sad- plz dont bash me

I have been there. Actually, I'm there right now. I still have 16 pounds to go to get back to the point I was when I fell off the wagon in early 2013. The scale was stuck for three months before I said the heck with it and started eating everything in sight. I gained back everything I had lost plus 15 pounds more. I feel like once I get back to that number I can finally start over, so to speak, even though I have been back at it since May.

Looking back, though, I know my food choices were poor the first time around. This time is completely different and I am looking at it more as a healthy lifestyle now rather than a diet. I am taking it day by day and pound by pound. The important thing is that you don't give up. It looks like you're already 13 pounds down which is great! You're healthier now than you were 13 extra pounds ago. Start taking pictures. Sometimes the scale doesn't move but you can see physical changes if you compare photos.

Please don't give up. Use your sadness as motivation. You can do this!

You have just taken the first step by admitting it to yourself instead of staying in denial! It can only get better from here

You are doing great and don't think of your mistakes as a failure, think of them as a learning opportunity. Now you know even more about yourself and what you can do differently next time to avoid making the same mistake. :happy:

I know the feeling, having lost 40 and then put on 56lbs, started again in May this year.but now i only ever think i have one pound to lose-the next one. You are going forwards now , where you have been is not the issue other than to learn from it. Then forget about the numbers! Well done on getting back on board, that is a massive step.

I'm sure this is what everyone else is saying - but don't stress about the ACTUAL numbers - find little things to be excited about Good luck!

I wrote a blog about exactly this a little while ago, no answers in it, but you aren't alone

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/Alatariel75/view/hard-to-feel-accomplished-659454

como dice mi abuela, el que no empieza no termina.... (no one finish with out starting)

you are on your way

We all gain and lose and feel bad and happy. It is definitely a day to day, sometimes hour to hour, thing for me too.

I agree with the others that said mini goals. I set my weight loss goal initially to the weight I was when I met my hubby. Figured I'd like to be at that point. Even though I was over weight at that point. Now that I'm at that point I'm setting a new loss goal.

Less overwhelming than thinking about the whole amount for me anyhow. Believe me, when you're half way, you will probably be thrilled at how far you've come, not overwhelmed with how far is left.

I can totally relate! At the beginning of the year, I had lost like 20lbs and I've already gained it back. So now, I am starting again thinking that if I would have just kept going, I would be so close to my goal weight.

Oh well, it makes me evaluate the way I am losing weight and making myself do things that are actually sustainable for long-term goals.

It happens and I must say it has happened to me also, but I think of it as a learning process. It takes time to build new habits especially when it is bad habits we are trying to change. I have tried everything and I have had success and failure, but I am right back where I started. My best advice is to keep going and take it one day at a time. We all will have bad days and all we can do is keep pushing forward and try to find what works for you.

I sure know that feeling. I spent my entire adult life going up and down and up on the scale. Focusing on small, achievable goals always helps pull me out of it. All we can really do is learn from our experiences and move forward down a more productive path. :flowerforyou:

I HATE the fact you have to say ''dont bash me'' in your title

don't give up! you're doing great

one step at the time

I can so relate to this. I have lost 18 lbs which is great but I am still 4 lbs above what I was when I last decided to lose some weight (after struggling to do up the seat belt on a plane) and 24 lbs above what I was the time before that when I lost weight. Each time I have lost I put it all back on & then some. This time I am determined I will get to a healthy weight gradually & by the time I get there I should have learned enough to keep me there. The thing is I only relate to these numbers to keep me focused on getting to my next goal, I am not letting them get me down. Just focus on each day/week & move on from there. Good luck.

Set small goals for yourself. As you achieve them, you will become motivated and feel more positive about what you're doing. Shoot for 10 lbs at a time. That way it's not so overwhelming. Each time you lose 10 lbs you'll achieve a goal and be closer to the overall goal. The time is going to go by anyway, might as well get started now.