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Feeling discouraged
queenbrc
Posts: 29 Member
I don't know why I even allowed this to hurt me. After all, I have lived with this man for 6 years. I know how much of a rude insensitive *kitten* he can be.
Its bad enough that he wakes me up at 3am, knowing that is the first day of school and I have to wake up with the kids. So he sends me to Walmart for bread, tortillas and sprite (like he's a pregnant *****).
So as I'm strolling through Walmart he sends me several texts of several other items to pick up. So being that I'm all over the store for him I decided to pick up a few things for the kids to eat in the mornings before school. Then I thought about how I am on vacation this week and I am sincerely trying to eat better. So I pick up a few things for myself: spring mix lettuce, cucumbers, celery, tomatoes, bell peppers, croutons and lite salad dressing.
So I get home and when he sees all the groceries he goes off on me. He calls me hungry, says I'm always hungry. When I say I'm not even hungry right now, he looks me up and down in disgust and says "you don't have to say it, it shows for itself. He proceeds to call me selfish because " all of the food is for me, and not the kids" I'm thinking "wow. Wtf??!! All I got for myself is some *kitten* for a salad (and a 2liter sprite zero). He calls me hungry hippo, whale and several other kindergarten names. He continues talking shyt about how fat I am and how I only wasted my money when I bought my elliptical machine. Normally when he does thus to me it a trigger that sets off a binge cycle. This time I felt different. I don't even want to eat. I know that's crazy. I know he is just a ***** and the things he says aren't necessarily true. Its horrible because he knows what hurts me and he uses these things to hurt me. I know I will prove him wrong, and not for him, but because I have already made the decision to change and I'm not going to feel guilty for putting cheese on my salad like he wants me to.
I know it doesn't really matter, but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. I want to cry but I can't. I feel, very discouraged right now. I want to slap myself for allowing his negative behavior to cause such an impact in the way I see myself, and treat myself. I just feel very alone. He us my only " friend" (some friend, huh?) So I really have no one but mfp to talk to. Thanks for reading.
Good night
Its bad enough that he wakes me up at 3am, knowing that is the first day of school and I have to wake up with the kids. So he sends me to Walmart for bread, tortillas and sprite (like he's a pregnant *****).
So as I'm strolling through Walmart he sends me several texts of several other items to pick up. So being that I'm all over the store for him I decided to pick up a few things for the kids to eat in the mornings before school. Then I thought about how I am on vacation this week and I am sincerely trying to eat better. So I pick up a few things for myself: spring mix lettuce, cucumbers, celery, tomatoes, bell peppers, croutons and lite salad dressing.
So I get home and when he sees all the groceries he goes off on me. He calls me hungry, says I'm always hungry. When I say I'm not even hungry right now, he looks me up and down in disgust and says "you don't have to say it, it shows for itself. He proceeds to call me selfish because " all of the food is for me, and not the kids" I'm thinking "wow. Wtf??!! All I got for myself is some *kitten* for a salad (and a 2liter sprite zero). He calls me hungry hippo, whale and several other kindergarten names. He continues talking shyt about how fat I am and how I only wasted my money when I bought my elliptical machine. Normally when he does thus to me it a trigger that sets off a binge cycle. This time I felt different. I don't even want to eat. I know that's crazy. I know he is just a ***** and the things he says aren't necessarily true. Its horrible because he knows what hurts me and he uses these things to hurt me. I know I will prove him wrong, and not for him, but because I have already made the decision to change and I'm not going to feel guilty for putting cheese on my salad like he wants me to.
I know it doesn't really matter, but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt. I want to cry but I can't. I feel, very discouraged right now. I want to slap myself for allowing his negative behavior to cause such an impact in the way I see myself, and treat myself. I just feel very alone. He us my only " friend" (some friend, huh?) So I really have no one but mfp to talk to. Thanks for reading.
Good night
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Hugs to you - it is always a good thing when you make healthy choices that make you stronger and more fit. Stay strong.0
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your man needs a slap.
don't listen to it, there's so many of us in the same boat - you always have someone to talk to here.
plough through, dont take that crap. you need to TELL him x0 -
You need a good support structure, not someone who is going to rip you apart at a moment's notice. If I were you, I would keep a "Self Motivation" Journal, and record all the good things you have been able to achieve on a daily basis. Whenever you've been exposed to any negativity around you, open the journal and read your entries. It seems to work for a few people I know.0
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blimey you have written so many reasons there why you should be motivated to carry it on. He may or may not mean it but its not very pleasant thing to say to someone who is your friend. Dont discuss anything else with him about your journey just friend us and let it out here. SOmetimes people use your weaknesses against you and that is one of my bug bears. You can bloody do it. xxx0
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p.s make sure you eat, even if you dont feel like it. x0
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That is so mean, to be honest I'd not put up with it, I'd be gone..... But that's just me - I've been through all of that with my ex husband, hence the reason why he's the ex....
Good on you for buying some healthy stuff, don't let negative people drag you down, just smile and think to yourself that every verbal attack is helping you to grow a thicker skin, that way, the thicker your skin, the tougher you become and you'll get to a point where words like that no longer hurt you, they just make you more determined and stronger....
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Waw, that's harsh. Off course you know he is being childish, but still these episodes are not doing your self-esteem any good.
You are doing just fine. Obviously you are too good of a woman, going shopping at night for him?
And you are on a good path to a healthier you: eating your salads, and using your elliptical trainer.
Please don't let this push you off the wagon again.
Picture yourself a few months from now, a happier, healthier you, more confident, and hopefully a few real-life friends richer.0 -
You do know that you deserve better, right? I mean, truly, you deserve to supported and nurtured, no matter what he says.0
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Some assertive training wouldn't go astray for you OP...it will help deal with him...but no one deserves such treatment, if he is not prepared to change his attitude you need to determine if you are able to tolerate it (knowing that it is likely to get worse).
You don't want your children to be exposed to such attitude and behaviour, they live what they see. Seriously consider your options.0 -
This guy is making you miserable.0
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wow, it made me so sad to read your post. No one should treat you like that, especially when you are going out of your way to do what they ask. A partner is someone who supports you, is your teammate and your cheerleader. that's what you deserve. don't let him get you down. he may be threatened by your success at changing your lifestyle and consciously or subconsciously sabotaging you. stand up for your self all you can and keep doing what's best for you and your kids. maybe reach out to some of the other moms once school gets going and see if you can make some friends and build a local support network. in the meantime, keep reaching out to your MFP friends, that's what we're here for.
hope the rest of your day goes better!0 -
He doesn't sound like a good friend. Keep making healthy choices. Remind yourself each day that you and your kids need a happy and healthy mom.0
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So why are you still with him? What kind of example are you showing your kids by putting up with an a-hole like that?0
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A slap my *kitten*, he needs a conch in the head with a frying pan!
OMG Honey you need to get rid of him! This is no way for your children to grow up!
I wish the best for you0 -
Thanks to everyone for the encouraging words.
And yes, I do know that he is not good for me.
It has been years since we were actually "in a relationship" with each other, we've just been living together. At the moment I'm stuck because we are both on the lease here. I cannot make him leave and I am in no way capable of pulling off a move right ght now. So I have until...next May to figure it out for me and the kids.
So for now I'm just trying to stay away from him as much as possible and not listen to the rude comments.
But thank, a lot of these posts actually did make me feel much better.0 -
SUCCESS IS THE BIGGEST REVENGE!!!! Use his mean, hurtful words as motivation for you.... Enjoy your salad, sounds delish0
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I am having a hard time understanding why you would allow anyone to wake you up at 3 a.m., and then send you to Walmart.0
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Wow. No-one has a right to talk to you like that. Are they his kids? If not what on earth can possibly be inducing you to put up with this? Why are you doing his shopping for him? Why are you even opening his texts? (Please note that if they are his kids it in no-way excuses him treating you like a servant or being so childish and rude it's just that I understand it's not so simple to just break with someone when you have kids together).0
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Wow, I'm sorry you are going thru this friend. A relationship should invigorate you not stress you out, I'm learning about the signs of a good relationship myself because after years of being with a negative person, I forgot how it's supposed to normally be....0
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I can't believe you put up with that. I know there's kids involved so it's not like you just want to walk out the door, but he's being very abusive and that isn't right.
First off, who goes to the market at 3am? Really? If anyone was hungry, it sounds like he was. Tell him to go get things in the middle of the morning. Given that you're on vacation, I'm sure you could have done the market at a reasonable hour and based on what you've bought, it doesn't sound like you got a lot.
Is he pudgy himself? Why is he so insensitive towards your goals of being healthier and losing weight? Really, consider all these things and just be with your children if they make you happier. I'm sorry you have a jerk like that as your husband.0
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