Do you even like getting cheered on?

Hey girl. None of my real life peeps take my weight loss seriously either. I've just started training for a 5K again, because I made time for it, and my SO thinks because I'm running now that it's okay to keep wanting to eat at burger joints or fast food places. As for commenting, I think a lot of people don't want to take the time to feel obligated to do the same for others and post things on their profiles. Also, when you get some people who comment on everything you do, sometimes it feels weird. I'm not sure why.

I click the like so people know I'm still watching, and if they've been struggling, and start getting it right then, "Way to go!" is appropriate. If someone is taking time out of their day to acknowledge you, I don't consider it fake. I know my life is very busy between dieting, working out, resposibilities, and finding time for fun. A simple like should mean something, and some kind words even more. I appreciate them when I get them

^This

Thanks for your feedback guys. I guess it looks like some people like it some don't, so I'm still in the same predicament. People who don't like it can delete me

Bingo! I am enthusiastic, too, about my friends' health! I've deleted a few friends and one delete me. I am okay with that! We are who we are, and may we each find the people we need for our successful journey.

I figure that I only have to worry about my sincerity, as I am only in control of myself. My encouragement is heartfelt, so I accept my friends as such. I also feel an accountability to these friends to be honest & open, so that helps me make wise decisions.

I think its great. this should be a open forum for support and good vibes...our lives are already too full of negativity and feeling shammed for messing up..its nice to have people "in your corner" even if you have never met them. I say keep on with your likes and way to go's...it might just make someones day!

I have to admit that I like it. The best way for people to get to know each other here is by the small comments here and there as well as the "likes". I always play with my news feed settings so that I only post bigger things.

I try to be a "supportive" friend here.

The language of the internet is generally exaggerated, lol. Please note that I did not literally laugh out loud.

It's just how people generally communicate via text.

Yeah. Since tone can be hard to read on the internet, using exclamation points or 'lol' helps. Otherwise someone saying 'Nice job' might look sarcastic.

I love it. Most of my support is online, either here or elsewhere. Every little bit of encouragement or assistance helps, and being able to give some of that in return is great.

Getting cheered on is awesome, I just wish that my neighbors would get the hint when my theme music starts blasting, and the pyros go off when I step out of my house in the morning. Maybe Michael Buffer can help me out. Until then, I'll get whatever cheers/encouragement I get here, and give 'em back.

I love getting cheered on, and I like cheering others on It's good to have somewhere to talk about weightloss, food etc and have other people interested in it to talk to.

i like even more when people actually talk to me... you know. like... have conversations, act silly. call each other a spleen, whatever randomness is around to talk about. or about weight loss. i like sharing tips and recipes and getting them shared at me.

but i also appreciate a good thumbs up when i do something that was not easy for me. or when it was. basically i like it when people aknowledge the work i do. yay for external validation!

I don't really have anyone to talk to in "real" life, I think everyone around me is tired of hearing what I eat , how great my work out was or that I lost 2 lbs. I just recently found how to read the forums and find other people on here. So yeah some encouragement would be nice! Also I don't like sharing these things on my other social media sites..

I absolutely love being encouraged onward, maybe even a little too much.

It makes up for the fact that people in real life tell me to stop.

I am completely new here, but what I noticed over the years in online communities is that a lot of people interact based on a 'I treat you like I wish to be treated' maxime*. That by itself isn't bad, but it can lead to situations where both people give the other the treatment they wish to receive, and neither actually receives the treatment they want. I think online it's harder to communicate that you're not comfortable with how somebody reacts to something you did, even though you are sure they're meaning well.
And after a while they decide they don't like the other person.

Tthat's kind of sad, because the other person might be very nice and might have become a good friend, and it's also sad because you wasted all the time trying to hint at how you wish to be treated.
So, I think naturally people will start to find those who want to be treated like them, and build a circle of similar friends. But I think it's easier and you can make friends with more diverse people if you just talk about your intentions and ask if you're doing the right thing.

I think that helps preventing 'I had good intentions!' situations. (In my language there is a saying, 'gut gemeint ist das Gegenteil von gut gemacht', 'well meant is the opposite of well done', meaning that when people have to rely on their intentions to explain why they did something, it means they are trying to justify why they screwed up.)


*makes you wonder about trolls.


ETA: I myself, nope. I have a hard time accepting compliments and beat myself up when people show me support and I think I'm disappointing them IRL, and it's only slightly better online.