How did you overcome anxiety of running in public?
centaurizoe
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It's always the same thing: I get ready to go for a run, I get out there, I start running...and then the anxiety hits me. I am scared people are looking at me or that I look stupid. Today I only made it ten minutes before I had to go home, as I usually run at night when it's less busy.
Any ideas on how to overcome this fear? I know no one is ACTUALLY paying attention to me, it's just hard to get over...
Any ideas on how to overcome this fear? I know no one is ACTUALLY paying attention to me, it's just hard to get over...
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I have the same anxiety with the weight room. Only thing is.. I know people are looking at me. Only because I'm actually lifting and not flying through my workout like everyone else. Not being mean.. But I guess the best thing we need to do is just get over it.0
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The hilly park where I walk for exercise is populated by other old fat people walking for their health like me.
Is there someplace you can run where there are other people of similar demographics to yours so you don't stand out?
If you are young and fit enough to worry about catcalls from cave-men, carry pepper spray.0 -
Stop doing it for other people and start doing it for yourself...0
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If anyone does actually register you, as opposed to thinking about paying the mortgage/the boss at work/what to wear, then they'll register that you're doing somehing.theadvantage if they're regulars is that they'll see you changing shape and increasing speed over the coming months0
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I don't run, can't get over it so I got an elliptical lol0
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I don't know if this will help but I started running with someone else and part of my fear with running was people looking at me like i was an idiot who didn't know what I was doing. When I was with someone else that didn't matter. After a while running felt more natural and I didn't need someone else to go run with me, because I learned to love it so much I didn't care what other people thought.0
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i started to go really really early in the morning, when i thought no one would be out there. trust me though, no one is looking at you. it's an unwritten rule of runners on crowded paths. we give each other privacy by ignoring each other.0
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Best way to get over your fears is to face them.0
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Head phones with the volume up super high help I think! I tend to get so lost in my music that I start daydreaming while exercising so I don't really notice anyone plus if you get really into a day dream, you can imagine yourself super confident and sexy so then you feel that way in reality! Haha0
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Every runner that I bother to glance at looks stupid ( in the face), but it's quickly followed by my envy of their endurance.
This is why I started to not give a crap and began running, myself.0 -
I have that "fear" too so I started running right outside town instead of through town. I really don't think people notice because so many of them fly right past me and have almost hit me lol.0
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The hilly park where I walk for exercise is populated by other old fat people walking for their health like me.
Is there someplace you can run where there are other people of similar demographics to yours so you don't stand out?
If you are young and fit enough to worry about catcalls from cave-men, carry pepper spray.
LOL I'm sorry, but I was going to say something like this but more in a mean way (cause I'm an awful person). I only like to run in public places where I know someone is going to look much worse than me. Other than that, just focus on your running. I know it's hard, but let it fuel you and keep you pumping your legs forward. That's what I do when I start to get nervous and a white van is rolling slowly next to me....0 -
It also doesn't help that one of the main reasons I didn't stick with it today is because my shorts were falling down and riding up at the same time, and my shirt was riding up...I will probably try again tonight, or go to the gym.0
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Stop doing it for other people and start doing it for yourself...
AH! I like this answer!0 -
The hilly park where I walk for exercise is populated by other old fat people walking for their health like me.
Is there someplace you can run where there are other people of similar demographics to yours so you don't stand out?
If you are young and fit enough to worry about catcalls from cave-men, carry pepper spray.
LOL I'm sorry, but I was going to say something like this but more in a mean way (cause I'm an awful person). I only like to run in public places where I know someone is going to look much worse than me. Other than that, just focus on your running. I know it's hard, but let it fuel you and keep you pumping your legs forward. That's what I do when I start to get nervous and a white van is rolling slowly next to me....
I'm not anxious people are judging me based solely on my looks/weight, it's more about my heavy breathing and such. The only people I ever see running are healthy people fit people :c Ironic, since I live in a city with the title "newly wed and nearly dead".0 -
1. Can you go somewhere like a park/recreation/football oval where there wouldn't be many people? I train on an oval sometimes and often there are people, but too far away to even see me. It feels less nerve wracking than on a road where people will be close by and undoubtedly look. But, over time I gradually cared a bit less about that as well-because I got fitter.
2. If it's that you feel nervous of people seeing you running, you could try to start walking first, as someone walking is less likely to draw any notice of people, right? everybody walks, not everyone runs.
-Then, work up to either brisk walking, or running, and try to go for longer each time or once a week. You don't HAVE to be able to run out there for more than 10 minutes, even if that is your fitness goal.
-Sometimes we need to work up to things and just accept that for us it's going to take a little bit of patience. There's nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their barriers. I have anxiety issues as well, and sometimes I hate that I cant just go do what is normal for everyone else, like have a damn conversation and look at them for more than 3 seconds. But I've got to practice and work at it, expose myself to it gradually and work towards small goals, because it is important.
-So, what I'm saying is that right now, 10 minutes is fine, 10 minutes is just your benchmark. Just try to go for 12 or 15 next time or something and work your way up gradually. Over time you might find you've been many times and it is less scary also over time your breathing will improve, as will your weight and fitness, so you'll just look like you're a natural and probably feel it, too. Sticking with it, even if it is slow progress, improves the chances that people wont even notice you there or judge. More so than going home and giving up ever will.
3.Also, would headphone/music help? try to concentrate on the words and not your thoughts might help. Just make sure it's safe to do that, and maybe have it so you can still hear things around you. If not music, perhaps just your breathing, continuously count your breaths in and out from 1 to 10. e.g inhale, 1, exhale 2, inhale 3, exhale 4 and so on and then start back at 1 when you get to 10. The idea of that is to focus mindfully on something other than any negative thoughts or on feeling anxious. Or, perhaps you could run with a friend a few times?0 -
Have you tried trail running? On a good day, I'll run for several miles without seeing another soul. Of course, the goal is to enjoy nature & challenge my body, but a nice side effect is alone time.
Also, I think the idea of finding a running buddy is good. Meetup has groups for every level in my city.
Really, no one is judging you. I'm honestly more impressed by the 300 pound lady jogging down the street than the 100 pound lady. That's way harder to do!0 -
It also doesn't help that one of the main reasons I didn't stick with it today is because my shorts were falling down and riding up at the same time, and my shirt was riding up...I will probably try again tonight, or go to the gym.
Yeah, make sure you have well fitting running clothes. When running you try to get into a good rhythm and nothing is worse at throwing you off like hitching up your shorts or adjusting a mean camel toe every other minute0 -
The hilly park where I walk for exercise is populated by other old fat people walking for their health like me.
Is there someplace you can run where there are other people of similar demographics to yours so you don't stand out?
If you are young and fit enough to worry about catcalls from cave-men, carry pepper spray.
LOL I'm sorry, but I was going to say something like this but more in a mean way (cause I'm an awful person). I only like to run in public places where I know someone is going to look much worse than me. Other than that, just focus on your running. I know it's hard, but let it fuel you and keep you pumping your legs forward. That's what I do when I start to get nervous and a white van is rolling slowly next to me....
I'm not anxious people are judging me based solely on my looks/weight, it's more about my heavy breathing and such. The only people I ever see running are healthy people fit people :c Ironic, since I live in a city with the title "newly wed and nearly dead".
Ahhh I see. Well, I was able to get my breathing in check after only a few times out luckily, it takes practice though. It's all about easing into it.0 -
Based on your picture, I am significantly older than you so let me offer the wisdom of age. I hope it is helpful.
The big question you have to ask yourself is, "Who really gives a rat's rosy rear what anyone thinks of you as you are running?" If anyone actually notices you, they are likely to think one of several things. The first may be (and this is the one you fear), "Wow, look at that chunk trying to run." Those are the people who wish they had the gumption to get off their dead butts and get out on the road with you. You know, losers.
Others may think, "Wow, I wish I could get myself motivated to get out and exercise." These folks really want to join you for your run but are sitting at home worried about what others think of them. Don't be those people.
The biggest group are those who pass you and think, "Gee, I wonder what kind of crap I'm going to have to put up with at work today?" Almost no one is even paying attention to you. Sorry, but runners are simply not that interesting.
Enough of my silliness. Get off your couch, head out when you darn well please, and run until you are happy with it. Every step you take is one closer to where you want to be.0 -
Let me add to my last post ...
Many people have suggested music but I'd recommend limiting electronics. Rather than being distracted by some inane noise being pumped into your head, you may be better served by paying attention to yourself, your thoughts, and your surroundings. I have found that I enjoy my bike rides more if I maintain awareness of my surroundings, enjoy the sights, sounds, and smells around me, think about my day, and reflect on the good things I have in my life.
Keep on keeping on.0 -
headphones.. that way i dont need to hear anyone remind me that i have tig ole bitties if i decide to run on a hot day in a tank top0
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It also doesn't help that one of the main reasons I didn't stick with it today is because my shorts were falling down and riding up at the same time, and my shirt was riding up...I will probably try again tonight, or go to the gym.
I strongly recommend investing in some good quality, well-fitting running clothes. It can be very distracting to be in the middle of any workout and have your shorts riding up or your sports bra shifting on you. Also, a good set of workout clothes can help you feel better about how you look and give you a confidence boost. Trust me, it's totally worth the money.0 -
Try to get into the zone! then you wont notice other people.0
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mostly by realizing most people don't give a $%^* about what i am doing cause they are so concerned about what they are doing.0
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It's always the same thing: I get ready to go for a run, I get out there, I start running...and then the anxiety hits me. I am scared people are looking at me or that I look stupid. Today I only made it ten minutes before I had to go home, as I usually run at night when it's less busy.
Any ideas on how to overcome this fear? I know no one is ACTUALLY paying attention to me, it's just hard to get over...
The people who count respect what you are doing - the rest are ambivalent or don't get it. Who cares about the latter two groups? A lot of people wish they could run but don't have the motivation or physically are unable - you can and do, so appreciate your capabilities and run!0 -
Most people who are looking at you when you are running are applauding you and wishing they were out there running themselves. I can't tell you how many times people commented to me when I was running that they wished they could do that too. Stop thinking they are thinking negatively of you, and start realizing they are in awe of you. And just run!!!!!0
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I usually run early in the day or later in the evening. Headphones definitely help me tune everything out and I wear a hat with a long brim so if I suddenly start feeling shy while I'm running I can just lower my head a little and block everyone else. I just recently worked up the nerve to start running on the busier main road by my house instead of sticking to the side streets. Honestly, in the 8 months I've been running outside I've only ever had one person really notice me: a fellow runner who gave me a big grin and a thumbs up as she passed me. I started out about 230 lbs and was so nervous, but now I'm realizing that I really didn't need to be! (And honestly: when you're driving, how much attention do you pay to joggers besides making sure you don't hit them? Everyone has their mind on their own lives, not what some random stranger is doing when they pass by for three seconds )0
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Just do it! I might be one of those people you think you fear, so let me give you my thoughts. My first thought might be "wow! That person is running slower than I walk." My second thought is always "Here's a person learning to run. That is awesome." It really doesn't matter what other people think. Just go run the best you can, and get better. Other people's thoughts are irrelevant. But know there are people out there thinking you're awesome for trying.0
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You made it 10 minutes today!!! Congratulations! Now, just try for 11 tomorrow! Keep trying, and I promise that eventually you will lose that self-consciousness. Oh - and buy yourself some really cute running clothes that make you feel good (well, that helps me anyway!):)
also - absolutely no one can tell how fast you are going or how hard you are breathing if you are just running past them or they are driving past. And, honestly, breathing hard means you are working hard - and who would criticize that? There are often times that I am breathing very hard even though I am running VERY slow because I just finished a fartlek or speed repeat. Other runners know this, and non runners think all runner must breath hard0
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