolerate it any longer. They live out of state so it's a rare occasion and I'm not close to them.

    Thanks.

    It's ok to tell Mom you don't like it. If she keeps doing it then that's a sign :P
  • fallingtrees
    fallingtrees Posts: 220 Member
    Well, the BF knows his mom better than anyone, I suppose, so I'd ask him first. Not in a please-find-a-way-to-tell-your-mom-blue-cheese-tastes-like-puke kind of way, but about which approach would be best.

    Failing that, I'd just politely pass on the offending item, stating that I can't do blue cheese, but the other food looks wonderful and I'll be fine.

    All families have some members who can't eat certain foods. My grandma had a couple allergies, so we coded the food Kosher and Non-Kosher, depending on whether Grandma could eat it. My brother-in-law can't tolerate walnuts, and I don't like them, so whenever I bake for a gathering, I tell him I used pecans or filberts and he's thrilled that I thought of him.
  • fallingtrees
    fallingtrees Posts: 220 Member
    My wife's mom makes a plumb pudding with brandy butter every holiday...everyone loves it...I hate it...I simply say "no thank you, I don't care for plumb pudding and brandy butter" when it comes around. No biggie...

    Oooh, my English/Welsh BF would love me forever if I make plum pudding with brandy butter. Can you get the recipe?
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    Well, the BF knows his mom better than anyone, I suppose, so I'd ask him first. Not in a please-find-a-way-to-tell-your-mom-blue-cheese-tastes-like-puke kind of way, but about which approach would be best.

    Failing that, I'd just politely pass on the offending item, stating that I can't do blue cheese, but the other food looks wonderful and I'll be fine.

    This!

    Or, just throw it on the ground ;-)

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