Unrealistic Goals

I think that bodies stop growing around the age of 23,give or take a bit. So maybe it is unrealistic, maybe it isn't. I'd suggest you aim for 135 then re-evaluate about how much more you'd like to lose.

I wouldn't say unrealistic, considering the drastic changes people make every day once they find their path. But do what you must to make it realistic - what is your time frame? Have you found a program that works for you?

I'd say we have a very similar long term goal. I know that 140 from 165 is attainable, but 1) I don't expect to do it in 30 days; and 2) now that I'm on my way, I can see how over a year or so I couldn't help to reach 125. I am calculating at a 1-2 pound a week weight loss, which for me is healthy and gradual. I'm in it for the long term

Not that I've accomplished that, but I don't think that your goals are unrealistic. You are basically trying to lose 52 lbs in one year, which makes around 4.3 lbs per month. Very doable :-)

Understand too that you can have an amazing body at 135 or even 140 if you put the effort into lifting and start now. You might even look better than you did at 125.

I don't think it's about unrealistic goals but having a different perspective.

I'm not too sure why age and growth frame is a question here on weight goal? it ALL depends on your height and bone structure as to what you should weigh, I am 5' 2" and 56 years old, I should, by the charts and my Doctor, weigh 125 lbs. There are ranges for each height I suggest you google it and see what the weight goal for your height should be.

Hi Liz,

Our starting weight and goal weights....both the one on your ticker and the lower one you're contemplating...are almost exactly the same. When I started in March I was at 188....I joined MFP a month later and 5 lbs lighter.....since then I've lost another 14 lbs.....

When I joined MFP I thought my ultimate goal was to make it to 140-145....but now that I see that this works and I've become such a believer and now that I've read so many inspirational profiles, I can't help but believe that I can reach a goal much lower than than the 140's. My new plan is to get to the 140s....then revise my goal to 130.....and I'll know better then what the ultimate goal weight should be. Like you I haven't weighed that little in many many years so I don't even know how I'll feel or look at that weight. Maybe my face will look too old if I get too thin.? So I don't think you need to know your ultimate goal now.....just know that you are firmly and decidedly on the path.

What I do know is that even once I get there...the more important step will be to stay on plan and learn the life skill of maintenance.

I expect it will take me a year to get there....and then perhaps a year or so of maintenance logging. I never want to be overweight again, so whatever it takes.

Absolutely not! LOL! But I'd focus more on how your body LOOKS, than an actual weight. Why is it important for you to weigh this much? Is that a healthy weight for your body?

I'm not too sure why age and growth frame is a question here on weight goal? it ALL depends on your height and bone structure as to what you should weigh, I am 5' 2" and 56 years old, I should, by the charts and my Doctor, weigh 125 lbs. There are ranges for each height I suggest you google it and see what the weight goal for your height should be.

because by definition puberty means that your body is growing and that certain hormones that you use as an adult kick in to their fullest.

trying to go back to a weight before your body had completely stopped coming into puberty (especially if you were at an ideal weight at that time, i'm not talking about the kids who were overweight when puberty started) is an exercise in futility and a good way to make sure something like osteoporosis catches up to you

^ I think that's a really good point. I have encountered people "irl" who think I shouldn't try to get back to my 6th grade weight which is my current goal. Never mind the fact that I was huge for my age and quite overweight, already. Very different from being an average, thin, barely-pubescent 12 year old and wanting to return to that size as an adult.

Not that I've accomplished that, but I don't think that your goals are unrealistic. You are basically trying to lose 52 lbs in one year, which makes around 4.3 lbs per month. Very doable :-)

+1

Not at all!!! I am 36 and never weighed below 120 in high school and early 20's. I'm now 115, working on getting below 110. It's totally possible!

Know that the last 15 lbs or so will be HARD and very sloooowwww going. But they are worth it!

I'm not too sure why age and growth frame is a question here on weight goal? it ALL depends on your height and bone structure as to what you should weigh, I am 5' 2" and 56 years old, I should, by the charts and my Doctor, weigh 125 lbs. There are ranges for each height I suggest you google it and see what the weight goal for your height should be.

because by definition puberty means that your body is growing and that certain hormones that you use as an adult kick in to their fullest.

trying to go back to a weight before your body had completely stopped coming into puberty (especially if you were at an ideal weight at that time, i'm not talking about the kids who were overweight when puberty started) is an exercise in futility and a good way to make sure something like osteoporosis catches up to you

I am very aware of what puberty is! Are YOU aware that there are set groups of weight by bone structure for certain heights/sexes? This is what they should be checking, not worrying about what was or might not be ok today vs. at 20, this would be real medical advise or better yet get a check up which everyone should get before starting a fitness/diet program they will chart you and tell you what range is good for you.

I'm 5'3.5 and now (age 26 - so appreciate I'm not exactly full of experience and wisdom) weigh a few pounds less than I did when I was 17 (I was 125 back then, and 120 now) but, funnily enough, don't look the same. No more taut belly/skinny arms. Having put on and lost some weight, changed my muscle make up, means my body composition is different and I appreciate that even if I lost even more weight I won't look like that again. It's not about a number on the scale. It's just about being happy and healthy in my own skin.

I would say have a scale number vaguely in mind, but go by how healthy you look and feel.

I would urge you to consider weight training while you're losing as it'll help retain your muscle mass (when we lose weight we typically lose both fat and muscle) which will make you look healthier in the long game (also supposed to help with skin firmness I am told)

I'm 5'3.5 and now (age 26 - so appreciate I'm not exactly full of experience and wisdom) weigh a few pounds less than I did when I was 17 (I was 125 back then, and 120 now) but, funnily enough, don't look the same. No more taut belly/skinny arms. Having put on and lost some weight, changed my muscle make up, means my body composition is different and I appreciate that even if I lost even more weight I won't look like that again. It's not about a number on the scale. It's just about being happy and healthy in my own skin.

I would say have a scale number vaguely in mind, but go by how healthy you look and feel.

I would urge you to consider weight training while you're losing as it'll help retain your muscle mass (when we lose weight we typically lose both fat and muscle) which will make you look healthier in the long game (also supposed to help with skin firmness I am told)

I think you may have more wisdom than some people I know who are in their 40's. Well said!