I've just had it.......

Are you logging?? You can have your snacks, just reach your caloric goal.. Why is it so difficult? Do you train?

its difficult because food is a drug and the addiction we have to it is more powerful than the will to lose weight. youre on mfp you should know this. I don't mean to come off as being rude but some people ask why is it so hard and they are on here for the same reasons that we are. or are they? anyway I know what this all feels like because I have done the same thing. always say tomorrow is the day and then the next day I eat like a pig and put it off for the following day. its not easy at all. its one thing to be honest and give it to people straight and another to just be rude and not understanding. maybe you were neither but that's how I took it

You need to remember that a life-time of poor eating choice WILL NOT go away over night. You will make mistakes, and you will continue to make mistakes until you are dead. Learn from them, make adjustments and move on.

And for crying out loud! DONT HAVE COOKIES IN THE HOUSE!

Think of it like this: You eat a crappy snack, and say F it to the rest of the day because it's already ruined right?

If you dropped your phone on the ground, would you say "F it" and stomp all over it just because of ONE LITTLE PROBLEM?

No. You wouldn't. So why would you do it to your body?

some just don't get it. people are rude. I don't see anything NICE about that analogy

Nice!

1) The first thing I will tell you is that you must relax. (I know it is easy to say and hard to do.) This whole thing works much better if you settle into an attitude of, "I'm on this journey to health--by my own choice!" You must learn to relax and enjoy the journey. When you think of it as a journey marked by hard work and deprivation, that takes all the pleasure out of the trip. And, believe it or not, it can be intensely pleasurable to see those numbers change because of the commitment you've made to the journey. That kind of satisfaction is waaayyy better than any momentary pleasure you can have in food. Feeding your body properly and exercising (which is another form of nourishment for your body) is a pleasure in itself. Focusing on negatives ("don't eat that" "get off you rear and go exercise!") will NOT go the distance. Instead, focus on the positive--"I have found a type of exercise that I love and I can't wait to have the satisfaction of having put in the effort--and I'm seeing results!" "I nourished my body well today--didn't eat too much or too little. I ate lots of vegetables and other nourishing things. I can feel myself getting healthier." This is the spiritual / emotional part of the journey and unless it begins here, there can be no long-term success. If you believe in God, He will help you to make that commitment and stick to it--otherwise you are stuck with willpower alone and often that is not enough. Strength wanes.

2) The physical part of the journey is to avoid starches and sugars (especially if you are pre-diabetic). They are contributing to your health problems. They are your enemies because high blood sugar is your enemy and starches and sugars are very good at raising your blood sugar to unacceptable levels and doing it very quickly--setting off metabolic derangement. Fats, proteins and vegetables are your friends because they have high satiety and do not raise your blood sugar quickly (because of the amount of time it takes to digest them--among other benefits). They will keep you from being hungry and help you to resist the impulse to "just grab something." You must plan for the temptations that are thrown in your path. You should have foods on hand that will build your health--at all times. Eventually, you will retrain your palate to prefer health building food. I take pleasure in foods that I NEVER thought I would--and you can too.

Learn to love your body! Go to the gym! Working out makes you feel great! Not just physically but mentally! It helps with depression among many other things. Also a food scale is a must. I use it to weigh out my proteins, and snacks, like nuts and ice cream. The most important thing though is logging!! I know what's coming in. I have my days where I go way overboard lol. On Friday I had nearly 3000 calories worth of Chinese buffet in one sitting... It didn stop me from working out the next morning, and continue as if it never happened; I have even experienced weight loss in the days following such glutinous meals.
Point is, this site is awesome, and a privilege, use it! Its a lifestyle change not dieting!

Are you logging?? You can have your snacks, just reach your caloric goal.. Why is it so difficult? Do you train?

its difficult because food is a drug and the addiction we have to it is more powerful than the will to lose weight. youre on mfp you should know this. I don't mean to come off as being rude but some people ask why is it so hard and they are on here for the same reasons that we are. or are they? anyway I know what this all feels like because I have done the same thing. always say tomorrow is the day and then the next day I eat like a pig and put it off for the following day. its not easy at all. its one thing to be honest and give it to people straight and another to just be rude and not understanding. maybe you were neither but that's how I took it

Its cool, didn't mean to be rude.. Its just that the site provides the tools needed for success, and I find It simple as long as you follow it. I understand that this is a sensitive topic for many, and I admit that's something I have to work on. The Op is a tuffy though lol, she wants it straight and to the point! I like that! I believe she's going to be successfully! Last word of advice from me, don't start tomorrow start right now damn it!!

Re: eating out of boredom. I second the advice to not keep food in the house if you know it is "food with no brakes" for you. I also second the advice to physically put the food where you cannot see it (out of sight, out of mind), and to distract yourself by doing something else to engage your body (like walk, or swim, or paint, or dance) or your mind (read a book, watch a TV show, do a sudoku or puzzle, play a card or video game). If you are not yet ready to stop eating for emotional reasons, substitute the food for lower calorie or healthier, more filling options. Or make it fit into your calorie goals for the day.

You mentioned eating large amounts of cookies, here's a question: are you eating them because they're there, eating them past fullness to distract yourself from some other emotion, or eating them because you're afraid you won't get to have any more for some reason in the future?

A practical tip in the meantime is to cut down dessert recipes to make just enough servings for one apiece. If there's no leftovers hanging around, there's nothing to overeat...

For information on setting macros: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/819055-setting-your-calorie-and-macro-targets

I am just new to this site and am just starting my journey so don't really feel like I have any right to give anyone any advice but I think for me, I have to get myself into the mindset of "loving my body more than my mouth or my stomach". I find that if I can resist something long enough to forget about it, I am OK. I just need to find a distraction at that particular moment when I think I want something. Then a couple of hours go by and I think, oh, I forgot all about that cookie I wanted. Good for me!

But if you plan and log, you can sometimes have that cookie, you just have to make it work for your daily calorie count. Don't think that your life is going to be one of deprivation forever. You need to give yourself some treats, but do it when it works for your plan. You are in control and you can do it! Best of luck to you on your journey.

I like the "get mad" advice. You don't want it enough. You are full of excuses and allow yourself the "all or nothing" attitude. That never works because NOTHING is all good or all bad. This is a choice you get to make. Heck, you get to make a thousand choices every day. You don't have to let one choice dictate your other choices, but you do. And why? Because you simply don't want it enough right now.

Now, go ahead and get mad at me and USE it for yourself. Prove me an *kitten******. Tell the whole world that you matter enough to you to do what you need to do. A ton of people have given you some great advice. USE IT!!!

you have said it all! Now just decide to do it. One day at a time, One meal at a time, one walk at a time.... It is up to you to make it happen.

I know exactly how you feel, I have had many instances where I eat too much or simply make a horrible food choice, and I want to instantly give up and restart another day. However, when I do make a bad food choice, I just log the bad food choice into MFP diary. And when I look back at the bad stuff I have eaten it somehow motivates me to take initiative to try harder the next day. When I look at the numbers I rack up in a day on MFP it really helps me to see what I am putting into my body as well as develop ways to reduce some of the not-so- healthy things I like to eat. When the numbers in my diary turn red instead of blue, I know I have done something unhealthy for my body so I always try harder to fix it the next day. Don't just give up each day that you eat more then you should, or make the wrong choices, because its through those bad decisions/ choices that you eventually learn what the right choices are!
It is very difficult to feed others around you and not be tempted to eat what they are eating. One of my tricks in trying to fix such a situation is to not order out food from a restaurant, but instead try to recreate the same food I order at a restaurant, in my own kitchen. This allows you to alter the recipes so that it fits your healthy lifestyle and can still be good for your family as well!

For instance: Instead of ordering out pizza, make pizza at home from scratch. You can still make the standard white crust pizza that your kids love, all while making pizza for yourself too. All you have to do is place the same pizza toppings on a whole wheat tortilla shell! This way you still get the taste of having pizza and you are eating no differently then your family. Using tortilla shells is a great substitute for pizza crust, its lighter and tastes even better. With time, your children may start to like your new way of cooking and decide they want to eat tortilla pizzas too!

You can make alterations to just about any favorite recipe! I urge you to give it a try, and then make sure to log your food intake no matter what food choice you make. It takes time, but you will eventually catch on and do great!

Don't give up so easy. Come on, you can do this. Just because you make one mistake doesn't ruin the whole day. Everyone of us has probably gone over our calorie limit at one point or another.
I've been on MFP for two months. My first month, I only made my caloric goal FIVE days out of that first month. This second month, I made my caloric goal seventeen days out of the month. I still lost weight, because I'm eating less than I did before. I'm averaging 1.5 lb per week. I've hit plateaus and stayed on them for FOREVER before they broke. But they broke. I've binged and corrected my diet. And I will again, until I learn the pattern. Logging in at MFP helps me see the overall picture. Then I can make informed decisions about what I should eat. As I eat healthier, I find that my cravings aren't as strong.

Do some homework. Read the beginning posts about getting your sexy pants back and BMI/TDEE. Start with simple choices. Choose an apple over some cookies. Have a glass of water instead of soda. Try frozen yogurt instead of ice cream. Shaving calories can shave your waistline.

I think there is something deeper at work here, and not 'self control'. I have the same issue. My blood sugar, insulin, anxiety, and vitamin levels were all over the place. This past week I've felt IMMENSELY better because I'm actually taking my vitamins. I'm also taking insulin sensitizing supplements like cinnamon, NAC, and ACV tablets. If I eat simple carbs like white pasta and bread (I have to... my stomach won't handle whole grains), I just double the veggies that go along with it. I think LOTS of fiber, like at least 40 grams per day, will level you out so you don't feel so out of control. It shouldn't be a painful experience. I was there, but I feel like I've finally turned it around this week by giving my body what it needs: vitamins, minerals, carbs, and fiber fiber fiber!!

OP, I hope you are done giving up for the day and saying you'll get back on it tomorrow. Guess what...tomorrow isn't a sure thing for any of us. Givin' you some tough love, girl, but if you mess up you face it straight on and tell it who's boss. Like another poster said, it's as much a mind-set change as it is a physical change.

You ate 5 oatmeal cookies? Own it and do the right thing. Go outside and walk for 10, 20, 30 minutes. None of of this "tomorrow" business. If you keep pinning your weight loss hopes on tomorrow and whining about your failures today, you'll never get your sexy back. Okay off my soap box. You said you wanted to hear it like it is.

You've done this before. Kick it into gear...now :drinker: