Hubby Gaining Weight :/

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  • 3trees
    3trees Posts: 71 Member
    A cautionary tale.
    My husband and I married 20 years ago. We were both young and fit. Four years later he broke his leg. It's never been the same and he can't exercise much without pain in his knee. With each of my pregnancies, he had a 'sympathetic pregnancy' but his weight didn't come off with delivery (not that all of mine did, but some did). The weight keeps creeping on. His mother is overweight and over 90 - so he's rationalized that his genetics will carry him through. Maybe they will. Occasionally he will try to lose weight - and succeed. But his heart/mind aren't really there, so he regains it.

    What I've learned over the past 15+ years is that the motivation must come from him. However, you might find a good hook. Once my husband competed in a 'biggest loser' competition for 12 weeks at our health club. He lost the most weight. He's competitive and he won. However, without the real desire to be fit, it didn't last. I don't know how to get someone to have their head in the right place - but without that, any weight loss is likely to be temporary.
  • samrockrocks
    samrockrocks Posts: 251 Member
    I can only imagine what the replies would be if a wife's husband was on here complaining that his wife gained a few pounds and wasn't as hot as she once was.

    she asked for advice, not some snide comment about your false interpretation of what she said. Lexi isn't demeaning her husband by wanting him to be thinner. She wants him to be HEALTHY and she also slightly wants him to look like his sexy self again. What man or woman isn't at least that small amount of shallow?

    Lexi- Make it a competition. Make there be a reward in the end. Like that stupid colgate toothpaste commericial, haha. If you reach your goal before he reaches his you get a weekend out with the ladies and if he beats you he gets to go out with the boys... or something like that!
  • lexicalabrese
    lexicalabrese Posts: 200 Member
    I can only imagine what the replies would be if a wife's husband was on here complaining that his wife gained a few pounds and wasn't as hot as she once was.

    she asked for advice, not some snide comment about your false interpretation of what she said. Lexi isn't demeaning her husband by wanting him to be thinner. She wants him to be HEALTHY and she also slightly wants him to look like his sexy self again. What man or woman isn't at least that small amount of shallow?

    Lexi- Make it a competition. Make there be a reward in the end. Like that stupid colgate toothpaste commericial, haha. If you reach your goal before he reaches his you get a weekend out with the ladies and if he beats you he gets to go out with the boys... or something like that!

    We are ALL that exact amount of shallow haha. Thanks Sam :)
  • AndreSF
    AndreSF Posts: 84 Member
    If you enjoy working out, talk to your husband, see if he can support you by joining workouts with you...:) My wife and I have been working out together for the last 4 months or so, completed Beach Body P90 program and now half-way in P90X. I'm really enjoying sharing workout routines in the morning with my wife and I know she does too :) It helps a lot to share the dietary preferences too.
    Ridiculing your husband's love handles might only hurt your relationship IMO... not claiming to know everything about making relationships work, but we have been married for over 20 years...

    Good luck!
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