Honestly? I give up.

girlinbubble · July 2014

Well... you are saying you want to give up because you dont want to count calories.

You do know that for you are always gonna have to "watch what you eat". Theres not way out of that.
If you dont watch what you eat, you can over eat, and then all of your heard work is out the window.

You are worth the counting. I would not stop if I were you.

HanamiDango · July 2014

65lbs is awesome! :flowerforyou: I am 10 years older than you, and honestly wish that 13-ish years ago I would have maintained the loss I had made

I got into the relationship I am now, and got pregnant, no longer cared. I am now working to undo the damage I have done. I still have a year left, maybe more, until I reach my goal look. I am fine (sometimes :laugh: ) with this. It really depends on what you want. Can you maintain your loss without counting? For me, I know I can't. But if you can, great, if you feel like you are gaining again, just come on back and count for a while and see what is happening. Many people can maintain weight without counting calories. As long as your are happy with yourself and in a healthy weight range, nothing wrong with maintaining. You can always lose more later on if you feel like it.

kgeyser · July 2014

You don't need to apologize to anyone. If you are happy where you are, fine. If you think you still want to lose those 25 lbs, but are fed up with the process - take a break. Eat at maintenance for a few weeks. Or reduce your deficit to 0.5 lb per week. I'm at that point now, and it's wonderful. I don't stress out about calories, I eat all kinds of food; I'm having fun with it. The last bit of weight will come off, but in the meantime I'm focusing on training/fitness goals and enjoying summer weather feeling 10x better about myself than I did this time last year. There's nothing wrong with taking time off from weight loss if you're finding it mentally exhausting.

shortntall1 · July 2014

DONT GIVE UP! I lost 50 lbs before and I put on like 65 after I gave up..Now Im back to where I was almost...you can do it

SunofaBeach14 · July 2014

Set your goal to maintenance, and keep logging.

Once the crankiness wears off (and it will), set your goal to .5 lb. per week and lose the rest of the weight. (The smaller deficit will help you transition to maintenance.)

Do not go on a bender &
ruin all your hard work!

I didn't even think about doing that. I guess when I started, I was so excited to see that MFP had a 2LBS a week option and never changed that part up, until I did TDEE -20%

I really think you should take this advice. You could even stop logging for a week or two. Take a break, go on maintenance. And then start the new plan. You have lost a lot of weight. Things are very different now that you are closer to goal weight. You need a smaller defecit. Congratulations on your weight loss and great relationship!

^ This. You certainly wouldn't be the first to stair step your way down. The mental break will do you good.

RabbitLost · July 2014

Eat at maintenance for a few weeks. Or reduce your deficit to 0.5 lb per week. I'm at that point now, and it's wonderful. I don't stress out about calories, I eat all kinds of food; I'm having fun with it.

This. x 1,000. If you go for maintenance, then you shouldn't gain and you may well find yourself enjoying food again. I hit maintenance a few weeks back and it's an awesome feeling. I will never go go back to my high weight. Ever. I wish you the best of luck as you work through this.

Meerataila · July 2014

If you were set on giving up, I suspect you would have deleted your MFP account and never looked back. If I'm correct, you're not %100 committed to giving up.

In which case, may I recommend procrastinating for a few weeks or even a month or two before you throw in the towel? To give yourself time to be absolutely certain it really isn't worth it.

LinDiSm26262 · July 2014

If you're discouraged, try maintaining for a while. You will need to up your calories a little at a time until you are at a calorie range where you're eating more but not gaining. Also, most people eat the same foods so you should already know approximately the calories of everything you eat so it shouldn't be too difficult to select foods you normally eat on your food list. It's okay to eat something you wouldn't normally eat at family functions, birthday parties, etc. but just get back on your maintenance program after that and add some additional minutes to your exercise. Don't give up! You deserve better and you'll only disappoint yourself in the end.
Stay the course. Don't sabotage your great accomplishment! Think about your health and don't be so hard on yourself. What if your best friend or a loved one came to you and told you what you said. What would you tell them? Would you tell them to give up? I don't think you would. So, believe in yourself because you are worth it. You really are and I know once you think on it for a while I know you'll do the right thing. God bless you!

Charcharlottey · July 2014

It is super frustrating at first. But you can change how you view it. Look at it as a learning experience. Pretty soon you'll be able to eye-ball health portions and you won't even need to measure or count every single calorie.

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justcat206 · July 2014

Agree with the break! Honestly, chances are you've got a better handle on what portion sizes need to be than you fear - you're probably not going to do much damage if you take a couple weeks off and just eat what "looks normal." Also consider playing around with the foods you eat to try to find maximum satiety. I was about ready to throw in the towel a few weeks ago because I was ravenous ALL the time! Then my trainer switched up my macros a little and even though he he lowered my overall calorie intake just giving me permission to eat some extra carbs made all the difference. Adding a little rice and quinoa to my meals filled up that gnawing hunger. So maybe play around and see if you can find what it is you're missing? Maybe it's more protein. Maybe try tossing in some extra healthy fats. Maybe add back some carbs. Just an idea. Congrats on the weight loss so far! And as someone who has battled eating disorders for years - way to go figuring out that thin does not always mean happy - as long as you're healthy, be whatever makes you happy

daw0518 · July 2014

I agree with the advice on taking a break & maintaining for awhile. I haven't lost nearly as much as you have, I've only lost 20lbs but have already found myself struggling. At first I was ashamed and SO frustrated, but then I realized that keeping up with MFP & maintaining was still something to be proud of - something that I probably couldn't have done before I started on this journey. It's encouraging to know that you've succeeded before & can succeed again sometime in the future, when you're ready. :]

Sharon_C · July 2014

I got tired of it all too and so I switched to maintenance mode. I've been in maintenance since March and I started concentrating on working out. I started weight lifting and I absolutely love it. I haven't gained a pound nor lost a pound since March and that was fine by me.

It's okay to take a break. In fact, I think its good to take a break. I liked being able to eat those extra calories.

So take some time off for awhile then come back and reevaluate.

tarcotti · July 2014

I'm curious as to the maintenance phase of calorie counting, like you said OP, its probably really annoying to do it every single day of your life. Especially if your happy with your current weight now. I honestly can't see myself daily counting EVERYTHING. Surely after a year, you learn to eat the right portions and it becomes like 2nd nature. Especially if your weight training, its harder to gain weight anyway...

curlygirl513 · July 2014

I
1. Reject the Diet Mentality
2. Honor Your Hunger
3. Make Peace with Food
4. Challenge the Food Police
5. Respect Your Fullness
6. Discover the Satisfaction Factor
7. Honor Your Feelings Without Using Food
8. Respect Your Body
9. Exercise
10 Honor Your Health

Hope that helps!

These are perfect. I'm there now, but it took some work to get here.

marissadanielle2 · July 2014

I did that. I gave up on calorie counting several months ago and just ate what I wanted. I was sick of tediously and obsessively counting, and just wanted to eat freely. Some weight came back on, and I feel like **** because of it. I wish I'd stuck with it, because I could have been so much greater now If I had. Please rethink this, and consider how you will feel in the future if you completely give up.

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Saramelie · July 2014

Is it calculating calories or being hungry that makes you want to give up? If it is because of hunger, how about calculating your TDEE and just eat a little less than this number? Let's say your TDEE is 2500, just eating 2400 everyday will still technically give you a 10-12 pounds weight loss at the end of the year, without much struggles because less hungry. If it is the calculating that is driving you crazy, then... Hmm, no solution for you.