Not enough time!

VonTinka · August 2014

I find that i don't have enough time for the gym. I've not been in 7 months proper because of work overtime. It's made me really depressed so i've not stopped eating crap (they keep putting cakes in the kitchen in work! T_T ). I've gained a stone in those 7 months so I have tried to control what I eat but my boyfriend isn't making it easy!

Since I lost wait he has gained weight and wont stop eating bad food. He broke my will power and now i keep eating crap with him but i now drink juice or diet coke i used to have the full fat stuff so i'm sticking to my guns avoiding full coke. I need some advice on what you guys do when you can't go the gym or whether it is worth trying to get into running and what apps I can get for it. I am planning going back to the gym though when my overtime ends but i don't want to go back having to loose 3 stone again!

I'm willing to try make this work! I lost 3 stone I don't want to chuck it all away because of food that makes me happy for 1 minute of my life haha!

Any guides, advice and help is appreciated.

brianpperkins · August 2014

I find that i don't have enough time for the gym. I've not been in 7 months proper because of work overtime. It's made me really depressed so i've not stopped eating crap (they keep putting cakes in the kitchen in work! T_T ). I've gained a stone in those 7 months so I have tried to control what I eat but my boyfriend isn't making it easy!

Since I lost wait he has gained weight and wont stop eating bad food. He broke my will power and now i keep eating crap with him but i now drink juice or diet coke i used to have the full fat stuff so i'm sticking to my guns avoiding full coke. I need some advice on what you guys do when you can't go the gym or whether it is worth trying to get into running and what apps I can get for it. I am planning going back to the gym though when my overtime ends but i don't want to go back having to loose 3 stone again!

I'm willing to try make this work! I lost 3 stone I don't want to chuck it all away because of food that makes me happy for 1 minute of my life haha!

Any guides, advice and help is appreciated.

Everything I put in bold is either an excuse or deflection of blame to others rather than taking responsibility for your choices. The issue isn't with the overtime or your boyfriend ... it is your prioritization of activities and decision making.

bonkosaurusrex · August 2014

You aren't given time. You don't find time. You make time. It's up to you.

And unless someone is threatening your life and limb, you don't have to eat the cakes in the kitchen. I promise.

awesomejdad · August 2014

read the above post from brianpperkins at least three times. BOOM!!! That is your answer.

superkarynfragilistic · August 2014

I can tell you for certain that there will never *be* times; you have to make time. Right now joining a gym is cost prohibitive for me. However, I discovered that youtube hosts all sorts of free exercise videos. Make the time--even if it is only 20 minutes to start--once you get in the habit of making the time, more time will present itself.

BigT555 · August 2014

I find that i don't have enough time for the gym. I've not been in 7 months proper because of work overtime. It's made me really depressed so i've not stopped eating crap (they keep putting cakes in the kitchen in work! T_T ). I've gained a stone in those 7 months so I have tried to control what I eat but my boyfriend isn't making it easy!

Since I lost wait he has gained weight and wont stop eating bad food. He broke my will power and now i keep eating crap with him but i now drink juice or diet coke i used to have the full fat stuff so i'm sticking to my guns avoiding full coke. I need some advice on what you guys do when you can't go the gym or whether it is worth trying to get into running and what apps I can get for it. I am planning going back to the gym though when my overtime ends but i don't want to go back having to loose 3 stone again!

I'm willing to try make this work! I lost 3 stone I don't want to chuck it all away because of food that makes me happy for 1 minute of my life haha!

Any guides, advice and help is appreciated.

Everything I put in bold is either an excuse or deflection of blame to others rather than taking responsibility for your choices. The issue isn't with the overtime or your boyfriend ... it is your prioritization of activities and decision making.

yea this

time is no excuse considering you dont even have to exercise to lose weight, you just have to eat less. there will always be temptation, the trick is to resist it no matter what your bf is eating, what he doesnt has no effect on what you do physically, only mentally.

master your cravings or your cravings will become your master, young grassshopper

melduf · August 2014

My hubby will get motivated about loosing weight and then cave in after 1 or 2 weeks... It's really hard not caving with him!! You have to find your own motivation. Write it on post-its, on the fridge, on the bathroom mirror, on your computer screen at job. Keep reminding yourself why you are doing this every time the urge to cave in hits. It will help.

And if you still crave those chips your bf is eating, tell yourself "I will only eat X amount". (I find a soup bowl works fine for chips). And try to stick to that amount and no more. You'll be proud of yourself, and it will be easier than denying yourself completly.

About working out, every time you think you should be exercising but you don't feel like it, just put on your workout clothes. Once they are on, you'll most probably go like "oh well, since I'm halfway there..." and go walk/run/train.

Good luck getting back on track!

ElizabethLeveque · August 2014

I think a lot of your post is a bunch of hooey - no one's forcing you to eat the bad stuff. I have exactly the same issue and my willpower is constantly being tested (and frequently I fail - this is MY problem, not someone else's fault).

That said, I hear you on the gym issue. I had a YMCA membership here in the building, but it just didn't work in my schedule. So, these days I get my butt up at 4 and go for a walk of anywhere from 2-3.5 miles. It sucks (Florida humidity bites, even at that hour). I give up some sleep to do it because (a) that gets my "official exercise" over with for the day and (b) I find I'm getting more energy that lasts throughout the whole day, despite the loss of sleep. It's fun and clears my head.

Don't make excuses about willpower. Just pick yourself up and keep trying. I've got a long way to go, I screw up, but I also acknowledge it's me screwing up. Until you do that, you're going to keep battling and losing.

Sailor_Xa · August 2014

If you don't have time for the gym, walk as much as u can even in ur home and try some HIIT workout (I really love the HIIT 15 of Turbo Fire).
If your BF is eating junk food you have to be strong and say no, I know it's hard but you can do it

...and try to transform junk food in semi-healthy food do it your own with "light" recipes

TavistockToad · August 2014

someone posted this in another thread, i think its brilliant...

"Instead of saying 'I don't have time' try saying 'it's not a priority' and see how that feels. Often, that's a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don't want to. But other things are harder. Try it: "I'm not going to edit your resume sweetie, because it's not a priority" "I don't go to the doctor because my health is not a priority." If these phrases don't sit well, then that's the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don't like how we're spending an hour, we can choose differently"

:drinker:

TomNorman021 · August 2014

You boyfriend sounds a bit like me at the end of last year. I was approaching 16 stone and having to buy new clothes because my old clothes suddenly didn't fit. I wasn't that interested in losing the weight however. My wife has always enjoyed exercise and asked me to join her on runs to keep her motivated in the evenings. She said that it would really help her and that we could start small and just see what happened. I think I agreed to three runs over 2 weeks.

The first run was a disaster. We planned to run a mile and I was broken by the end of it. I couldn't imagine running any further. I had agreed however to three runs so a few days later we ran a mile again. This time it wasn't so bad and I actually suggested running a mile and a half for the third run. Including getting changed and showered at the end, the whole thing took 30 mins.

To cut a long story short, because I felt like I was helping my wife out each time we went running,I kept at it and we built the distance up and up, running half a mile more each week until we were running 3-4 miles. Then I agreed to run a half marathon. The training regime got planned and completed. We started by running 2 miles on a Tuesday and Thursday evening then 4 miles on a Sunday. The next week, 2.5 miles on a Tuesday and Thursday, 5 on a Sunday. The next, 3 in the evenings and 6 on the Sunday and so on. It was tough but I ran the half marathon 3 months after taking up running.

The point of this story was that i started small. I made 30 minutes in the evening to start doing a bit of exercise in the evening and that is all it takes. By the time I signed up for the half marathon, running had become a habit and I shifted my diary around to make sure I had the hour or more to run. I got up an hour earlier, ate an hour later, whatever it took. And the kicker? I have so much more energy now, so it's easier to find more time to do stuff. The more you do, the more you want to do. I've also lost a load of weight, as has my wife and we still run. And cycle. And play touch rugby. And play badminton.

I helped with my wife's motivation, but if your boyfriend won't then use Google and find an all ability running club and make new friends! If you don't like running, find something you do like to do and Google a club for that too. You'll find most clubs friendly and welcoming, I certainly did!

Start by reserving 30 minutes. 5mins to change, 15mins to exercise, 10 mins to shower and get into your PJs. The rest of the evening you may slob out in the knowledge that today you have achieved something good.

tulips_and_tea · August 2014

someone posted this in another thread, i think its brilliant...

"Instead of saying 'I don't have time' try saying 'it's not a priority' and see how that feels. Often, that's a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don't want to. But other things are harder. Try it: "I'm not going to edit your resume sweetie, because it's not a priority" "I don't go to the doctor because my health is not a priority." If these phrases don't sit well, then that's the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don't like how we're spending an hour, we can choose differently"

:drinker:

Ooooh, I LIKE this! Thanks for re-posting or repeating this because I haven't seen it before. Will save this for future reference.

prettigirl01 · August 2014

I find that i don't have enough time for the gym. I've not been in 7 months proper because of work overtime. It's made me really depressed so i've not stopped eating crap (they keep putting cakes in the kitchen in work! T_T ). I've gained a stone in those 7 months so I have tried to control what I eat but my boyfriend isn't making it easy!

Since I lost wait he has gained weight and wont stop eating bad food. He broke my will power and now i keep eating crap with him but i now drink juice or diet coke i used to have the full fat stuff so i'm sticking to my guns avoiding full coke. I need some advice on what you guys do when you can't go the gym or whether it is worth trying to get into running and what apps I can get for it. I am planning going back to the gym though when my overtime ends but i don't want to go back having to loose 3 stone again!

I'm willing to try make this work! I lost 3 stone I don't want to chuck it all away because of food that makes me happy for 1 minute of my life haha!

Any guides, advice and help is appreciated.

I haven't been to a gym and I don't plan on going to one. I walk every single day for 30-45 mins on my lunch break. I go home and dance to Michael Jackson when I get home from work. I also have the wii fit so ill play some games on that for about a half hour with my daughter. I watch youtube videos sometimes and workout to those. I don't have the time for a gym and people can call it what they want. its not their life its yours! do what you can do but you have to do something. you cant just sit around and expect to lose weight. im not saying that you are but just making an example. please add me if you would like some help. we are all in the same boat together and no one on here is better than anyone else to say youre making excuses

JoRocka · August 2014

someone posted this in another thread, i think its brilliant...

"Instead of saying 'I don't have time' try saying 'it's not a priority' and see how that feels. Often, that's a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don't want to. But other things are harder. Try it: "I'm not going to edit your resume sweetie, because it's not a priority" "I don't go to the doctor because my health is not a priority." If these phrases don't sit well, then that's the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don't like how we're spending an hour, we can choose differently"

:drinker:

this.

I find that this is really all it boils down to- it's simply NOT a priority- because I can find time to do all sorts of things I want to really do- and I get them done.

It's not a priority.

You either WANT to do it and therefor you find a way to make it happen.

Or you just don't- and then you try to rationalize/excuse yourself by saying you don't have time. And no one cares- honestly- we don't care that you don't go- but don't sit here and tell us you don't have time. At the very least- be honest with yourself.

MinnieInMaine · August 2014

Do you get breaks at work? Even if you only have 5 minutes to spare, get off your chair, walk up and down stairs or walk around the building a couple times. Do that several times a day. It'll be good for your mental health too.

Talk to your boyfriend about wanting to get back and track and stick to your guns. You can encourage him to join you both with healthy eating and exercise, but he doesn't have to follow suit. Mostly my point is - I find telling someone my plan helps me stick to it better.

Keep your own healthy snacks around so when he goes for chips, you go for veggie sticks. When he goes for cookies, you can grab a protein bar or a square of dark chocolate. If he has ice cream, you get one of those light frozen treats.

I also find it helps to plan out yummy filling meals for the week so it's less likely we'll be tempted. If I have meat thawed in the fridge that needs to be cooked, that's my way of putting off pizza night. Sorry honey, I have to cook this chicken or it'll spoil. Then I can either plan for a pizza night a couple days later or he'll just forget about it for another week.

Good luck!

LoraF83 · August 2014

someone posted this in another thread, i think its brilliant...

"Instead of saying 'I don't have time' try saying 'it's not a priority' and see how that feels. Often, that's a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don't want to. But other things are harder. Try it: "I'm not going to edit your resume sweetie, because it's not a priority" "I don't go to the doctor because my health is not a priority." If these phrases don't sit well, then that's the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don't like how we're spending an hour, we can choose differently"

:drinker:

this.

I find that this is really all it boils down to- it's simply NOT a priority- because I can find time to do all sorts of things I want to really do- and I get them done.

It's not a priority.

You either WANT to do it and therefor you find a way to make it happen.

Or you just don't- and then you try to rationalize/excuse yourself by saying you don't have time. And no one cares- honestly- we don't care that you don't go- but don't sit here and tell us you don't have time. At the very least- be honest with yourself.

So agree with this.

Everyone is busy. Everyone has work, family, social obligations, etc. Some people can't afford the gym. Some people have medical issues. But you know what? Who cares. It's up to each individual to make their situation work for them. There's no rule that says you have to go to the gym. Do a workout dvd at home or lace up some running shoes. There's also no rule that says you can't have cake. Make it fit in your day.

If you want your health and fitness to be a priority, it will be. Stop deflecting the responsibility.

dopeysmelly · August 2014

someone posted this in another thread, i think its brilliant...

"Instead of saying 'I don't have time' try saying 'it's not a priority' and see how that feels. Often, that's a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don't want to. But other things are harder. Try it: "I'm not going to edit your resume sweetie, because it's not a priority" "I don't go to the doctor because my health is not a priority." If these phrases don't sit well, then that's the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don't like how we're spending an hour, we can choose differently"

:drinker:

this.

I find that this is really all it boils down to- it's simply NOT a priority- because I can find time to do all sorts of things I want to really do- and I get them done.

It's not a priority.

You either WANT to do it and therefor you find a way to make it happen.

Or you just don't- and then you try to rationalize/excuse yourself by saying you don't have time. And no one cares- honestly- we don't care that you don't go- but don't sit here and tell us you don't have time. At the very least- be honest with yourself.

So agree with this.

Everyone is busy. Everyone has work, family, social obligations, etc. Some people can't afford the gym. Some people have medical issues. But you know what? Who cares. It's up to each individual to make their situation work for them. There's no rule that says you have to go to the gym. Do a workout dvd at home or lace up some running shoes. There's also no rule that says you can't have cake. Make it fit in your day.

If you want your health and fitness to be a priority, it will be. Stop deflecting the responsibility.

^^This.

VonTinka · August 2014

The issue is the gym closes early it's not the best gym to be honest. I can't afford to pay for buses and my train doesn't go near any other gyms. I know you guys say to make time but i work in the games industry...sometimes we don't leave work until around 12 or later at night and if i got up at 5 am for the gym i'd be exhausted throughout the day (my job is mentally demanding

) I am willing to make things work though i treated myself to new gym gear today to help push me back into going on the weekends which I have also been working....7 - 6 day work weeks! We are almost at our deadline now though so things should calm down more.

I will try looking at videos online I have a kettle bell I can use.

I walk on my lunch latley i walk around 40 minutes a day too and from work to my station (yes it involves a lot of travel).

My will power was amazing but dwindled a little over time and I think it's not helping with increased work stress and suffering from anxiety....yes my anxiety drains me all week so I eat sometimes as a comfort.

Not enough time!

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