Do you even like getting cheered on?

Missboss888
Missboss888 Posts: 41 Member
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Like I said in my "introducing myself" post. I've had MFP for a while but didn't take it seriously until this week. So my question now is do you guys like the compliments when you stay under your calories for the day or when you've lost 1 pound? I know I saw another post where someone mentioned people are "fake" in a way, when they do that. Don't get me wrong, I'm generally not a nice person, actually, I am really sassy (as my friends call me.) Job promotion? Cool. You're expecting? Cool. You're getting married? Cool. But when it comes to weight loss I get excited and the exclamation points and "Way to go!" Comments get a little crazy. Haha. Just didn't know if not everyone likes that. I personally only have 1 real life friend who is taking losing weight seriously so I need you guys.
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  • Nojoke81
    Nojoke81 Posts: 131
    The language of the internet is generally exaggerated, lol. Please note that I did not literally laugh out loud.

    It's just how people generally communicate via text.
  • highcarbveganzombie
    highcarbveganzombie Posts: 68 Member
    I really don't have anyone to cheer me on 'in real life' so yeah it would be nice to hear it (if it happens) lol. :P
  • Missboss888
    Missboss888 Posts: 41 Member
    Friend request sent! :p
  • JoshD8705
    JoshD8705 Posts: 390 Member
    I click the like so people know I'm still watching, and if they've been struggling, and start getting it right then, "Way to go!" is appropriate. If someone is taking time out of their day to acknowledge you, I don't consider it fake. I know my life is very busy between dieting, working out, resposibilities, and finding time for fun. A simple like should mean something, and some kind words even more. I appreciate them when I get them :)
  • MscGray
    MscGray Posts: 304 Member
    I changed my settings so that every little thing doesn't show up on my feed. IE: it doesn't push a notification that I completed and stayed under, I still have notifications for weight loss, and for day streak. I personally don't really pay much attention to peoples diary...unless they been fretting about some event coming up...then I might review it and give them a verbal "pat on the back" if they did well. In general I "like" weight loss unless they put up some kick *kitten* number, or they log some killer work out. I like to receive similar feedback, and as far as I can tell everyone who leaves me feedback/compliments/suggestions/etc seem to be truthful, not fluffy and/or fake. And most of all there are a few that will call me on my bull**** and help motivate me to get myself to the gym. Hope that helps!
  • HellaCarriefornia
    HellaCarriefornia Posts: 102 Member
    I generally don't comment on daily diary completion entries. (I didn't know you could turn those off, so thanks MscGray for pointing that out.) But to me, any weight loss is progress so I comment to be encouraging. Esp if you know that person has been stalled for a while, I think it's nice to acknowlege they got it going again. And getting in a good long streak of logging in days shows consistancy, so I'll shout out for the big numbers.
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  • likitisplit
    likitisplit Posts: 9,420 Member
    I turned off all the announcements, except exercise.
  • Missboss888
    Missboss888 Posts: 41 Member
    Today is my 4 day streak. I'm kind of excited about that. Hehe
  • ninav1980
    ninav1980 Posts: 514 Member
    I suppose if one doesnt like it they would simply change their settings so that these alerts never get posted. Otherwise I assume they appreciate it. I disabled the "log in days" alerts. I could care less if people know how many days in a row I Iog in.
  • vmlabute
    vmlabute Posts: 311 Member
    I'm pretty excitable about everything so I like all the compliments and kind words :)
  • emilyisbonkers
    emilyisbonkers Posts: 373 Member
    add me if you like :)
  • Typicalrouse
    Typicalrouse Posts: 35 Member
    I like getting cheered on!! And I like cheering others on :)
  • ValGogo
    ValGogo Posts: 2,168 Member
    I think that once "friends" get really friendly and see each other every day, it becomes more like "Yeah, good for you!" becasue we like these people now, people who were realtive strangers before (well, they are still strangers, haha, but you know what I mean).
  • weavernv
    weavernv Posts: 1,555 Member
    I recently just got some friends that I noticed get cheered on, and a couple that are cheering me on. I actually found that I like it. I've been cheering my friends on, and I hope that they like it. My friend list is REALLY small. I haven't been using MFP consistently until recently (about 3 months) so I'm not sure how much it would make a difference in my efforts. I guess I could find out if I had more friends.
  • Becoming_A_Butterfly
    Becoming_A_Butterfly Posts: 2,534 Member
    When I am struggling, yes, I do like getting encouraging comments and knowing that someone took the time to comment. I also changed my settings for the news feed so that only things I feel are relevant (like weight loss and my workouts) get posted.
  • DeadliftAddict
    DeadliftAddict Posts: 746 Member
    I could care less either way. I don't do this thing for gratification. It's nice but doesn't bother me. I congratulate others though.
  • sarahharas5
    sarahharas5 Posts: 256 Member
    I love the support. Fake or not, it keeps me going.
    My family members all say they are dieting but no one is really consistent. I think I drive them crazy talking about exercise and healthy choices all the time. So it's nice to be in a place where you are surrounded with people who are actively trying.
    You can add me for support if you want. My "Way to go!!"s will be genuine I promise :)
  • Missboss888
    Missboss888 Posts: 41 Member
    I started adding people off the forums if they said something that sounded legit, or seemed really motivating, or just wanted new friends. But one of them put on their feed "Who is this girl" (my username) and I thought, omg I hope I don't look like a creep already "liking" her stuff. But I guess it's true if someone didn't want the cheering on it can be hidden. I didn't know that :P
  • mitchiejo
    mitchiejo Posts: 179 Member
    I like cheering on my MFP friends and being cheered on by them. I don't look at everyone's food diary every single day but I do look from time to time to get ideas.
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    i don't really think streaks are that important, meh, i opened my laptop and was still logged into mfp, didn't really take much effort.

    exercise and diaries, i am happy for my friends who took a walk, ran, lifted, and met their daily goals. sometimes i might phone it in with a "like" but overall, i am rooting for you all!
  • LastMinuteMama
    LastMinuteMama Posts: 590 Member
    I started adding people off the forums if they said something that sounded legit, or seemed really motivating, or just wanted new friends. But one of them put on their feed "Who is this girl" (my username) and I thought, omg I hope I don't look like a creep already "liking" her stuff. But I guess it's true if someone didn't want the cheering on it can be hidden. I didn't know that :P

    That's terrible!

    I usually like people's fitness & food log so that they know that I'm watching. If they do something outstanding, I comment. I usually write something goofy that I probably wouldn't say outloud IRL, like - Rock On!!! or You Go Girl!!! ....because it's fun.
  • leggup
    leggup Posts: 2,942 Member
    I turned off the notifications for: completing a diary, losing weight, and X day streak. I recently turned the streak back on so I don't miss my own "200 days on MFP" because I absolutely missed 100 days. I weigh every day. 1/2 the time I lose weight day to day. the other half the time I gain weight day to day. I lose more than I gain, but I don't want to see the same 1 lb coming and going and get CONGRATS! I noticed people did that, even when my ticker made it clear it was the same 1 lb.

    I never congratulate someone for completing their diary. I don't care about people completing their diaries. I never hit "Complete" on mine. You never know when you're going to get a little more exercise in, or eat a nibble. I also focus on weekly calorie intake moreso than daily, so it means nothing if I was over of under on a Tuesday. It evens out by the end of the week.
  • zip_girl
    zip_girl Posts: 29
    I feel a little awkward about it so I just turned my notifications off. I wish more people would turn off the notifications and just post stuff to start a discussion. I feel more connected to the friends I have actually had a conversation with.
  • Yurippe
    Yurippe Posts: 850 Member
    "Grats on being under your calories!" Thank you, I am proud that I ate fast food twice today.

    There are times in the past that I've had upwards of 100 friends. Mostly added when I joined some sort of group or challenge. All of which disappeared over the years, and I've long since deleted.

    Currently I have maybe 4 friends. Two I know IRL, one added me because we share a group, and another that I added because her forum posts are ridiculously offensive and I like to follow her nonsense on the forums. I'm past a point where online encouragement does anything for me. It is completely hollow.

    At this point I would only add someone I found amusing.

    ETA: this is the friend request message I just sent out, "You amuse me. I have no intention of ever sending you any support, but would like to forum stalk you for the lulz."
  • eggomylegos
    eggomylegos Posts: 146 Member
    I love it! I'm a big 'ol e-cheerleader. Reading diaries and posting positive messages on my friends newsfeeds motivates me to stay on track. I purposely look for friends who are very active on the site.

    Personally. it feels impossible to take this journey alone. MFP is my easy access support system.
  • CindyMarcuzAdams
    CindyMarcuzAdams Posts: 4,007 Member
    Clicking like is an acknowledgement of the post. I read it and I am happy for you. There is nothing phony about it. I love getting comments on my page. It honestly boosts me up. My only encouragement i get is from my hubby so the cheers I get from friends on here does mean a lot.
  • bunbunzee44
    bunbunzee44 Posts: 592 Member
    YES I like them :3 I don't talk about fitness and weight loss/controlling outside of MFP much, people who don't exercise will have their great comments like 'you don't need to lose weight' when I talk about exercise.. :/
  • farfromthetree
    farfromthetree Posts: 982 Member
    I LOVE getting cheered on! and I love cheering others on, unless you're on my nerves...then I ignore you.
  • Fsunami
    Fsunami Posts: 241 Member
    I take the time for them, because they do the same for me.

    Truth is that many of them have helped me stay focused/committed, get better educated, etc, so its a worthwhile investment of my time.

    Fsunami

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