Really struggling

How accurate are you with your calorie counting? Do log every piece of food that goes in your mouth? Do you weigh and measure everything before you eat it. If you don't, your perceived calorie intake and your actual calorie intake can be off by hundreds or even thousands of calories.

Hey there, I'm no pro... I personally tend to get derailed along the way, but each time when I come back I try to remind myself of the things that were helping me while I was doing them. I hope these will help you along the way.

#1 Don't focus on the scale. I know that this is a tough one! I just find myself far more satisfied when I'm not obsessing over that aspect.

#2 Find something that makes you feel productive- for me I start some sort of work out that can be gradually increased- walking up and down my dead end road I can modify it by increasing the number of laps, timing myself, throwing in some high knee laps, jogging if I want to feel ridiculous (I'm still working on that) etc. I've done something similar with a pool when I had private access. It's my NSV(non scale victory) and helps keep me going when the scale may be demotivating!

#3 I try to not be too restrictive... some days I eat more than others, if I try not to eat something at night I'll end up over eating the next morning, so if I'm hungry I eat, but I measure it out and have a glass of water first to help stimulate the "full" feeling with less food.

#4 Try not to expect too much too quickly... especially when making big changes, you never know how exactly your body is going to react and sometimes it can take a few weeks of consistency to see the change that you want.

#5 I try to change my habits gradually- I usually start out logging my free eating, meaning that I'll log a few days just eating as I normally would(usually that's a lower than healthy number which leads me to believe that I owe binging to my unhealthy weight) after doing this for a few days I adjust myself to my "maintenance" calories then to a healthy weight loss range.

I hope you find some of my personal tips helpful in some way and that my post isn't TL,DR... Good luck in your search for what works for you!

Thanks guys my scales go up to 28 stone so I know they are accurate and I weigh every morsel of food. Like you say it's a long journey and I do feel better less aches and pains in just a few weeks just hope those scales budge soon it's the main thing that spurs me on.

It's going to happen. You just need to curse at the scale (and if you don't curse, learn to, because cursing at it feels good, lol) and keep on going. One day, that scale will move!

And get that book. If you read it, you will be inspired in a way you've never been and very glad that you read it. Even if you already know the story. Nobody could read that and not come away wildly inspired.

I give it as a graduation gift, every time I have to get one.

I'll stop. You'd think he was paying me to hawk it, lol.

If you keep at it, you'll succeed!

(You did see a doctor, right? To rule out any physical problems and approve your plan? I'm assuming you have!)

you sound emotional..and have a stall on the scale.

are you expecting your TOM anytime soon? If so, blame that.

The problem isn't the scale, the problem is your state of mind. You're placing all your value and self worth on that number. My advice to you is lock up your scale and don't go near it until you can weigh yourself without beating yourself up. If you're not seeing a change after a month, then you need to re evaluate your routine. Are you diligent with your workouts, are you pushing yourself as hard as you can be? Are you being honest on your food diary? For now, just keep pushing yourself to go another day, until it becomes a habit. Forget about the numbers, just focus on getting fit and healthy.