Is it rude?

never said anything about you though:laugh: sorry if you decided to take one random post personally.

I assure you that I'm not taking it personally. I'm just fine with what I eat and drink. I was merely making a point that calling people who enjoy BBQ food pigs is not entirely accurate.

ETA: Also making a point for others that it's entirely possible to maintain a healthy weight while enjoying awesome food. Sustainable weight loss is about balance. It's not about demonizing food or calling people pigs for enjoying a treat now and then.

yes it's rude.

eat something healthy before you go, and also bring something healthy to share. find one of the healthiest items at the event. it's july fourth, surely they're having a typical american bbq? some burgers, brisket, sausages or something? that's not bad food at all (maybe hot dogs a little). enjoy yourself.

and congrats on the progress.

So much this. Hamburgers are actually a great food depending on what you put on them. Mmmmm....burgers.

Enjoy your bbq's :laugh:
I usually bring something heathier, I care about what I put into my body. there is nothing wrong with someone eating hamburgers lol and there is nothing wrong with me not wanting to eat them.. Sorry my self control offends you, I was only being honest.

Enjoy your bbq's :laugh:
I usually bring something heathier, I care about what I put into my body. there is nothing wrong with someone eating hamburgers lol and there is nothing wrong with me not wanting to eat them.. Sorry my self control offends you, I was only being honest.

There's a difference between self control (yay) and calling people pigs (boo).

I didn't post to get into arguments with anyone, I posted in reply to the original question..i know how frustrating it can be feeling trapped with no healthy options.. I am not full of myself..I was only trying to express my opinion that she should NOT feel bad for wanting to eat healthier during a holiday! Shouldn't she be PRAISED for self control? if she doesn't want to eat it, i don't understand why people are trying to encourage her to eat it anyway...some people can't eat that stuff even ONCE or they keep craving, that is why I act like the stuff is laced in anthrax..if I ate it, I would struggle and I have come too far to mess up now..

best of luck to all of you.

I didn't post to get into arguments with anyone, I posted in reply to the original question..i know how frustrating it can be feeling trapped with no healthy options.. I am not full of myself..I was only trying to express my opinion that she should NOT feel bad for wanting to eat healthier during a holiday! Shouldn't she be PRAISED for self control? if she doesn't want to eat it, i don't understand why people are trying to encourage her to eat it anyway...some people can't eat that stuff even ONCE or they keep craving, that is why I act like the stuff is laced in anthrax..if I ate it, I would struggle and I have come too far to mess up now..

best of luck to all of you.

First of all, no one is telling her she HAS to eat anything. We are merely saying that there are BBQ foods that can and will fit reasonably in with most macro targets. Because the point of this site is to learn how to fit every day foods into a healthy overall diet. It's about balance, not elimination.

Second of all, if you had phrased it this way to begin with, no one would have called you out. But, you didn't. You called perfectly fine food garbage and the people who eat it pigs. I never personally attacked you. I said the comment was rude and it was. You, on the other hand...

I think that it's more socially acceptable to bring something to share (and then exclusively eat your own dish) than to show up with lunch just for yourself. I would bring a big, hearty salad with dressing on the side and watermelon. Who doesn't like watermelon on the 4th of July?

As long as you don't bring your own food and then proceed to munch on what ever else is offered, I don't see it as rude. My cousin got called out at the last family get together for bringing her own special food, but then she also has some of the food offered at the get together. That was rude.

What if you called you mother in law and explained your situation. Tell her you are doing so well and dont want to go over board. Would she mind if you brought your own little snack to have along with her wonderful holiday offerings.

Yes. It's rude unless you do something like this ^^^. It will still come off better if you bring enough to share, though.

As a hostess, I expect people with special dietary restrictions, even if it's just 'I really hate X food' to tell me about them ASAP (I ask), or to let me know that they will provide for themselves so I can plan accordingly.

Just explain that you don't want to put her to any trouble and know that making special dishes is a hassle. Be prepared if she insists on making something for you anyway.

My aunt lost 100lbs a while back. When we would have family gatherings she did bring food that she could eat. She took personally responsibility for what she ate and didn't expect the family to change any of the dishes to accommodate her. She did bring several servings so the dish could be passed if others wanted to try it. She has managed to be able to keep off a good portion of the weight she lost too.