Need to vent. Depressed.

I know what you mean. My husband is a very slight man. He eats like a horse and I'm the one who's over weight. It just doesn't seem fair. :sad:
I also suffer from depression and my moods effect my eating. I'm in a good place mentally though at the moment so I think I'm just gonna go for it and lose this blubber.

SIGH....:flowerforyou:

My husband can eat like a horse and gain absolutely nothing!!!!!!! I met him in mid Sept. 2008 and 2 months later of eating like him, I couldn't fit into my favorite pair of jeans, now 2+ years together I have gained 30 + lbs. and that is with trying sporadicly to eat less and exercise......haha ( he just called me from the road to tell me he bought himself some subway cookies) lol anyway I was going to add the worst part is hearing him gripe that he can't gain weight, he thinks he is too skinny ugh, I could only dream of such problems......and I have late night hunger cravings EVERY single night, so you are not alone!!!!!

You certainly are not alone! Im terrible for snacking at night, nothing better than a bag of crisps and a can of coke when i sit down to watch Eastenders. So i know how you feel, infact i think all us ladies know how you feel.

And as for the male part - its a right pain. My partner also eats what the hell he wants and although has a slight podge never puts on as much as i was.

As the other lady said, you have lost 4lbs so far, you are on the right track so hang in there! Youll do great. X

I can totally relate to what you're saying...I had a really "down" day yesterday myself.

I met my fiance almost 4 years ago, and I was a UK size 8....I started eating like him and within a few months, I was a size 12...then a 14...I've been trying on and off (with exercise and diet) to lose the weight for about a year now, but I never seem to get anywhere...and meanwhile, he sits there eating what he wants, doing no exercise and not gaining any weight!!

I spend all my time hungry now..even when I've just eaten a meal...so you aren't alone.

Like others have said - you're doing really well so far...stick with it, and I'm sure you'll get there and start feeling more positive soon! :flowerforyou:

I met my other half through sport as we were both training for the same triathlon.

He weighs about 76kg at 6'2", and it's all lean mass - you can't pinch an inch. He eats like there's no tomorrow. I am convinced he has hollow legs!! :huh:

But.... having said all that... when I stop making excuses I can see that he puts in many more miles and hours than I do, and he's also a lot faster. Maybe if I put that much effort in I could be as lean as him... hahaha

You are doing awesome! We all have been at a constant gain until we changed our lifestyle. You have lost 4 lbs - great! Another way to look at it, you could have gained 4 lbs in that time like you used to, and be 8 lbs heavier than you are now. Instead you are on your way! The people who can't eat all their calories are fakes. Just eat your healthy foods from the earth. Nuts, berries, fish, veggies, spinach! You will shed shed shed and your skin will glow! Have a nice cup of organic acai berry tea at night, it creates glowing skin, tastes amazing and then head to sleep early. When you want to snack late at night - shut everything down. Have your tea, or a glass of water. Maybe some raw mushrooms and a hand full of nuts and brush your teeth and head straight to bed. The more sleep you get, the more weight you lose, the sharper and healthier your brain is. The less time you have to eat at night too I am 5'9 and was 190 lbs. I am 152.8 right now (hopefully tomorrow 151!) I joined mfp about a month ago to lose the last 15 ( I was 161 when I joined) or so lbs. The calorie counting works. Stay focused, plan out your meals and snacks at the beginning of the day. You can do this. You are going to get your hot *kitten* body back. I am married to a man who is 5 years younger than me and he just lost 22 lbs in 6 week by doing MFP and I lost 8 lbs in that 6 weeks. Don't focus on the comparison. Everyone will go at a different rate and their bodies will looks different. Ignore that or it will be too challenging. You can't help that your body functions different, but you can help what you focus on to change our body. Focus on the healthy new body you are creating for yourself.

When it is late at night. Shut it all down and go to sleep (ignore the time stamp on this lol). You will feel your best when you sleep 8 hours, and you will eat less and weigh less because you are in bed and not eating or even thinking about it. After time, your body won't want to eat as much. It will get used to the amount of food you are eating. Eat your proteins and fibers and fill up on the good stuff. Soon you won't want to snack as much, you will be fulfilled with your smaller portioned healthy choices. Go to trader joes tomorrow and grab some healthy low cal snacks to fill around the house, it will help. Snacks we love, Raw almonds, white mushrooms, raw blueberries, cherries, bakes potato chips (not too many!), peanut butter on rice cakes, celery sticks. Organic everything if you can. Oh, Trader Joes has those great organic apple slices bags. Easy to reseal and grab a few slices when you are urging to snack. Toss all the bad foods. Fill up on the foods from the earth. You can do it! Just think, in 4 weeks you will be 10 lighter. That's 14 lbs lost instead of 14 lbs gained. DO IT.

In the words of the great late Michael jackson: You are not alone.

Hey! don't go picking on men! it isn't easy for us either!
I know how you feel though, seeing other people being able to eat ANYTHING and not gain ANY weight at all, I've had to avoid so much stuff to lose the weight I have so far, it is tough and not always fair!

TiffanyAml's post was awesome (thank you!!), and the only thing I would add is that I know how I WANT to eat (like TiffanyAml!), but I've tried transforming my eating habits overnight, and--for me--this causes a rubber band effect: I end up splurging on something "bad", which just causes me to feel awful about myself & my progress, and I just tumble on down the hill back towards where I was (or worse). I now know that I need to make those changes incrementally, step by step, or they won't stick. An example: The doc just told me to remove these items from my diet: dairy, pineapple, banana, almonds, peanuts, garlic, glutin, eggs, and possibly sugar cane. Overwhelming, right? So I've split it into 3 phases (dairy/pine/banana/almonds/pnuts first, then garlic/glutin/eggs, then sugar cane). I'm starting stage 2 and it feels really good--like I've accomplished something, and I've had time to realize how great the changes make me feel. Be patient with yourself