Trends of brides wanting to lose weight

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  • h7463
    h7463 Posts: 626 Member
    IMO, this whole thing about dieting for a wedding is just plain silly. Those brides let themselves go for so many years before the proposals....if this is the dream of every little girl, to look like a princess on this day, they should have thought about this part sooner.....lol
    Ladies, buy a dress that fits your body, not your imagination! If your guy proposed to your pounds, OWN THEM!

    Most women that I have seen lately 'post-wedding' have expanded to their 'pre-wedding' proportions and beyond. I mean, how silly does this look, standing next to those skinny wedding pictures.....?
  • rosebette
    rosebette Posts: 1,660 Member
    I am not just talking about overweight women, but women who may be normal weight, following the Kate Middleton trend of an already thin or normal size woman getting even thinner to get into a tiny size dress. When I got married, I was 5'2" and 110 (taller and thinner than I am; now!); now a woman that size would be trying to get down to 90 lbs. for her "special day." I guess I'm also talking long range, since people are spending more on weddings than in the past, and I've often found that the more spent on the wedding, the shorter the duration of the marriage. One wedding of some work colleagues a few years back was at an expensive NYC venue. The marriage lasted a little over a year.
  • WalkingAlong
    WalkingAlong Posts: 4,926 Member
    I see nothing wrong with wanting to look your best for that day.

    But I wonder if the weight loss tv shows where there are BIG STAKES to not succeeding also add to the temptation to order a dress in the size you hope to hit?

    Also, is it more common now (than decades ago) to pick out and order your gown months and months in advance? I'm really not sure. I never knew people did that much before having a daughter who watches Say Yes To The Dress.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    I am not just talking about overweight women, but women who may be normal weight, following the Kate Middleton trend of an already thin or normal size woman getting even thinner to get into a tiny size dress. When I got married, I was 5'2" and 110 (taller and thinner than I am; now!); now a woman that size would be trying to get down to 90 lbs. for her "special day." I guess I'm also talking long range, since people are spending more on weddings than in the past, and I've often found that the more spent on the wedding, the shorter the duration of the marriage. One wedding of some work colleagues a few years back was at an expensive NYC venue. The marriage lasted a little over a year.

    Wow, you really have a chip on your shoulder about weddings... Jilted?!
  • vball1121
    vball1121 Posts: 36 Member
    For lack of anything better to do I'll continue to be the devil's advocate :) I'd like to think I'm "normal" weight and trying to perfect my body. What better reason to get some abs showing if not for my wedding night? I was the highest weight when my fiance met me actually- and I'd like to think our relationship isn't going to be any different. You're throwing out a lot of broad generalizations so more concrete examples would be nice..

    And with the money thing... maybe a better indicator is a percentage of income? I've been to a few lovely friends weddings of different household incomes and I do think relationships that went into debt or close to it for their wedding struggle. Different people put different emphasis on the wedding, and to some people a $50,000 wedding isn't extravagant based on their household income a long with what their family's may gift them.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member

    Brides wanting to lose weight is not a "trend" as much as wanting to lose weight is a trend.... If brides want to connect on here to make friends in similar stages of their life- why judge? No different then how moms often want to join groups or talk, or people of similar pounds to go.

    I'd say that's true...I can only speak for myself but I don't feel that any one reason is any better/worse than others. And I think it's cool that you have been on a longer term self-improvement kick for fitness and so on. I got married (second time) 1 year ago and I was on this weight loss thing, so I wound up losing about 30 lb between my engagement and elopement, and another 50-ish pounds since the wedding. But for me it was totally unrelated to getting married. And I don't think my reasons are somehow "better" than someone who loses a similar, much-needed amount of weight for a dream dress.

    I think the pressure on brides to lose a lot of weight for the perfect wedding has become a huge trend to the point of seeming silly, though, and I totally admit that I roll my eyes when I see tanks & t-shirts meant for workouts that say "Sweating for the Wedding" or "Buff Bride Boot Camp", I guess that's just me being a bit of a snotty jerk lol. But I feel like that is where the big trend comes in that several women have mentioned in this thread.
  • IHateThinkingOfAUsername
    IHateThinkingOfAUsername Posts: 568 Member
    1) Why shouldn't brides, or anyone, want to lose weight? Why do you want to lose weight? Why can't they want the same reasons? Why can't they want to start their married life with those aspirations? I lost all my weight the first time round because I was turning 30. That is no different. A big life event coming up.

    2) I think the reason brides buy a smaller sized dress is because of the stupid amount of time it takes to order a dress. Here in the UK you're (I was) advised to order it 9 months in advance. Before my 30th birthday I lost nearly 4 stone in 8 months, I went from a 14/16 to a 8/10. Maybe if brides could order a dress a month in advance they wouldn't do this.

    But mostly 3) Who are you to say they shouldn't? You look after you.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Because unfortunately wedding pictures last forever and it's embarrassing to be fat in them. I would know, I don't have any displayed anywhere. For what it's worth, if I still had my wedding dress(es) I would swim in them now.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,740 Member
    I'm an old fogey too, lol. Got married in '91. I didn't diet and my dress was rented, just like my husband's tux was rented. I mean, really...what was I going to do with the dress when I was done with it? I was able to get a much nicer dress at the rental than I would have been able to afford if I'd bought it. I did get my make-up specially done and had a hairdresser to the house to fix that for me, but other than that, I was just me. And, you know what? The pictures look beautiful. All brides look beautiful. In all sizes! It's practically impossible to look bad in a wedding dress, so I can't see the fuss. The glow you carry on that day will overshadow what you're wearing anyway. Repeat after me...all brides are beautiful!

    Love your attitude.
  • malibu927
    malibu927 Posts: 17,562 Member
    Also, is it more common now (than decades ago) to pick out and order your gown months and months in advance? I'm really not sure. I never knew people did that much before having a daughter who watches Say Yes To The Dress.

    It seems to be. Last month when my brother's fiancee picked out her wedding dress, the group next to us was looking at bridesmaid dresses for a wedding that wasn't until NEXT October. It weirded my mom out because so much can happen in that time.

    I don't know...I'm eternally single, so it probably never would have crossed my mind to lose weight before getting married. I'm just doing it for me. But I also don't want the huge celebration and would rather run off to Vegas.
  • JenSD6
    JenSD6 Posts: 454 Member
    Also, is it more common now (than decades ago) to pick out and order your gown months and months in advance? I'm really not sure. I never knew people did that much before having a daughter who watches Say Yes To The Dress.

    It seems to be. Last month when my brother's fiancee picked out her wedding dress, the group next to us was looking at bridesmaid dresses for a wedding that wasn't until NEXT October. It weirded my mom out because so much can happen in that time.

    I don't know...I'm eternally single, so it probably never would have crossed my mind to lose weight before getting married. I'm just doing it for me. But I also don't want the huge celebration and would rather run off to Vegas.

    I ran off and got married on the beach in Cuba, and I still don't regret it all these years later. I just bought a $100 white dress I found at the mall, and my husband bought a nice linen shirt and khakis. All the money we didn't spend on our wedding went into our mortgage payments.

    Sure I'm a little chubby in my pictures and my dress wasn't expensive, but we had a load of fun taking pictures all over the beach and in the ocean.
  • maidentl
    maidentl Posts: 3,203 Member
    Also, is it more common now (than decades ago) to pick out and order your gown months and months in advance? I'm really not sure. I never knew people did that much before having a daughter who watches Say Yes To The Dress.

    I got married 20 years ago and I bought mine months in advance. My reason was because it was "the one" and it was on clearance so it was now or never. It was and still is so ME. And I still love that dress today. :smile:
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    Maybe they want to look better for themselves not just for their man??!

    I don't see a problem
  • blytheandbonnie
    blytheandbonnie Posts: 3,275 Member
    Because unfortunately wedding pictures last forever and it's embarrassing to be fat in them. I would know, I don't have any displayed anywhere. For what it's worth, if I still had my wedding dress(es) I would swim in them now.
    I was fat in my wedding pictures. i better get rid of them, I didn't know I was supposed to be ashamed.
  • tabicatinthehat
    tabicatinthehat Posts: 329 Member
    If you don't take issue with all of the other insanity that comes along with weddings, I can't see taking issue with this.
  • rosebette
    rosebette Posts: 1,660 Member
    I'm an old fogey too, lol. Got married in '91. I didn't diet and my dress was rented, just like my husband's tux was rented. I mean, really...what was I going to do with the dress when I was done with it? I was able to get a much nicer dress at the rental than I would have been able to afford if I'd bought it. I did get my make-up specially done and had a hairdresser to the house to fix that for me, but other than that, I was just me. And, you know what? The pictures look beautiful. All brides look beautiful. In all sizes! It's practically impossible to look bad in a wedding dress, so I can't see the fuss. The glow you carry on that day will overshadow what you're wearing anyway. Repeat after me...all brides are beautiful!

    I agree. I also think most young women are beautiful, whatever their size.

    By the way, I wasn't jilted -- I've been married for over 30 years! Some of your are probably getting ready to write sympathy cards to the poor slob! I guess my comment is that standards have changed, and that all the fuss around weddings has become even more over-hyped and about the "event." rather than what the event means.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    - 30 years ago there were less overweight people
    - those wedding photos last forever
    - it's harder to find pretty dresses in larger sizes (depending on your tastes. i've gone dress shopping with 2 overweight brides to be and they had a doozy of a time finding dresses that had what they were looking for in their size)
  • Lemongrab13
    Lemongrab13 Posts: 206 Member
    My issue with it isn't them wanting to look their best, that's perfectly understandable.
    It's the fact a lot of these weight loss brides seem to want to end their weight loss efforts immediately on the 'big day'.

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