sad- plz dont bash me

You can do it. Day by day, and you will feel incredible when you reach your goal!

Don't think about the total you have to lose - focus on something smaller like 10lb.
Don't dwell on how far you have to go, remember how far you have come.

You can do it.

Many, if not most, of us have experienced this same thing. You've done it before, you can do it again - day by day, pound by pound, just as you have accomplished it before.

Try not to be sad - just be determined and hang in there! :flowerforyou:

Hang in there, keep going.

You can do it, one day at a time. At least you are headed in the right direction.

happens to a lot of us. Ive restarted over and over. I lose and then gain it back and the vicious cycle continues. One thing is constant....I never give up. Keep up the good fight. Take it day by day....minute by minute sometimes if you have to. :flowerforyou:

Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Losing and regaining is very common and many of us suffer as you are now, we have in the past and many of us will in the future. I do not bash you, I empathize, I send you a hug over the cybernet, I invite you to cry on my shoulder and say, "There, there." And then I try to send the confirming message to you and me that we are willing to keep trying, that we are the better for trying. We continue to try even when we don't really believe in our hearts we will succeed.

Even though we don't know each other and may never cross paths, know that I am with you every step of the way. You and I will get through this by continuing to try.

I joined a bit over a year ago, successfully lost a smallish bundle of weight and spent six months retrieving it. Now, I'm having a devil of a time working it back off again, and most days, I just want to give up -- but giving up won't solve the problem. So, keep up the good fight and so will I!

I never forget when my aunt told me that her doctor said to NOT diet because (not sure if I remember the science behind it correctly) when we lose weight, even eating a balance diet, we tend to lose lean muscle mass. When going back to bad habits, we don't have as much lean muscle mass to keep our metabolism up/burn as many calories, and often we gain fat back in those places we lost lean muscle mass. The more extreme the diet (especially the types that tend to shed a lot of water weight and eventually muscle like starvation diets or extremely low calorie) the easier it is to gain it back and more.

I am definitely one of those! The pendulum always seems to swing more upward than downward. I can remember being estatic to be 30 pounds down a few years ago and I've gained close to 60-70 pounds since then. I could give a lot of excuses (we have life hit us in ways that makes it hard to pick back up), but the key is to find something sustainable that you can keep those pounds off FOREVER, instead of gaining them back and having them invite friends along!

Don't think about the total you have to lose - focus on something smaller like 10lb.
Don't dwell on how far you have to go, remember how far you have come.

You can do it.

+1 for small goals

+2. Thinking about all that will just make you feel overwhelmed. Just do today. Then tomorrow repeat.

Generally i think you feel better once you start on the trail. Then you get into the rhythm of it and stop worrying so much about how far you have to go and all the mistakes you've made in the past. Lets hope you will learn from those past mistakes.

Focus on changing the way you eat forever, and think a little bit about what brought you down last time so that you can prevent those things happening again.

Here's some things i'm doing to counteract past setbacks:
1. I"m not relying on exercise this time to lose because in the past when i stopped exercising, i seemed to stop everything. Though often the reason for stopping exercise was due to some other negative life event like a change of job, onset of depression and things like that but also sometimes things like a change in the weather, an injury and so on. This time i've lost weight without much exercise at all.

2. My big weakness is sweet food. This is the third time i've gone off eating sweets. And this time its forever. I'm approaching it the way i did with quitting cigarettes somewhat - which was 17 years ago now. My clear but tough rules have helped me get this far and i believe so long as i can stick to them, i will not go back to the beginning again. So far its been over 6 months since i quit sugar this last time - but unlike cigarettes that doesn't mean i can't ever have any )with quitting cigarettes it took me about 6 times before i finally learnt what i needed to do to make it permanent). It just means that i can only have it in proscribed circumstances allowed by my strict and low risk rules.

3. Ongoing emotional issues have brought me down before. So this time, i try to tackle stress sooner and more proactively. When i get really upset, i head to a councillor asap for extra support and problem solving discussion, and usually find relief comes pretty quickly so i don't develop uncontrollable bingy feelings. I know not everyone will recover like this from problems so quickly because i've been working on my skills for a long time. But the thing is the sooner you address problems, the quicker they get resolved and you can get back to being optimistic and happy which is vital for weightloss and management.

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Take one good decision at a time, focus on mini-goals; Focusing in the end goal can leave you feeling too far adrift. You're not alone and by consistently trying and ALWAYS get right back on track after a bad day, we will all get there eventually.

The only sad thing about your post is that you felt the need to plea with people not to bash you. Anyone bashing you for coming back to try again after disappointment is not worth listening to. But I suspect you're bashing yourself more than anyone else. Don't. Just don't - it's not going to help you. You're human. Just persist, stubbornly persist. You can do it

It's so overwhelming when you look at it that way but hang in there and keep up the great work! It will come off eventually!

The best time to plant a tree was 100 years ago. The second best time, is now.

People should never bash. We are here to support one another. You are still on the right track. Measure your successes, not your "failures." You are doing great.

Understandable that you're disappointed and frustrated. But those feelings can keep you from moving forward. Let it go, accept things as they are, then do what you need to do. In other words, forgive yourself. It's an important part of the process.