need real help

I took a quick look in your diary. Your logging is inconsistent, from what I could see. You logged this most recent weekend but the previous weekends you had 400 calories logged for both days? You can't expect to know where to go calorie - wise if you aren't logging 100%. Calories are what determine weight loss

Calories/nutrition are the number one thing when it comes to weight loss. You have to be in a caloric deficit in order to lose weight. If you're eating too few calories and exercising too much, you will end up causing metabolic damage.

Basically, your body will adjust to however many calories you are feeding it; feed it too few and it will slow the metabolism down to that level and stop burning at a higher efficiency.

With exercising, your body will become more efficient. Thus, the more exercising you do, the more you will have to do just to maintain the weight loss. Do an hour of cardio from day one? Eventually, you'll have to start doing more.

The good thing is that metabolic damage isn't the end. You can do a reverse diet, which will increase your metabolism and allow you to start burning more efficiently and be able to get back on track.

I wouldn't say eating healthy is useless but I do agree about the calorie intake. For one... stop beating yourself up, your not that fat! I agree with above.... how many calories are you taking in? are you tracking your Macro's Proteins, Fats, Carbs. Are you exercising? and what do you consider a "workout" out and how often are you really working out? Track Everything you eat. and be sure to add your workouts and see if you truly have a calorie deficit. if you do and you keep it up you will loose.

Like others said, Keep eating healthy but try to count more accurately/consistently. Pick a number like 2000 and eat that many calories for a couple weeks, if you gain, you know that's too much and you should drop it a couple hundred for the next couple weeks.

I used online calculators to determine that I needed 2700cal/day to lose weight. That didn't work so i ended up dropping that total to 2100cal/day. Calculators can give you a baseline but you'll need to do the real world testing yourself.

Count everything though. One 20oz soda is almost 300 calories....a small handful of almonds is almost 200 calories. Just make sure you burn more than you take in and you'll have no choice but to lose.

There are lots of inaccuracies in what you're logging. Thursday and Friday your Weight Watchers chicken fajitas were over 200 calories; Saturday they were only 80. There's also macronutrient information missing from a lot of your entries. If you can't find an entry that has accurate information, add it yourself or edit one of the entries to correct it. There are also a lot of "homemade" entries in your diary. Unless those are things you're making yourself, those are likely very inaccurate, because you have no idea what ingredients that person used.

Tracking your calories only works if you track everything accurately and consistently. Otherwise, you're just wasting your time.

No one said eating healthy is useless. Where are you getting this from? I said eating healthy is meaningless, and it is. Healthy is a very subjective term. Whole grains are considered healthy by many but the paleo crowd would say they are very unhealthy. Dairy is considered healthy by many but their are a growing group that consider it to be unhealthy. Should your diet be comprised mostly of minimally processed, whole foods? Yes. Can you lose weight if you eat processed foods in moderation? Yes. If you eat 100% whole foods and never touch processed foods will you automatically lose weight? Nope! Only if you are in a calorie deficit will you lose weight.

To OP, as others have all pointed out, your logging and counting of calories is inconsistent. Tighten that up and see how your progress goes after a month of accurate logging.

Have you thought of staying under the calorie target? Seems over most days. Also the wine seems v low calorie compared to what I log for wine.

I would also ditch the ready meals and replace with homemade veg curry or similar..

Oh and watch your sodium intake and carb intake. Both can cause water retention. As well, how many days/week are you going over your calorie goals? Going over 500 calories 3 days a week pretty much nulls the other 4 days.