Comments from friends and family

Because I've lost a lot of weight, it's fairly evident to my family that I've been dieting, I haven't kept it a secret or anything. Various comments, mostly positive, but the one thing that really annoys me.
Whenever I have any type of food, my dad will jokingly gasp and point and be like ':O that's fattening! you can't have that!' and make elaborate gestures and just make me feel really self conscious, -.- I'm calorie counting dammit! I can have whatever I god damn like ugh.

"You have NO butt!" Fyou I'm working on it!

My mom always compliments the hell out of me but my dad wont say anything positive...when i talk about getting strong he talks about how strong he used to be or how strong a guy at work is. I'm pretty sure he's proud just for some reason won't say so.

My inlaws are horribly demotivating to my wife too. "Your legs are too skinny" "you look anorexic" "would you SHUT UP about calories?"

The mother in law is crazy too...she refuses to buy my sis-in-law a food scale and won't drive her to the gym. I think it's because she's jealous that we are all trying to get in shape and she won't get out of her own way to do the same. She's gone gluten free (for no reason that I know of), she does cleanses (again dunno why), only eats organic, she buys exercise equipment but everytime I see her she's layed up on the couch asking her youngest daughter to do something for her. But she is the "guru" about weight loss and tells everyone what they need to do if they want to get healthy...I'm sorry but taking advice from someone 100lbs overweight who lays on the couch all day and night does not seem like a healthy idea.

I adore my husband, truly, but the man has NO clue about nutrition. He won't bat an eye if we have pizza and wings for dinner but the next day he sees me packing my baked eggs and says "that's not healthy!".
Me: (smirk) What's not healthy about it?
Him: greasy eggs and fatty ham
Me: um, no, I only sprayed the muffin tin with Pam, there's no grease. And the ham is quite lean.
Him: (blank stare)
Me: (big cheesy grin, goes back to packing lunch/snacks)

He also thinks peanut butter is the worst thing you can eat. smh

My brother's friend told me that my head is too big for me to lose weight and that if I lose much more I will look like a bobble head. It sounds like a joke but he was dead serious.

That is the funniest/stoopidest comment ever! As an old friend of mine used to say "Some people are more stupid than they look".

My family lives over 3000 miles away, so that solves the potential problem of demotivating, rude comments from the likeliest suspects! I only see them every few years, so by the time I see them next I won't know what they're talking about. DH and DD are wonderfully supportive by essentially ignoring my weight loss. DH thinks I'm sexy, although he always did, and DD likes that she can get her arms around me now, but that's the extent of it. DH gets a bit fed up that I keep complaining about clothes being too big, but since I'm petite and now XS (with 15lbs still to go), he's used to it.

MIL is trickier. She has spent her entire life losing weight (although she looks just fine to me and always has), and has no problem talking about weight and "diets" around my 8 year-old daughter, which we don't allow (we only discuss health and nutrition when she's around). The way MIL talks about it suggests that a person's worth is directly related to whether their weight is "normal" or "good" and I find that concept repellent.

Colleagues are more difficult. I work from home, and every single time I've had a meeting or conference since APRIL, I've had a load of people comment on my weight. All lovely comments, I have to add (my boss declaring that she now has a teenager working for her! was the sweetest by far), but the whole thing was incredible uncomfortable for me. This week was the first time it hasn't happened and it's been BLISSFUL to just be a person instead of a weight-loss story again. I wish some people would just shut their cakeholes and talk about the weather TBH.

The other day while cooking I made a comment to my boyfriend that I would like to buy a food scale, so I know how much meat I am eating. I am good at measuring out my liquid foods and even counting my servings for crackers/snacks, but have no way of knowing how many oz of meat I am consuming except for eyeballing it (which I do a decent job at based on the weight given on the meat packages, but not perfect).

Here was my boyfriend's response:

"WHY? You already count calories, work out 6 days a week, you even count out 16 wheat thins! You are not fat, you are not even the slightest bit overweight, I think that is a little too extreme."

Now he is very supportive of my workouts and healthy eating, yet he is 6 feet tall and 145 lbs... without even trying. He has never had to worry about what he eats and may never have to. He sees all that I am doing now and the idea of me going further with my weight loss/health efforts to him is insane and too extreme.

Any advice on how to help him see that although he is lucky and does not need to worry about things like that, I DO!?

The other day while cooking I made a comment to my boyfriend that I would like to buy a food scale, so I know how much meat I am eating. I am good at measuring out my liquid foods and even counting my servings for crackers/snacks, but have no way of knowing how many oz of meat I am consuming except for eyeballing it (which I do a decent job at based on the weight given on the meat packages, but not perfect).

Here was my boyfriend's response:

"WHY? You already count calories, work out 6 days a week, you even count out 16 wheat thins! You are not fat, you are not even the slightest bit overweight, I think that is a little too extreme."

Now he is very supportive of my workouts and healthy eating, yet he is 6 feet tall and 145 lbs... without even trying. He has never had to worry about what he eats and may never have to. He sees all that I am doing now and the idea of me going further with my weight loss/health efforts to him is insane and too extreme.

Any advice on how to help him see that although he is lucky and does not need to worry about things like that, I DO!?

DH thinks I'm a bit extreme weighing out everything too, but we've decided that I'll do my thing and he'll do his (he tracks for sodium/potassium to control high blood pressure). We've both been successful so far (me losing weight and he getting his blood pressure under control), so I think more-or-less minding your own business and trying not to take offhand comments too seriously works best.

In my experience, you can't change anyone else's mind unless they want you to. I wouldn't waste your energy on trying to change his mind. Just do your own thing, and buy the scale!

I started slow, like 45 lb took me 4.5 years to lose slow. But since joining MFP I've dropped 86 lb in 16 months, and what I have noticed is that after I lost the first 30 lb on MFP a lot of family, friends, acquaintances got "concerned" and told me I may be losing too quickly or said things like "How much more do you want to lose!? Plus, you're tall!" I was still well over 200 lb, and needed to lose more...but I really think that most of them were genuinely concerned because they had never seen such a rapid & noticeable change in me.

Now that I've lost a lot more weight 99% of the comments I get are positive - even from the same people who were so "concerned" at this time last year. I think there are a variety of reasons for this, but mainly I think it's because A) they have gotten used to the slimmer me, and they see that I am full of energy, happy, healthy, etc.

I also think along the way when you're losing a lot of weight it is common to go through a lot of short phases where maybe you're losing kind of oddly or it looks weird on you. There was a time much earlier on when I was very concerned about my neck looking very turkey-like and causing me to appear much older than my age, now it's pretty much gone to normal, if much slimmer than before. Part of that's probably me getting used to it, too.

There was a time much earlier on when I was very concerned about my neck looking very turkey-like and causing me to appear much older than my age.

That made me laugh. I've actually started to put lotion on my neck for the first time. It does look a bit scrawny without the layers of fat plumping it out.

There was a time much earlier on when I was very concerned about my neck looking very turkey-like and causing me to appear much older than my age.

That made me laugh. I've actually started to put lotion on my neck for the first time. It does look a bit scrawny without the layers of fat plumping it out.

It's weird...although I would rather be 37 and average weight and have everyone know I am 37, than be a morbidly obese 32 yr old everyone thinks is a 24 yr old recent college graduate.

The other day while cooking I made a comment to my boyfriend that I would like to buy a food scale, so I know how much meat I am eating. I am good at measuring out my liquid foods and even counting my servings for crackers/snacks, but have no way of knowing how many oz of meat I am consuming except for eyeballing it (which I do a decent job at based on the weight given on the meat packages, but not perfect).

Here was my boyfriend's response:

"WHY? You already count calories, work out 6 days a week, you even count out 16 wheat thins! You are not fat, you are not even the slightest bit overweight, I think that is a little too extreme."

Now he is very supportive of my workouts and healthy eating, yet he is 6 feet tall and 145 lbs... without even trying. He has never had to worry about what he eats and may never have to. He sees all that I am doing now and the idea of me going further with my weight loss/health efforts to him is insane and too extreme.

Any advice on how to help him see that although he is lucky and does not need to worry about things like that, I DO!?

Punch him in his ear hole.

Hahaha headofphat, I love him, but sometimes I want to! It frustrates me how easy it is for him to stay thin. He decides one day he wants to pay attention to portions and watch what he eats, and he loses 6 lbs in a week. I have to constantly remind him that if I ate like him or did not try as hard as I do, I would be huge. Unfair luck of genetics!