Bingeing realizations....

Matilda_Swan
Matilda_Swan Posts: 3,342 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
So I binged last night, when i get home I am going to try to log it accutetely and honestly.

As usual I am feeling the guilt and shame for my actions.

Then I had a relization and I thought I would share.

I know my binge wont slow me down and if it does, it is only temporary. I hate referring to it as a binge and something to be ashamed of. Cant we start thinking of it as life? If I am trying and succeededing at my health goals 85 - 90 percent of the time can I forgive myself for the few times I "cheat"?

In any other aspect of my life I have learned to forgive myself, through failed marriages, parenting and financial mistakes, spats with friends, issues at work, all of these I have forgiven myself, granted myself serenity, tried to learn, apologize and moved on, so why cant the same be done with a "binge"?

And why do I often CRAVE peanut butter and chocolate on a binge? Why do I allow my emotions and cravings to take over me?

Can we change our "binge" mentality into "hey, I am a human, **** is not perfect, I messed up and want to move on" mentality?

I am going to forgive myself today, I have had a rough month full of many binges. I am going to let it go and move on and enjoy my summer. I hope if you do this you can grant yourself serenity as well, forgive yourself, and start a new day and new moment on your fitness journey!

Good luck!

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  • HeidiGrrrl
    HeidiGrrrl Posts: 81 Member
    Great outlook! As they say, life is that thing which happens to us while we're busy making other plans. A day here and there isn't a failure. Sometimes you're stuck in a situation where you don't have a choice but to eat outside your box. I don't like to call it "cheating" because that implies it's a game that can end in a win or lose. Life isn't a game. Neither is a lifestyle. It also implies that there are strict laws that must be adhered to. Says who? None of us gets out of here alive, so enjoy your occasional "binges", and simply get back on track. Consider them more of a treat or a reward, rather than punishing yourself for them. Would you beat yourself up for winning the lottery? ;-)
  • kuger4119
    kuger4119 Posts: 213 Member
    Here's the deal. If you have a day where you just let it go every once in a while.....knock yourself out. It's your life and you need to be happy in it. The key problem that some people have, and when I say some, I mean most, is that once they start to "cheat", they don't have the self control to make it infrequent enough to keep making progress. I personally have run into this. I dropped about 30 lbs a couple years ago and intentionally gained back 10 lbs over the next year to gain some lean muscle mass with the intention of cutting that 10 lbs off (hoping to keep about 5 lbs of new lean muscle). I have languished for over a year running 8-15 lbs above my goal weight because I've allowed myself too many cheat days.

    So, do it if you can be disciplined. I did it when I was losing the original 30 lbs. I found it harder when I wasn't extremely motivated.
  • LisaBear1986
    LisaBear1986 Posts: 85 Member
    I'm glad you wrote this post.
    I fell off the wagon on Thursday and Friday, and undid my hard work this week. I'm angry at myself, but I've realized that today is a new day, and that even though I slipped up, I can still get back on the wagon, and move forward. This doesn't have to weigh me down; it doesn't have to keep me from moving forward. We have realized our mistakes, and that's the first and in my opinion, most important step.
  • SoLiveItUp
    SoLiveItUp Posts: 115 Member
    Good for you, getting over the guilt and forgiving can be tough, I've been there but you can do it, life is so much more than that food, you indulged now push through and keep working on the journey because part of it is learning to forgive ourselves when we overeat
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  • LisaBear1986
    LisaBear1986 Posts: 85 Member
    None of us gets out of here alive, so enjoy your occasional "binges", and simply get back on track.


    This made me chuckle! And I love it!:laugh:

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